They're still intimidated by the opposite sex regardless?

Two sides with unrealistically high standards which they themselves don’t meet. Plus they hate the others almost as much as they hate themselves.

I don’t see this working out, guys.

Most incels and femcels do not meet their own standards of beauty, emotionality, and sociality. This is partly why they hate themselves so much and project that hate onto archetypes like Chad and Stacy. A lot of blackpilled incels genuinely believe they are unlovable and will be forever alone — any partner of those people will not be treated well since there's an inherent lack of trust/belief in the relationship.

Not to mention that depressed/self-loathing people dating each other is a really bad idea and results in shitty relationships and emotional turmoil. Sometimes these couples become codependent and then they're together for years even though they dislike each other. It doesn't necessarily help anyone get better, it often makes it harder to work on yourself because of the "crabs in a bucket" mentality.

Incels don’t actually want to solve their problems. They’ve adopted them as an identity and joined a cult.

The incels want vaginas that cook them dinner, and the femcels want girlfriends... well the femcels on here anyhow

Their problems, despite their claims to the contrary, do not stem from other people not liking them. Instead, their problems stem from them not liking other people. If you put a femcel and an incel in a room together, they would just sit at opposite corners silently wishing death upon the other.

The term femcel isn't as universal as incel. Please compare the female dating strategy subreddit to blahaj zones femcel memes community

And to actually answer your question, because many of them don't actually want a partner, they want someone to blame and hate for not having a partner.

Because they are mostly awful hate-filled specimens.

Two people with no game, still means there's no game.

Zero plus zero is still zero.

Because they mostly all have terrible personalities and would find each other totally unbearable just like the rest of us do.

They also generally don't really want to date any sort of actual human that exists in the real world. They want to date a perfect parody of the opposite sex, incels are looking for someone who looks like Barbie (or whatever their idea of a perfect body type is, some go for a the petite almost childlike look after all) who wakes up looking like she just left the salon, who is totally subservient to all of his wants and needs, never speaks up unless it's to stroke his ego, a perfect cook and maid, an oversexed freak in the sheets, who will bear however many children his twisted ego wants to inflict on the world but never gain a pound or show any stretch marks, wrinkles, or grey hair

In short they don't want to date a real person, they want a real doll who does their laundry and squeezes out children.

And they're convinced that these mythical creatures exist out in the real world but that someone is conspiring to keep them from them, because obviously they're the perfect example of masculinity and why wouldn't these perfect females be flocking to them otherwise?

And I'm not certain exactly what sort of fictitious Superman feels are after, but the same overall sentiment applies.

Or else they're just deeply in the closet.

There’s a lot more incels than femcels, and they’re all equally insufferable, toxic, and broken.

The term incel came from a bisexual woman around 20 years ago. I think she started a support group online for it. The problem was that most of the people who wanted help, got it and left. This left... the people who would not be helped and that's what it is. Still the original incel I believe ended up with a woman, it just so happened that she was one.

I guess this is kind of like asking why don't ugly people date eachother - because they don't want to date an ugly person.

I'm not sure but I would guess that there are 'standards' involved. Usually guys who go incel see a physical relationship as some sort of conquest.

They are more interesed in the act than the person. And for that act, they want it to be some sort of achievement so rather than getting to know someone they only go by shallow characteristics.

But usually incels are either physically unattractive or socially (very) awkward or a combination of both, making them unable to complete their conquest. Get rejected enough times and they'll tell themselves the problem lies with women in general.

I dunno about femcels, mostly because I've never seen one irl. I imagine they are also physically unattractive and/or socially awkward so they would never be 'targeted' by incel types.

The guys I knew that fit the profile would also not be too keen on personal hygiene, healthy habits like proper food and drink and exercise and they dismissed pretty much anything mainstream society deems positive. Most of what they say or do comes from a negative place. I can imagine girls don't really go for a guy like that, regardless if they are femcels or not.

Because their problems are nothing to do with not having dates

Then what would they have to complain about?

Possibly they think of themselves as unlovable,are so incompetent in relationships (any, not just a partner/SO)? Or because they just want a slave with a vagina&a silent mouth attached.

When I was younger a friend of mine, for some reason I will never understand, fell for a Incel. They knew each other from Uni. She was/is cute, intelligent, witty, definitely not someone who is unable to find another partner. But wherever loves falls,right. She basically woed him for half a year,was treated shitty (dates ignored, multiple ghosting phases with idiotic reasons like "he didn't like what dress she wore in class",etc). The later confessed that they actually had sex once and it was beyond horrible because he literally told her he did not care for her wellbeing (not pleasure)at all.

After that she thankfully decided to pursue other options. He had a long online rant about how she is a slut for leaving him, etc.

(While our friendship didn't last I know that she is happily married with kids now)

Both are equally intolerable and they don't even want to be around each other.

Just because you are an incel or femcel doesnt mean you dont have unrealistisc expectations about yourself. Sometimes, thats their problem to begin with.

Well ... just like the US economy is kept alive by the constant threat of unemployedness and therefore homelessness, the US society is kept moving by the constant "winning group"/"losing group" divide. If you would heal incels, there would be no "losing group" to look down upon anymore, and the US would have to create a new one, thus perpetuating the problem.

Someone's been watching milliania thinker, good man

When they do, it's generally a super toxic relationship.