Ask Lemmy

Honestly, spend time with my family and pets. Enjoy nature. Have a big party with my favorite people where I tell them how they've made my life so wonderful.

I wouldn't spend much because my wife would need something to live on. I'd spend it with family and just hang out.

Quit my job on the spot and do fuck all

instantly feel the tension in my body release. completely relax like i've never relaxed before. watch all the films i still want to. probably be sad for most of it though

Ooh, I actually know the answer to this! I had cancer a couple years ago, and it got really dicey for a bit. While my story has a good ending and I am now effectively cancer-free, I had to look the potential of death clear in the face and start making some concrete plans.

My answer is unequivocal - I would prepare my family for my untimely demise. My wife and I got together when we were young enough that we entered adulthood together and grew that way. There is no me and her - there is only us. This is not some creepy codependency thing. We just became adults whose emotional and mental shapes are highly complimentary. That happens when you are with someone longer than you were not. We also have kids for whom I am the primary caretaker and stay-at-home dad while she works. Both boys are autistic though you might not notice it, and I am their primary coregulator. My family needs me in ways that are not universally true across families.

Most of my plan can be summarized as follows:

• Prepare my wife for life without me. Ensure she has the basic skills that I have taken over in our lives. Impress upon her the notion that while she has been the love of my life, I sincerely hope I am but one of hers.
• Spend as much time with my kids as possible. Cement myself in their memories. Record messages and fatherly advice in writing and/or video for every major life event I can think of.
• Set up therapy and support services for my family once I die.
• Get my friends and family on board for specific forms of help as time goes on. People who want to help do nothing when they do not know what to do. They are more likely to follow through when told, "I know Jimmy really looks up to you. After I die, please take him out for some bonding time at least once a month. He is going to be lost without me, and Wife cannot be a masculine role model like I was."
• Plan my funeral and write my obituary. Make it clear that any of this can be changed.
• Basically, do anything I can to prepare my family for life without me.

I know this is not terribly exciting, but it found that what I feared far more than death was the fate of my family without me there to care for them.

Other than sell all my investments and live like a wealthy person for 6 months I probably wouldn't do much differently. Maybe try some hard drugs and gay sex.

probably weep that I'll never get to experience a loving relationship for like two weeks, followed by five and a half months of laying in bed waiting to die after realizing I wasn't gonna experience one anyways.

fly to america and piss on ronald reagan's grave.

it's 1 of my 3 bucket list items and i've already done the other 2

a lot of drinking drugs and videogames i guess

Maybe a cruise with my wife too or something she would enjoy.

Overseas trip. Not my thing but my wife would enjoy the bitter sweet memories guess.

Rehome my pets to make sure my bonded animals stay together and everyone goes to someplace that will love them :(

I would quit my job, sell my house, cash out everything I could and move to southeast Asia to live like a hedonist. Hookers and blow, perhaps literally.

Release my superannuation (a government mandated retirement fund) and move to Buenos Aires with those I love.

• write a will

• settle debts

• quit my job to spend more time with my kids

• write my memoirs

• record hours of video of me telling stories for my kids to have after I'm gone

• write down all my accounts passwords for my wife

• prepay for twenty years of webhosting and domain registration

• plan my own funeral

• dance every weekend (though at my currently level of fitness, maybe this would be a feat)

• definitely spend a lot more time in church

Make sure all my assets will be turned over to my wife without issues. Then set aside some money to take a vacation with her until the end.

Not work

Given the information disparity between me and insurers, probably take out a life insurance policy.

Put up all my game dev related stuff on GitHub and make any applicable account passwords accessible to someone who might know what to do with it.

Assume that you only have the resources and money that you’ve acquired up to this point in your life

I've got nothing.

and you still have to pay rent, bills etc.

I've got less than nothing

I am still studying, and now there would be no point. So I'll just make it shorter. Nitrogen asphyxiation seems promising if done right.

So I.... Kinda fantasize about this like daily.

I think I'd be incredibly happy/relieved to know I can die without hurting my family too much as it wasnt by my own hand. At the moment I'm trapped here and I don't exactly want to be.

Record 40 years of birthday messages.

Not enroll in any classes, that's for sure. Keep working so my family isn't any worse off than they need to be. Try to arrange that my wife and stepson will be able to stay at the house I grew up in (since they wouldn't be able to afford to keep our house). Let my friend who likes Magic have first dibs on my cards, then sell the rest. Try to fix up our house so my wife loses less money when she moves out. Try to fix up the house they'd be moving into, so it's less depressing.

Quit my job and blow my savings traveling and visiting my friends and family. Probably chill for the last couple weeks.

Probably work overtime to make sure the next quarter's numbers go up - because nothing is as important as the economy!

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Go to Bali and chill it for the remainder of my time.

It's a gorgeous place, once you leave the touristy bits behind. And my savings could easily cover 20 years as it stands.

I would put the entire world on ignore and have adventures until I croak, but the awesome thing is, I'm pretty much already doing that and I have many, many years to live.

Get my shit together to make sure my partner and my mom are okay. If I have to keep working as a condition of my partner getting my retirement savings and health insurance, that’s fine.

Other than that I don’t know. Travel? I wouldn’t want to spend too frivolously if it means my SO would lose out on something.

Quit my job and travel.

Well, I'm not exactly super rich from med bills right now, but being physically well enough to do normal stuff would be a pretty bittersweet miracle. I'd take it in stride.

I have a few loved ones who are pretty well off who would probably want to go on a few vacations with me, and I'd probably go do some cool stuff with some fandoms (I'm not even that into Xena but I want to go to a Xena event some time because that's real fandom goals IMO) to celebrate nice people who exist and raise awareness of whatever's killing me.

If I were dying, love to do something dumb like ask the world for enough stickers to cover an entire car with pokemon or ponies or dragons or something.

You would remember some obscure disease if it were the Dragon Sticker car, right?

I'd get started on all those "100 Things You Must ______ Before You Die" lists. I mean, I'd like to spend time with loved ones and prepare for the end, but they're mandatory, apparently.

Coke and orgies