Look at the weather, your whole damn country is getting raided by ice.
TheBananaKing
he wants to play xbox so bad
Whining about downvotes gets you an automatic downvote.
Asking how to evade a ban is asshole behaviour and gets you a downvote.
Expecting people to give a shit about reddit gets you a downvote
Dragging your reddit grievances in here and expecting people to take your side gets you a downvote
Nobody cares about forum drama on another fucking platform, especially one they joined lemmy to get away from.
Pretty much all kinks work the same way, and only differ in their mode of expression.
Think rollercoasters, think extreme sports, think lighting cigars with a $100 bill.
You can't even get out of bed without your nagging, nannying hindbrain chaperoning you everywhere you go. Don't do that, it might hurt. Don't do that, it's not safe. Don't do that, you won't be in control. Don't do that, you won't be in charge. Don't do that, you might lose prestige. Don't do that, you'll go without.
Some people get a kick out of telling it to go fuck itself, and deliberately doing all the bad and scary things just to troll it into a conniption so they can laugh at it.
And in doing so, they also gain this huge dumbo's-magic-feather rush, realising they never needed all those safeguards; the essential security and confidence is something that comes from within. And so rather than feeling oppressed by it, it becomes something they can revel in.
And when you mix up any strong sensation or emotion with sex, both things are going to amplify each other.
I stand by my assertion that personal discretion is the only approach that can't be gamed.
Trust the mods with the banhammer, and if they do a bad job, replace them outright.
This still leaves you vulnerable to shitty admins, but you would be in any case.
There's basically three problems:
1: Tyrannical powermods can make shitty communities.
2: Trolls and bad actors and generally-sociopathic cunts can be toxic and disruptive by sealioning, rules-lawyering and 'just asking questions' (aka JAQing off)
3: There's no fixed set of rules that reliably walks a middle path between the two.
If you have no control over how mods mod, you can end up with nasty little tetanus-wound shitholes - imagine ferinstance if corpo shills took over all the news and politics subs, and banned anyone critical of Elon Musk or Israel.
If you don't let mods mod, then for instance every support / activism community would be under constant siege from concern trolls and smug bigots with a new little talking point they want to 'debate' every single damn day, and we don't need any more trans kids driven to suicide please and thankyou.
The admins decided that the former was worse than the latter, and said no, you can't just kick out troublemakers so long as they use pretty language instead of hurling abuse; you have to humour them and allow some of their shit.
see also: the Nazi bar problem
This was a terrible and shitty approach to take, and I am (provisionally) glad it's been suspended pending further review.
Though in this age of enshittification, I have little confidence that the next iteration won't actually be worse.
I would have kicked ass at emergency medicine.
Unfortunately, the first lull that came along, I'd fuck up and people would die.
It isn't fun.
Yeah, all the stereotypes of the wacky ADHD guy squirrel lol, but it's not like that on the inside.
We are lost in the goddamn fog, chasing phantoms and mirages that disappear when you look at them too long. We are constantly running to catch up and flailing for context. What looks capricious and funny is mostly just desperation. We aren't bursting with unlimited energy, it's as exhausting as it looks. Taking five attempts to actually get a task done because you just forget halfway through. Forgetting where you put the thing, every time. Feeling your working memory slip away like waking from a dream. Fucking up all the time, then having to work twice as hard to fix it, and feeling like shit because you can't get anything right.
It gets old, man.
I actually got a locator beacon recently.
I can't really justify the cost of a two-way one given how rarely I go anywhere properly remote, but the little one-button boxes make for huge peace of mind. And honestly if I get bitten I'd likley be just as fucked with or without a conversation :D
About a decade ago, I fell and broke my ankle while out running.
It was only by sheer chance that this happened around a bunch of people, and I was able to get help immediately. If I'd been out somewhere else or at a different time, I would have been absolutely fucked.
Since that day, I never leave the house without my phone, ever.
(if I'm hiking somewhere out of range, then I map out my route and ensure that someone else knows where I'll be)
Inglourious Basterds is pretty good