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[–] BrotherL0v3 49 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Because, goddammit, a better world is possible! A lot of the time shit sucks and everything is expensive and I wanna just go to bed and never wake up.

But most of my problems are problems millions or even billions of other people struggle with, and those don't get solved by opting out of life.

What's more, those problems are man-made. They're the result of systems designed by mortal men just like me.

So, I stay alive. Because the only way to out-vote, out-number, overpower, and / or annihilate those bastards is to be alive.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Damn right.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 year ago

Fear. I know it gets worse if I stop.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 year ago
[–] Witchfire 25 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] KpntAutismus 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

i saw a picture with a bird and "i live to spite god". this has been my prime motivator.

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[–] morphballganon 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The promise of mexican food.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly I don't know, I give up on life time ago, then this last year I start "living" again by having a daily activies and job. But I deal with this like someone dead inside, I don't feel any joy. I am not even looking for a goal. I see nothing in other people, I interact with then know that i get forget as soon the day end. I am just too scared to kill myself.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Have you considered you may be depressed?

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[–] RisingSwell 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

In my country it's a process. You book it. My uncle did and left us on a Tuesday at 5pm exactly, surrounded by family.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

I just keep waking up and it keeps working

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It feels nice to bike and feel the wind in your hair and huddle into your jacket keeping you warm. I also actively take breaks from playing video games to sit and feel intense gratitude and happiness toward the game. And oranges are absolutely delicious, and singing loud makes me feel alive.

I also like finding flowers in springtime (and putting them into my journal) and seeing/hearing great big flocks of crows in the autumn. Those are seasonal though, not a daily pleasure that keeps me going no matter what.

[–] neomachino 16 points 1 year ago

It used to be various substances but now it's making sure my kid has all the happiness and love that I wish I had growing up and the smile on my wife's face when she sees how happy I've become

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Debt to family members. If I pay them off, I'll have a reason to keep living. If i decide to run or kill myself, then I'll just be "a coward" and "selfish".

But I've had bad luck my whole life. I hope I'll be able to pay them off one day, but the idea of suicide has been crossing my mind daily. I've been unemployed since covid except for 1 job which lasted a month, and another job this December which may only last a month.

I am out of money. I just graduated university with a Bachelors Degree, and unlike most of my colleagues, I've been unable to get a job in the industry.

My school loans are coming to collect in January. My whole family is poor. I'm the realistic example of a poor person graduating with a degree. I'm stuck poor, and I will probably die poor.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago
[–] DrSleepless 12 points 1 year ago
[–] TheBananaKing 12 points 1 year ago

Not wanting to be homeless.

[–] WhiteHawk 11 points 1 year ago

Well, this thread is fucking depressing

[–] Globulart 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Wife, kids, the next holiday, the next treat, dinner, the thought of telling my boss to fuck off when I find a new job.

Is it me or is lemmy more depressing than reddit was? This is a BLEAK thread....

[–] HollandJim 7 points 1 year ago

We live in an age where negative sarcasm is considered fashion.

Frankly, I’m not far off your post: Wife, job… but I met my wife in my mid-50s, expecting to be Bachelor Uncle forever. No kids, so no one to take care of us in extreme age but I love and appreciate my wife beyond words, and now I’m 4 years from retiring to her homeland. Admittedly, it’ll be Bali, but dammit - another language to learn, moving to another part of the world, new everything to get through as an immigrant - so challenges… but also new adventures.

You got to keep moving, keep trying to be positive. On on the end-run of life, and if you’re not trying to make our short time here positive, then you’re going to regret everything along the way, so hang in there!

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[–] aviationeast 11 points 1 year ago

Burning depression into rage.

[–] MargotRobbie 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The hope that I can set people free from the cynicism at the world, and help them be sincere again, like the way we used to be.

There is no set ending for your story, try your best to make the world better when you can.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure. Living feels uncomfortable but the thought of dying and all the suffering it would cause is even more uncomfortable. I'm not sure I want to be here but if I wasn't, my family would be far, far worse off and that makes me feel bad.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There are a lot of terrible people doing terrible things to humanity and the planet, and I'll be damned if I let those fucking ghouls outlive me.

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[–] Shinzid 9 points 1 year ago

Progress.

If I'm improving in any way shape or form then I'm a step out of the dark. This can be from anything like going to the gym, improving on my hobbies, or even learning something new.

[–] cashews_best_nut 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Lack of motivation to end it. I last tried in July/Aug and ended up in hospital for 5 days.

I just need a nudge towards trying again.

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[–] theherk 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

A lot of bummer answers here and they are many feelings I have had, but now I am old, and I look at it like this. I once didn’t exist. One day, I will again not exist and I’ll never exist again. In the meantime, I get a very brief glimpse to open my eyes and see the universe. In it is a lot of things. Among them love, mac and cheese, peanut butter, sex, and dancing. A hearty laugh and a warm hug is worth all the pain it comes with.

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[–] Usernameblankface 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Because I have many things I want to build, or attempt to build.

After living most of my life believing I had no mechanical skills, and all the things I wanted to help build were just pipe dreams and impossible for me but possible for others, I've finally learned that I have meaningful skills that can solve real mechanical problems.

I'm too cynical to think I can solve the world's problems for the masses, but maybe I can increase the output of a machine by 5% without causing it to break too often. Or maybe I can get a product made at the same rate but with less waste.

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[–] ChihuahuaOfDoom 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

If I die by my own hand I know it will mess my family up but that's literally it. I hate my life.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Oxygen, water and food.

[–] KpntAutismus 8 points 1 year ago
  1. we're at a tipping point in society right now. i wanna see where this goes. it might even get better.

  2. my main problem is money right now. my apprenticeship will be over in 2 Years, and i will get a hefty salary and a guaranteed job.

[–] PP_BOY_ 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] EdibleFriend 6 points 1 year ago

Imma take em

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Your mom /s

[–] thorbot 7 points 1 year ago

Not existing would be worse than existing, at least for now. And when it all ends, at least I got my rocks off a whole bunch of times first

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I don't know anymore.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Oats, caffeine and misplaced optimism.

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[–] lyam23 6 points 1 year ago

I figured out how to feel better. It's what we've been told all along but didn't want to hear. From the outside it looks like a prescription for a miserable, dull, joyless life. In reality it opens up the possibility of feeling good, happy, and free.

[–] Lightsong 6 points 1 year ago

Video games, beers and blows.

[–] Seasm0ke 6 points 1 year ago

Becoming a better person.

Learning new things.

Trying new foods and or eating chocolate and drinking coffee.

Sex.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Lack of commitment, follow through, cowardice preventing me from doing what I really want to do.

Which means, I don't have that out. I can curl inward, f*ck everything, I'm done, and everything gets worse and worse. Not sustainable.

If I'm stuck here, no way out, I suppose only way left is to try to figure out how to get out of this dark space. It doesn't have to be fixed all at once. Just do one small good thing for yourself. Give yourself time to heal, recover. Take it slow. The only way things can change is by actions. Take a shower. Go to goodwill, spend $ on clothes that isn't sweatpants and tattered t-shirts. ..

If I keep at this, one small step at a time, I'm laying in a solid foundation, preparing for that point in future where I'll be able to go back to that goodwill, ask if they're hiring. Sure, not the cushy $75k job you had b4 becoming homeless. It's better than staying on SSI, trapped below poverty level in overcrowded slums.

Only way to move forward is to keep trying.

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