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[–] MikeOToxin 21 points 5 months ago

I just wanna play an in-person campaign of DnD with like... 4 or 5 other people, and a good DM.

That's all the adventure I need. But no friends and a strange work schedule tell me I won't get it.

[–] BlowMe 20 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I would like to have a girlfriend and maybe a family.

[–] Rednax 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] BlowMe 2 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Trust me is something that is not going to happen to me. Might as well put it as a dream

[–] Num10ck 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

imagine how you would better yourself if you were in a loving nurturing relationship. then start bettering yourself that way now, and your efforts will start to be noticed. people on the upswing are pursued.

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[–] JayObey711 4 points 5 months ago

But how do you know? You should recognise that your view of the world is based on your internal beliefs and not factual information. Defeatism isn't going to get you there.

[–] robocall 2 points 5 months ago

Username relevant?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Sailing around the world on a sailboat.

[–] robocall 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

It would have been odd if you sailed around the world in a bus.

[–] AnUnusualRelic 4 points 5 months ago

Otoh, it would have qualified as a proper crazy adventure.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Same! I looked into it myself, and it's nearly impossible to pull off. Since I have no experience sailing, it would take me at least 2 yrs of training. I'd have to start off by volunteering as a hand on someone else's sailboat. I'd also have to get a dingy to practice on.

Eventually, I'd need to find a reliable person that would also like to try this adventure out, is dedicated enough to develop the skills necessary, has the financial means to pull it off, and isn't tied down by other responsibilities (eg house, family, etc.). We'd also need to get along extraordinarily well since we'll be together for ~2 yrs in a small space and deciding where to go and what to do jointly.

Then, we'd need to drop ~$80k on a sailboat and another ~$20k on renovating it. Once that's completed, we'd have to take a few shorter trips to test it out, such as sailing around the Caribbean.

Lastly, once underway, things could still get pretty bad. Mechanical issues aside, we'd have to worry about safety out in the open ocean. There could be violent assailants or storms. There could also be political unrest of unwelcoming area where we dock and resupply.

Basically, this adventure is really difficult to pull off because it's not just sailing and living on a boat. There's a lot more to consider.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

It’s easier than you think! You can get your basic keelboat certification in about a month at a training place. Usually only takes four weekends. Once you have that under your belt, you’ll be able to rent at places and get some experience. The fundamentals of sailing don’t change, though with a bigger boat you will need to exercise some caution.

You can do it!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for the encouragement! I keep an eye out for opportunities and let people know I'm interested in case something shows up ⛵

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Sailing is a liberating and exhilarating experience. I love it very much, and I’m sure you will too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Look up Wilfried Erdmann, he was a famous single sailor who has circled the world a couple times. He has books on the matter where he speaks about the experience as well as the preparation and what kind of yacht he used. Very well written and interesting if you're into that topic.

It shows that you can do it alone easily enough and that you don't need some crazy high end yacht.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago (2 children)

This isn't the most glamorous or exciting thing, but I want to go to a furry convention sometime.

... I'm really typecasting myself here on Lemmy, aren't I?

[–] robocall 5 points 5 months ago (3 children)

What's a furry convention?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Basically, "furries" are animal people like in Disney's Robin Hood and Zootopia, and the fans of those creatures. There's some sfw art at [email protected] if you want to see. Humans in media are boring. :P

Personally, I've seen it to be a very open, accepting and welcoming community. So I guess I romanticise being with a group of like minded people, which is something I've felt lacking in my life.

... Annoyingly, due to its history as an lgbt-friendly splinter group, it's who a lot of the bigots started targeting when it became socially unacceptable to be honophobic online. Grumble grumble.

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[–] TootSweet 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Wait, for real?

On the chance that you're serious, this should tell you way more than you'd ever want to know about furries. (And if you aren't sated by the time you're finished reading that article, there's a link to the page "Furry Convention" in the first paragraph.)

[–] robocall 4 points 5 months ago

I knew it had to do with animals, but didn't realize the fursona or expensive costumes. Thanks for the explanation. Seems a little odd, but harmless.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Sexual Aspects

See also: Yiff

[–] TootSweet 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Don't post the Down The Rabbit Hole documentary on Furries. Don't post the Down The Rabbit Hole documentary on Furries. Don't post...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aF2GxWi7Ag

Dammit, I posted it.

(I'm sorry SavvyWolf... For everyone here, that documentary doesn't paint an entirely representative picture of the furry community as a whole.)

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[–] JayObey711 3 points 5 months ago

Sounds like am amazing goal. People on the internet can hate on furries all they want but connecting to like-minded people in the real world is really nice. I hope you get there.

[–] pipe 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I would like to try hang gliding but also don't want to admit this is likely a terrible idea!

[–] cheese_greater 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

What about something safer like base jumping?

[–] pipe 3 points 5 months ago

The squirrel suit will save me!! :D

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)
  • Travel around my country in a camper van
  • go parachute jumping
  • go wingsuit flying
  • hang gliding
  • learn to sail a small boat
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

At least the last point is something you can do relatively cheap at most larger lakes or coastal cities in a weekend course. Sailing isn't that hard.

[–] Etterra 7 points 5 months ago (2 children)
[–] PopcornPrincess 4 points 5 months ago

That’s so crazy that it may be your last adventure….might be worth it though. 🤤

[–] Fredselfish 2 points 5 months ago

Been there done that. What I want is to walk the Santiago Compostela.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Crazy adventures? A happy, lasting, trustful relationship.

[–] JayObey711 3 points 5 months ago

We'll all make it one day.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I want to drive across Europe, Australia, and the Americas (not all in a row).

It would be nice to do Africa and all of Eurasia, but some shit would need to get fixed first.

[–] Delphia 6 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I'm Australian and I want to drive across my country. But with a twist.

I want to grab my best friends, all fly to Perth (Far western Australia) on a friday. We each have $5000 and the weekend to buy a car and prep it for the 3900kms back to sydney.

Do our own stupid little top gear adventure.

[–] brygphilomena 5 points 5 months ago

Yea, but you need a 4th guy in the backup car when the dumb shit you do breaks one. And he can carry the tools to fix most things along the way.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

Mmmyesss...

Sometimes, your genius is almost frightening.

[–] retrospectology 5 points 5 months ago

I've been watching a lot of shiey on youtube and it makes me want to train hop. I went wandering for a few years when I was younger and I miss it sometimes, I hitch hiked all over, but never train hopped and now I'm a bit too tied down I probably won't get the opportunity.

Not a regret exactly, but I do miss the freedom of living out of a bag and just waking up and traveling anywhere you want on a whim with no set dates or requirements other than making sure you have food and water.

[–] robocall 5 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I want to go to a Taco Bell in every country that it's has them. I know Japan, India, New Zealand, and I believe the Dominican Republic have taco bells.

I like taco bell, and traveling. I would enjoy myself. They probably have unique menu items.

[–] AchtungDrempels 2 points 5 months ago

Spain has taco bell too, i have not tried taco bell ever though.

[–] daddy32 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

India has Taco Bell, been in one yesterday! It tastes quite differently.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I wish I knew. I'm not motivated enough about life to fantasize.

[–] daddy32 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

"Play with it while you have hands!"

What I'm trying to say, is: just do it, anything you feel like. Things only get more complicated later in life.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

But I don't feel like anything in particular. If someone were to tell me to "just do it" a trillion different random things have equal potential to come to mind. Should I tour the toothpick factory because that's "a thing to do while alive", as opposed to trying out at the tiddlywinks championship? That's the issue, nothing that I would expect to be able to do draws me.

[–] daddy32 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

That's sounds vaguely like "anhedonia". You can try refreshing your interest in the hobbies you used to like. Joining your friends / relatives in their hobbies. Staying in the nature is always great, as long the nature is not hostile at your place. Staying around people, interacting with them, observing their lives, problems and joys. You'll find something that suits you.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)
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[–] z00s 3 points 5 months ago

I want to fall in love one last time before I die. (Terminal cancer, age 41)

All that other shit is meaningless

[–] BonesOfTheMoon 2 points 5 months ago

I want to go to a ball in Vienna.

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