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My position is that it's a snack and husband tax must be paid. My wife is arguing that it's a meal or occupies some third food space and it's entirely hers. Who's right, court of Lemmy?

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[–] [email protected] 69 points 2 days ago (1 children)

dessert is a course of a meal

if consumed outside a meal, its a snack.

its all about context.

[–] Takapapatapaka 20 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Im with you there.

If sweet food is consumed at the end of a dinner/lunch, it's a dessert to me.

If sweet food is consumed on its own, its a snack to me.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I’m gonna blow your fucking mind here, but hear me out: you can also have dessert with breakfast.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

breakfast is the one meal a day you can just only have dessert and get away with it somehow like you don't have an emotional problem

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

I have ice cream for dinner because I'm a fucking adult and can do what I want

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

But can you have a dessert with a snack?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Let me blow your mind again: yes, you can have dessert with anything you like.

[–] spankmonkey 3 points 2 days ago

You can also eat it at the beginning of a meal!

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'll never forget the my second grade teacher, Mrs Tilley, taught us the mnemonic "you only want one desert and two desserts."

Thanks, ma'am. It serves me still.

[–] Okokimup 3 points 2 days ago

I learned that only one S can survive in the desert.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago

It's a course, part of a meal but not a whole meal by itself.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

It’s a secret third thing

[–] helpImTrappedOnline 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Dessert is a meal. Snack is a meal.

Why is this a question, are you guys not having plate fulls of candy, cake and ice cream at 2:30 and 7 everyday?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago

Dessert falls under “rule of fork”.

In that if you try to take any I will stab you with one.

[–] ultranaut 10 points 2 days ago

Its a course served at the end of a meal, typically sweet. If you're eating outside of that context it's a snack or a meal depending on how large it is and your specific eating schedule. I think she is probably right that its hers but also maybe wrong if she won't share a small taste of it with you. Or I would feel wrong not letting my wife at least taste my dessert if she wanted some but I was unwilling to share.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

I agree with others in that it's a course and part of a meal.

But when eaten alone, snacks are snacks or meals according to size. If it's something small that won't even fill a third of your appetite, in my books, that's a snack. And in my books, precisely because of scarcity reasons you have less leveraging power to demand tax on a snack.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

My advice is not let the corporate media divide you on superficial concepts between snacks and meals. Reclaim your freedoms. Feed cats more

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

I was going to ask why it needs to be one or the other.

[–] Lemminary 2 points 2 days ago

No no, it's the globalists, the shadowy cabals, and the mind control by the deep state. We're falling prey, folks! Anyway, buy my dick enhancing pills.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Does this look like a mere mortal snack to you?

This thing has the might to send you to sleep for days.

[–] MothmanDelorian 3 points 1 day ago

That looks pathetic. The cone should be full of ice cream and fudge with whipped cream atop the cone.

[–] Rhynoplaz 5 points 2 days ago

I'm too ashamed to disagree with you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

With one scoop of icecream? Yeah that's a snack.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

There are a few scoops there, they just conceal them in the glass very well.

[–] DragonsInARoom 8 points 2 days ago

It is apart of a larger meal or can be a snack

[–] IMongoose 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Why are snacks shared but meals are not?

[–] spittingimage 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Because when eating a meal she has a fork in her hand and will stab me with it.

[–] TheDoozer 7 points 2 days ago

Then it would seem the fork is the determining factor in this.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

It's neither. It's the last dish of a meal

[–] TootSweet 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

A drug.

Whether it's an important medicine for health and wellbeing or a hard recreational drug can depend greatly on the context.

[–] Death_Equity 6 points 2 days ago

Quantity, exclusivity, and order of consumption are the determining factors.

A piece of candy after a meal is a treat.

Eating an entire chocolate cake and nothing else is a meal.

Eating a handful of candy is a snack, but could be part of a meal if consumed during, or dessert if consumed after a meal.

Eating a slice of cake and a steak, going back and forth, is a meal that has cake as a portion which could be considered dessert and may indicate mental health issues.

Eating a slice of cake after steak and potatoes is dessert.

Partners have no entitlement to one another's food being consumed, unless there is no more of it available after. If food is offered in advance and declined, they have no entitlement to it when the food is later present.

[–] steeznson 5 points 2 days ago

meal component

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

it's both, a smaller tax applies.

[–] lung 4 points 2 days ago

Are salmon technically dogs or cats? You decide!

But to answer the question, I recommend your wife start an IRA to be able to make tax deferred investments

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Depends on nutritional value. Snack if empty calories, meal if reasonably nutritious. Cake? Snack. Fruit salad? Meal.

[–] Lemminary 2 points 2 days ago

I like how preparation is optional in this definition. I could open a few food items, stuff my mouth with shovels of everything and call it a nutritious meal. 🤭

[–] ShittyBeatlesFCPres 2 points 2 days ago

I say snack. The liminal space between dinner and bed can be a digestif or coffee or tiramisu. But it’s not a proper meal.

[–] DragonsInARoom 2 points 2 days ago

Phantom tax

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

If you both have food in front of you at the same time, it's a meal. If only one of you has food, it's a snack