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[–] nycki 34 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Don't believe anything you read on Wikipedia.

[–] portuga 35 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That infuriates me. “Oh but anyone can edit”. Yes, but see for how many seconds your stupid edit will last. It’s the single most rich and accurate encyclopedia humanity has seen, ffs.

[–] Duamerthrax 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Teachers should be using Wikipedia as an opportunity to teach skepticism and following sources. I wouldn't allow Wikipedia to be used as a cited source, but as a starting point for finding other sources on a topic.

[–] AA5B 6 points 1 day ago

Does anyone still say not to trust Wikipedia? They did so in the beginning and it certainly didn’t have to turn out trustworthy so that was good advice for a few years.

Now we see it’s the most trustworthy encyclopedia, and my kids’ teachers qualify it as “an encyclopedia is not an original source “, which is correct and a valuable distinction. They recommend it as a starting point but don’t allow citing it, as is correct.

[–] thawed_caveman 7 points 1 day ago

Circa 2012 my boomer parents had me job hunting in person AND hand-writing the cover letters. It got me two jobs so maybe it wasn't the worst advice, but i would spend every day driving around and penning half a dozen letters for employers that, a lot of the time, weren't even hiring.

Anyway, that (12 years ago) was the last job hunt i've ever done, it's been nothing but networking and freelancing ever since

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

you wont be alone everyone finds a lifelong partner.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Calling that advice is like the opposite of a modern fortune cookie.

[–] MattTheProgrammer 9 points 1 day ago

Don't talk to strangers on the internet

[–] Lightor 59 points 1 day ago

My parents separated when I was really young, roughly 5 yrs old. As I grew up and had visitation with my dad he always drilled into me "women just want a man who can provide for them, in the end they all just want money." Being young and obviously not knowing how crazy my dad was yet, I believed him for a long time.

Turns out when you treat people like they just want you for your money, that's the only kind of people who will put up with you. Kinda self fulfilling. Found a nice lady now, happily married and caring about each other, not just money.

[–] Araithya 66 points 2 days ago (1 children)

“If you love something set it free, if it comes back it’s meant to be.” Nearly cost me the best relationship of my life because I was a dumb, impressionable kid that believed in wise sounding words. If you love something, hold on to it. Work for it. Don’t let it go just to “see if it comes back”.

Same could probably be said for just about any seemingly wise sounding sayings.

[–] Buddahriffic 15 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I think it's more about control than sending what you love away.

"Set it free" means let your love interest choose to stay or leave on their own, don't try to keep them caged.

Depending on what you mean, it's possible that your love you regret letting go of wouldn't have lasted even if you had held it and fought.

Though if you mean you took that saying and thought it meant you needed to push your love away to see if they returned, then yeah, that's not a great strategy.

[–] Araithya 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Yeah, the latter is how it was explained to me. Like, literally break up with the person you love to see if they’ll fight for you to take them back. Or push them away and wait a few years to see if they magically reenter your life or something. Crazy, I think some people believe they live in a hallmark movie

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

I installed a gravitic emitter in my belt that makes it feel like she has to walk uphill to approach me. Let’s see just how much she loves me, and if it’s statistically significant in its difference between how much she loves approaching the cat.

[–] Buddahriffic 4 points 1 day ago

Ah fuck, that's a rough lesson to learn the hard way. Like so obvious in hindsight, but if you needed to learn it, you needed to learn it before you could see that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Could have also meant just not working to maintain it. “Let it go” could (foolishly IMO) mean “stop feeding it”.

[–] Krudler 41 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Effectively ALL of what I was told about what makes a satisfying and successful life. I was told the right thing to do is work hard, go to school, get a good stable job, get married, settle down, have kids, buy a house, own several depreciating assets.

Life is about being happy. Nothing else. Do what makes you happy, because that car, vacation, or other piece of consumer shit won't. Nor will living by scripts somebody else wrote for you.

I had my house paid off at 30 and was traveling 5-6 times a year. High-level in the gaming, lottery and promotions industries. Misery. Now I have a humble life and I paint and craft things and I go dancing. And I'm happy. I could pick up the tools again and make a highly successful Steam game, but I won't. I already proved my point in my career and creative output, and I don't want to anymore.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Bro, won in life, now doing sidequests

[–] Krudler 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I gave everything away and now I live a simple life where I volunteer, work at crisis shelters, do recovery mentorship, housing outreach and other things. I am happy and I do not care about the trappings of the material world anymore. I chased the hologram until I caught it and discovered its true nature.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This reminds me of this meme, I saw one time :

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[–] sirboozebum 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Super curious here.

What game did you make?

[–] Krudler 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I made several hundred games over my 20+ year career. I started making games for the world's first touchscreen internet-enabled kiosks, the Playdium arcade in Toronto, etc. Moved onto online game development as senior dev for GameLoft.com, made the first online pari-mutuel gaming system, introduced online lottery technology to the world's "Big 3" lotto companies. Made the first 3D tennis game. Honestly too much to even discuss as I could go on for hundreds of pages. Most people who are older than 30 have played my games and wouldn't know it.

[–] sirboozebum 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I'm older than 30.

Probably played one of your games.

[–] Krudler 2 points 10 hours ago

It's such a nutty claim for me to make... but I really believe any person on the Web circa 97-2005 and was involved in any kind of Web-based gaming has directly played at least one. Shockwave, Flash, Facebook no difference.

If you played any kind of web- or Internet-enabled, State-run lottery product anywhere in the world between 2010-2015 I would bet my actual life. And since the games I made were all localized for international audiences they were world-wide!

If you've been on a Riverboat Casino in the past 2 decades you've 100% played because I ran the game studio that made the games for a major supplier of riverboat Video Lottery Terminal games.

Holy shit... I never actually stopped and realized how many lives my crappy games touched....

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[–] Rednax 79 points 2 days ago (7 children)

"Fully empty your battery before charging it up again, it increases the lifespan of the battery."

This was true before lithium-ion batteries became the norm. But for lithium-ion batteries, the opposite holds.

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[–] kreskin 28 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (7 children)

"When you first move into a house dont make any improvements for at least 6 months."

I now see that its Terrible advice.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 day ago

Haha, no.

When you first move in you see all the flaws that the previous owners got used to living with. Fix them while you're still motivated to.

[–] Subtracty 21 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Don't make any improvements is a crazy proposition. But I agree with living in the place 6 months before doing anything drastic unless it is obvious. I live in a very old house. It took us a while to see the reasoning behind some of the features in our house. We were tempted to scrap anything that wasn't typical in new constructions, but that would have been a waste of money.

I was happy saving up for a few months and observing the house to see where my money was best spent.

[–] I_Has_A_Hat 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I would argue that, rather than 6 months, you should really wait until after you've spent a winter in it. Lots of things that might seem odd during warmer months suddenly make sense when everything is cold, icy, and freezing.

[–] Subtracty 3 points 1 day ago

Exactly this! We did not understand how our house operated as a system until we experienced it in both the freezing cold and humid summer. Most modern homes were designed to circulate air efficiently, but with a 250 year old home, things work differently.

For example, the wood burning stove was put in that place for a reason, and although it might complicate the couch/tv placement, the benefits of a properly placed heat source outweigh the feng shui of the room.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

This is very true on codebases as well. There’s always this instinct to underestimate the value of what’s already been built.

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[–] [email protected] 118 points 2 days ago (1 children)

If you're a quiet dedicated employee your value will be recognized and rewarded.

[–] Usernameblankface 38 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Yeah, that doesn't work well anymore. Gotta be a noisy dedicated worker, and be willing to move jobs a few times to start seeing the rewards

[–] kreskin 13 points 2 days ago

rewards mostly come from job hopping. Raises at every place I've worked arent callibrated to inflation, so your 4% raise that the boss thinks is so great is closer to 0-1%/

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[–] mlg 27 points 2 days ago (2 children)

You can always find it cheaper on Ebay.

This is actually somewhat true again now that Amazon has gone full monopoly abuse, but for a while Ebay was nothing but 1:1 with Amazon sellers and a serious lack of auctions.

Although you can go much lower with Ali Express and Temu, albeit with risk invovled.

[–] thawed_caveman 2 points 1 day ago

I thought eBay in this context meant second hand? Because here's the thing: i think second hand means you save a lot of money but you get less choice and less convenience; but platforms are getting good now so both of these factors are mitigated.

Anyway, eBay being 1:1 with Amazon is good enough for me, and i agree that AliExpress in particular is now better than Amazon in terms of price and choice. I don't even know how risky it really is, they can refun orders right?

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[–] 2ugly2live 94 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Working hard will get you far.

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[–] weeeeum 191 points 3 days ago (31 children)

My grandpa told me "always call your boss sir, and respond "yes sir", youll be promoted real quick."

First day at my first job my boss tells me "by the way you don't need to call me sir, just Brian"

Its actually insane that the world that boomers lived in was that simple.

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