I would not mention as much of my personal life as I did.
People are going to make decisions based on more than just merit.
It might not be fair, done consciously, or with malice, but it happens.
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I was going to write very much the same thing.
I've given too much information about my health, and now it gets used against me.
Your employer, managers, supervisors; they're not you're friends. You can and should remain friendly to an extent, but be careful what information you give away.
I like that.... "Remain friendly, but remember they're not your friends".
Yep, the only thing I've let slip is that I volunteer at a non profit.
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Demand my wfh arrangement be in writing, rather than just a "gentleman's agreement"
It's like a corporate prenup.
I would do it all over again but I would do the bare minimum. I would do what my job duties entailed in my contract and never give any extra.
Its a bad deal doing extra at an employer expecting a raise or job security. You do the extra to learn the newer/better skill, gain the experience, then take those new skills to a new employer who will pay you more for having it. This is how you move up the ladder in the 21st century.
It's so sad but this is completely true.
Anywhere that I've learned a new skill in hopes of getting a promotion, the response has either been "why did you waste time learning that? That's not your job." or more commonly "great initiative! Now we can add that work to your workload without having to pay you a cent more! This is great management because we can have one employee do the job of 1.5, and we didn't even have to pay to train them! Thanks for that and here's your extra work! Deadlines and expectations remain the same on your old work of course."
In a few cases, once that inevitably led to job change, they had the gall to try and shame me with a line like, "You know, that's a skill you learned under this roof, to do work for this company. While we are professionals here, if we weren't, this might feel like a betrayal..."
Absolutely this. Sadly these days hard work is very rarely rewarded!
I wouldn't make it obvious who my work besties are.
- It's assumed that you'll gossip with that person, so you won't get any info that they can't hear.
- If they're more than 1 level junior to you, it will take longer to get promotions and raises since you'll be "junior" by association.
- If they're the same level and in your team (and they're a poor performer), you won't get promoted because it's assumed you'll play favorites as their boss.
Sucks. Some of them were not professional and it impacted my optics. I need to pick better friends and set healthier boundaries.
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Letting it bleed so much into life. My job and my hobby (code) have significant overlap. Stuff I learned on the job started making hobby coding not fun and shortcomings at the job started to feel like my own personal failures. I am slowly learning to separate my work and personal identities, to understand that my employer's stuff is not my own, and to leave work at work when work ends. I wish I had done that from the first day though.
Seeing as I'm self employed, not much. Or maybe everything - could go either way.
I hadn't considered that perspective!
What's an example of something you'd change?
I wouldn't have befriended my one coworker so I wouldn't be so upset when they left
Just because they left doesn't mean you can't still be friends!
I would have refused to participate in that Foosball tournament that a coworker begged me to be in because he needed an even number for teams.
A disaster, seriously.
last time we had a foosball tournament, I was made to play on my own against teams of two.
I think it helped me not being slowed down by someone less capable. I won against the other 4 teams on my own.
I don't think they will make me play on my own again lol
I would try to believe in myself as much as my employer believed in me. My imposture syndrome for the first couple years was absolutely rank.
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Quit 10 years sooner.
Stop acting like I'm worthless with low self-esteem. I don't know why I present myself that way. I'm a valuable competent skilled employee who passes background checks squeaky clean. Someone smack me and tell me to present myself as I deserve.
I even declined the hiring bonus because I felt unworthy of it although I meet all the criteria for it 🤦♀️ But really what I did was tell my managers that I'd rather be given the hiring bonus after I've been there a year because I've heard that some companies have a stipulation in the contract of hiring bonuses that should anything happen within the first year of my employment that causes me to stop working there, I would have to repay the bonus, so I kept it in mind that if I ever got a job that promised a hiring bonus, I would discuss it with the manager to have the bonus given to me at the end of a year. well I told my managers this and they told me I would have to talk to a higher up manager about it and they told me her name but I forgot, and they didn't even look me in the eye when they said this and I just kind of never followed up on it.
Instead of hearing about the bonus maybe being pulled back.. just read the contract?
And even if you would have to give it back.. just park it until its free to use (assuming you dont actually need it)
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You’re starting now (not going back to the past).
This makes it a bit more difficult since I designed most of the architecture at my work. It would take a lot of work to be taken seriously again and not have my opinion being discarded because I'm the newcomer.
I would have to prove myself all over again though, not something I'd look forward to.
In that case, if you could keep your reputation would that change your answer?
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I wouldn’t take the job.
People that hired me are not the people running the joint now. And the current people are pretty terrible.
Similar situation for me, as well. My company's taken a turn that's very successful for the C-suites, but more and more stressful for the rest of us and I'm becoming majorly burnt out.
Same here, the manager hiring me left before my employment started. I was a contractor that joined, so I already knew most of the team. Alas, management destroyed the fun in the job. Way to much work, no new knowledged colleagues but we got a truckload of managers to work agile.
Is it possible to have two cell numbers on one phone?
I'd give out my burner number if anyone outside of HR asked for my contact info.
Google voice has been around for like 15 years. It's your perm number, that your direct calls to your real number as you like/don't like.
Personally I give out work number that is semi permanent and fam/friends get GV #. I use one message app for work # and one for GV. Allows me to pay attention/prioritize during work/personal time.
Been doing this for more than 12 years. 8 employers, no worries.
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Yep, dual sim is a thing. However, my employer wants full control of the phone so they provided an iPhone. (I'm an Android user) The biggest pro of 2 phones is that you can silence the work phone outside work hours.
With my 1st temp job ('99) I told my boss that the best feature on the work phone the power button was. The moment I left the building it would be turned off. Alas, those modern phones have a complete sequence to go trough to get them off, so I now use the automated do not desturb. Alas, iPhone has only times you can set daily, instead weekday dependent times. Between 18:00 and 7:00 the thing is quiet, no exceptions.
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Yes. Most modern phones are dual-sim. New Google Pixels, new iPhones, All Xiaomis afaik.
You can give them phone number A and then completely disable that sim out of work hours.
Edit: also you can have "virtual" phone numbers that you just use inside an app on your phone, but they don't do as much as a normal mobile number so I personally wouldn't take my chances.
Interesting!!
Do you know if it would it be cheaper to have a second SIM card or a virtual phone number?
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Yes. Dual sim phones are a thing.
Although, I would give the same number to all work related matters to keep the other one personal.
Or not give it out at all. If your workplace requires you to be contacted via mobile or to access work email/apps etc, they should provide it.
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Well I started last week... so.... everything I guess
I'd do a much better job of writing a certain web app so that I don't need to spend the next seven+ years maintaining a pile of shitty PHP and copy-pasted JQuery.
Get a different job.
I wouldn't start with this company if I was starting today.
This is a very different place than it was when I started.
I wouldn't have burned that day off last week, it didn't even snow 🙄
Try my best to rearrange someone else's code if it's too hard to read
Saintly work.
I haven't coded in years but I recall that reading someone else's code was like getting a glimpse of what their closets and cupboards probably looked like.
more anal shoots
I got put in a project that people overpromised and I'm getting shafted by the fact that the client wants way more than I think they're paying for, so it's certainly running late. I'd ask a couple months in for a bit more help.
Quit
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