Fondots

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[–] Fondots 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Depends a bit on what you want to consider a "weasel"

The weasel family (mustildae) is pretty diverse, we don't necessarily call everything in that family a "weasel" but that distinction is somewhat arbitrary.

It includes all manner of critters from the Least Weasel (yes, that's seriously what someone decided to call the smallest weasel) that can be as small as about 4½" in length and weigh about an ounce or so

Up to Giant Otters that can reach about 5'7" in length or Sea Otters that can weigh about 100lbs

And in between you have some things like badgers and wolverines

[–] Fondots 19 points 1 day ago (7 children)

It's not something I'd generally consider to be one of my kinks, but I remember one time noticing a girl I know has somewhat more prominent than average canine teeth. Not ridiculously exaggerated vampire fangs or anything, definitely within the range of normal variation of the human species, but towards the upper end of that range, just a tiny bit longer and pointier than most.

And that did something for me. Like the primal reptilian part of my brain was saying "yesss, now there's a female you can go and hunt mammoths with"

It surely didn't hurt that she is otherwise very conventionally attractive, but in that moment it wasn't the great tits, ass, pretty face, blue eyes, long blonde hair, etc. that caught my eye, it was those carnivore teeth.

She's also been an on-again/off-again vegetarian as long as I've known her, and has expressed some interest in hunting, so I think her own lizard-brain also seems to have some strong thoughts on the matter.

[–] Fondots 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

And as these things always seem to go, it looks like it was something stupid

Despite plugging and unplugging it about a dozen times last night, and wiggling everything around while poking my multimeter at everything I can reach and scratching my head as to why the fan wasn't blowing when all the numbers look perfectly normal

I just plugged everything back in to give it one last once-over before the new motor arrives in a few hours, and the fan roared to life.

I think I'm chalking this one up to just poor contacts. It wasn't working a couple hours ago when I started fucking with it again today, and it is now and all I've done since then is unplug it and plug it back in a handful of times.

The contacts look to the naked eye about as clean and corrosion-free as any I've ever seen, but I guess they could be worn down a bit (though I can't imagine why they would be) or it's just thermal expansion/contraction doing what it does. If it goes out again I guess I'll swap in the new motor since I'll have it on-hand now, and hopefully that'll solve the contact issue if it comes up again.

Thank you for letting me bounce some thoughts off of you. Didn't really think about checking the resistance on the motor itself, and while that didn't directly reveal the cause of the issue, it is what made me unplug it and plug it back in one last time, so I guess "task failed successfully"

EDIT: Nope. 99% sure it's the blower itself again. Must've shken something loose temporarily while I was messing with it or maybe bringing it inside to look at warmed up some gummed up grease or something for it to move because it just wouldn't work from a cold start but did work again after a gentle tap from a hammer, so definitely a good thing I have the new blower coming

[–] Fondots 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Its got a 2 pin connector going to it, and I got 12v across those pins, so that would indicate a good ground, correct?

I didn't look too closely at it because it was cold (and dark, I get off work at 3am) but it looked like the whole housing for the motor was plastic, so I don't think there would be any way to ground it except through that connector.

I only tested it on high, so not sure if it's varying the voltage on the lower settings, but I do believe they still used a resistor on the 4th gen, or at least all the usual sellers seem to sell something they're calling a blower resistor that they say fits

I also kind of ruled out the resistor as the cause of my problem because from what I could find on various forums and such it seems like when the resistor goes, it tends to just get stuck on one speed instead of not working at all.

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Blower not blowing (self.auto_repair)
submitted 2 days ago by Fondots to c/auto_repair
 

I got in my 2007 4runner (SR5, V6, 4WD for you AutoZone types) to go to work last night and got nothing out of my vents. Made for a chilly commute to work.

I'm not mechanic but I know how to Google a problem and can generally be trusted with a wrench or screwdriver if I know what the problem is, so I narrowed it down to 2 most likely issues- bad blower motor (duh) or a bad relay.

So I came home, tapped on those parts with a tiny hammer (allegedly sometimes that works) and poked at some things with my multimeter.

It looks like I'm getting 12v at the connector to the blower motor, so am I right in thinking that's a pretty sure sign that it's the motor itself that's bad? I'd think that if my problem was the relay I wouldn't be getting anything there.

Just kind of looking for a little sanity-check, already ordered a new blower and it should arrive sometime today (prime same-day shipping is a magical thing sometimes) but should I be steeling myself for a cold drive to AutoZone to pick up a relay?

[–] Fondots 3 points 2 days ago

I was asked to officiate my friend's wedding a few months back, I'm no writer, and I wanted to do a bit better than just a generic wedding ceremony for them

So I fired up chatgpt, told it I needed a script for a wedding ceremony, described some of the things I wanted to mention, some of the things they requested, and it spit out a pretty damn good wedding ceremony. I gave it a little once over and tweaked a little bit of what it gave me but 99% of it was pretty much just straight chatgpt. I got a lot of compliments on it.

I think that's sort of the use case. For those of us who aren't professional writers and public speakers, who have the general idea of what we need to say for a speech or presentation but can't quite string the words together in a polished way.

Here's pretty much what it spit out (Their wedding was in a cave)

Cell Phone Reminder

Officiant: Before we begin, I’d like to kindly remind everyone to silence your phones and put them away for the ceremony. Groom and Bride want this moment to be shared in person, free from distractions, so let's focus on the love and beauty of this moment.

Giving Away the Bride

And before we move forward, we have a special moment. Tradition asks: Who gives this woman to be married to this man?

[Response from Bride's dad]

Thank you.

Greeting

Welcome, everyone. We find ourselves here in this remarkable setting—surrounded by the quiet strength of these ancient walls, a fitting place for Groom and Bride to declare their love. The cave, much like marriage, is carved out over time—through patience, care, and sometimes a little hard work. And yet, what forms is something enduring, something that stands the test of time.

Today, we’re here to witness Groom and Bride join their lives together in marriage. In this moment, we’re reminded that love is not about perfection, but about commitment—choosing one another, day after day, even when things get messy, or difficult, or dark. And through it all, we trust in love to guide us, just as God’s love guides us through life’s journey.

Declaration of Intent

[Officiant turns toward Groom and Bride]

Groom, Bride, you are about to make promises to each other that will last a lifetime. Before we continue, I’ll ask each of you to answer a very important question.

Officiant: Groom, do you take Bride to be your lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live?

Groom: I do.

Officiant: Bride, do you take Groom to be your lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live?

Bride: I do.

Exchange of Vows

Officiant: Now, as a sign of this commitment, Groom and Bride will exchange their vows—promises made not just to each other, but before all of us here and in the sight of God.  

[Groom and Bride share their vows]

Rings

Officiant: The rings you’re about to exchange are a symbol of eternity, a reminder that your love, too, is without end. May these rings be a constant reminder of the vows you have made today, and of the love that surrounds and holds you both.

[Groom and Bride exchange rings]

Officiant: And now, by the power vested in me, and with the blessing of God, I pronounce you husband and wife. Groom you may kiss your bride.

[Groom and Bride kiss]

Officiant: Friends and family, it is my great honor to introduce to you, for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. [Name].

I pretty much just tweaked the formatting, worked in a couple little friendly jabs at the groom, subbed their names in for Bride and Groom, and ad-libbed a little bit where appropriate

[–] Fondots 2 points 3 days ago

I don't think it's really a schwa, at least not the way I say it

A schwa kind of comes from the back of your mouth like you're saying "uhh..."

When I say possible, that last sound feels more like it's the little burst of air from the b sort of fading into the l sound

Then again I'm no linguist so I could be out of my depth trying to really describe the noises I'm making, and I'm not very well-equipped to separate how I talk from more general American English (I'm from Philly, and we have more than our share of little linguistic quirks, after all, we pronounce "water" as "wooder")

[–] Fondots 7 points 3 days ago (3 children)

If we inverted the last letters of "possible" to "possibel," that wouldn't really match how we pronounce it

I'd probably try to read it as something like "possi-bell"

But our actual pronunciation is more along the lines of "possi-bull" not exactly, and I feel like different dialects might maybe lean more towards the last syllable being more like bill, ball, or boll, but I can't really imagine any dialect where the pronunciation would match a "bel" spelling.

It's sort of an unintentional half vowel sound that just happens after making the "b" noise, and not really something we're intentionally trying to put into the word.

Linguists probably have some specific terminology for it, but I'm no linguist.

[–] Fondots 6 points 3 days ago

I'm sure kermit drew some inspiration from Lorne and probably many other people that Jim knew

I kind of think of Kermit as almost a stock character.

I'm sure someone with some sort of Clown College degree (meaning actually professional clowning education, not something goofy and useless like, you know, a Harvard law degree or what-have-you) could probably chime in about how Kermit exhibits some aspects of one or more of the stock Commedia dell'arte characters or something along those lines.

Unfortunately that sort of high-level comedic theory is beyond my education, but I'll do my best

He's the everyman, the straight man, he's you

He's the embodiment of when your friend was supposed to come pick you up a half hour ago and they're nowhere to be found and not answering their phone

Or when you're trying to schedule your next D&D session but 2 people have scheduling conflicts you're trying to work around, one guy ghosts you and you're not sure if he's coming or not, another wants to bring 3 friends and a dog for some reason, and the last one is just blowing up the group chat with his insane homebrew magical gunslinger succubus character idea and their 14 page backstory.

He's you when you're the only one who did their part of the group project and you're fumbling your way through the presentation you cobbled together on your lunch break

He's when your girlfriend is upset with you and you don't know why

Or when you look around and it seems like everyone around you is an idiot, an asshole, or maybe just clinically insane.

And he puts up with it because despite all their flaws and quirks, these are his friends and he wants to spend time with them and help them to achieve their dreams, and they all feel the same about him, and he's not perfect himself, he's got his own weird bag of insecurities and neuroses that he carries around with him. He yells, he loses his patience, he can't always get a word in edgewise, he runs around flailing his arms and screaming like we all want to do sometimes, he gets depressed and thinks that everything is fucked, but with a little help from those crazy assholes he loves he pushes on and usually things work out alright in the end, even if they didn't quite go according to plan.

[–] Fondots 15 points 3 days ago

How many times a day do you personally go pee? Is 4-5 times really that excessive? I think that's probably on the low end of what I normally do. I wouldn't expect my dog to go much less than that, especially since there's often a pretty long stretch when we're at work where she doesn't get to go out.

Walking and taking your dog out to pee is part of what you signed up for when you got a dog, and you need to do that a few times a day.

On top of just the basic biological needs to pee and for exercise, you also need to consider the sort of social aspect of dogs marking their territory. That's part of being a dog.

Honestly at 6 years old he may even start needing to go more. Just like humans can get incontinent with age, so can dogs, and your boy is approaching or already well into middle age depending on his breed. And he's probably pretty set in his ways at this point, he's used to going out 4 or 5 times a day to pee, it's going to be an uphill battle training that out of him. Not impossible, but difficult.

I take my girl out a minimum of 4 times a day, and if the weather's nice and we're not busy it might be 2 or 3 times that many, some of those might just be a quick potty break and not a full walk, but no matter how many times I can pretty much guarantee that every time she goes outside she's going to pee.

I suggest investing in some warm slip-on shoes and a jacket that you keep by the door with his leash, and maybe make your walks longer when you do go out.

[–] Fondots 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yes, but his heightened senses borderline on superpowers

He's also usually considered to be a street-level hero, he's mopping up the gangster and ordinary (by comics standards anyway, around hells kitchen, but usually doesn't go too far beyond that (varying by writer, storyline, etc. of course, nothing is absolutely so in comics)

His villains, overall, tend to be relatively run of the mill gangsters, assassins, etc. just dialed up to 11 because that's what sells comics. Kingpin isn't really out to take over the world, he's just out to run a criminal empire. The hand is mostly similar with some magic thrown in. They're not the biggest existential threats to earth or the marvel universe as a whole, daredevil is mostly just dealing with whatever crimes are threatening his part of New York.

Arguably, he does just as much good with a wider impact as a lawyer given the types of clients and cases he takes on.

[–] Fondots 4 points 6 days ago

I don't think either are particularly exciting and I didn't take pictures, but I'm proud of them.

After years of putting it off, I've finally cobbled together a gaming PC, it's not a powerhouse, most of the parts are about 10+ years old salvaged from my wife's upgrades over the last few years, and I still need to find a keyboard and mouse I like

I don't really have space in my home for a desk, the spare bedroom/office is home to my wife's computer and don't really have room to squeeze in another, so I built it in a HTPC case, and it's pretty damn cool playing on the 70inch TV with surround sound and the hue lights synced up to it

The other is the cabinets above our fridge. We got a new fridge that's a bit bigger than our old one, and there's a bit of a weird bump at the top that prevented the cabinets from swinging open fully.

So I moved the hinges to the top of the doors instead of the side, and added some gas springs so they stay open, they have enough clearance to open that way.

The measurements the springs came with to tell you where to mount them are total bullshit. Took a bit of trial and error to figure that out, but my cabinets now have DeLorean-style gullwing doors.

[–] Fondots 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The general concept of Facebook I think is fine

I don't have any problem with the idea of a website where you can go to share things with your friends, family, coworkers, etc.

For me, the biggest problem is that there's way too many opportunities for you to interact with people you don't have any real connection to.

Unless you have mutual friends, you shouldn't see anything someone else is posting, sharing, liking, or commenting on. The only thing you should see from them is a name, profile picture, and a short bio when you search for them.

There shouldn't be public pages for businesses, celebrities, etc. Everything you see on Facebook should be there because someone you actually know thought that it should be shared with their friends.

And if, for some reason there must be public pages, then you should only see what your friends are commenting on those pages, not complete strangers.

There shouldn't be public groups that just anyone can join. Groups should be limited to people you're actually connected to in some way. Not that you necessarily need to be friends directly, but you should be able to trace a clear line of mutual friends connecting any two people in the group together. There shouldn't be a public "we love bowling" (for example) group that anyone can join, but if you started a bowling league and wanted to start a group for it, you might start with Jeff, Walter, and Donny who all know each other, then Jeff adds his friend Smoky who also wants to join, and then Smoky adds his friend Liam who adds his friend Jesús, etc. Jeff may not be directly friends with Jesús, but they're connected by actual people so they can be in the same group. And Jesús and Jeff wouldn't get to see anything each other do outside of that group because they're not friends and don't even have any immediate mutual friends. Their entire relationship is through the bowling league.

Want to talk to, follow, and share things with strangers? Go join a forum, get on Lemmy/reddit, use Twitter, start a blog, publish a book, send an op ed into the local newspaper, etc. That's what those platforms are for. Facebook is for talking to people you know.

Friendica and other Facebook like platforms don't really solve those problems, but since they're smaller and less businesses and such are on them it kind of feels like they do.

That's my 2¢ on the matter anyway.

 

Also of note-

It's their 80 year anniversary

They've chosen not to raise their rates this year

Rates are 50% off during their "shoulder seasons" in May and September

Still kind of dipping my toes into social nudity, but I made my way there twice last year and had a great time and look forward to going back. Last year I camped out for their beer fest and came up for the day one other weekend.

For those who have strong opinions one way or the other, they do have a pretty active community of swingers, I was asked a few times if I was in "the lifestyle," but it never felt pushy and never made anything weird, and everything out in the open stayed pretty much PG except for the fact that everyone was naked.

I've heard that some of the regulars can get kind of cliquey that wasn't my experience, but I haven't been there enough to really comment on that.

Hopefully I'll see some of you around this year.

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submitted 2 months ago by Fondots to c/goodoffmychest
 

The other day I saw a post somewhere on Lemmy, it seems to have been taken down or at least I'm unable to find it again, by some dickwad asking, pretty clearly it bad faith, why people felt like they needed the day off from work or school after the election. It was full of him bitching about basically people being too soft if they couldn't handle their feelings being hurt and that sort of garbage. This was basically going to be my reply to that.

I work in 911 dispatch, that should tell you that I'm the kind of person who can handle stress well, i've dealt with some crazy shit both at work and in my personal life, I don't think anyone is going to claim I'm someone who's easily rattled.

And still, despite all of the things I've seen, done, heard, and been a part of, I have never felt as physically sick from stress as I did watching the election results coming in Tuesday night.

I was at work, and in the midst of it as it was becoming clear that Trump was going to win, right around 2AM, I got one of those really insane calls, the kind of thing that makes the evening news and that they make true crime TV shows out of, that normally leaves even a hardened tough guy like me a little bit shaken-up, and all I felt was relief because something finally came along to wrench my mind from the election.

I woke up the next day still feeling sick to my stomach. My wife woke up in tears. I spent the day feeling like I was lost in a fog, and by the next day the fog lifted giving way to a simmering rage that I'm not sure will ever go away entirely. Luckily Wednesday and Thursday were my scheduled days off this week, I genuinely don't think I could have worked Wednesday night feeling like I felt.

I'm an old boy scout, I took the scout motto of "be prepared" to heart, I believe that most people don't really rise to the occasion but instead they fall to their level of training, and all the other sayings and such about preparedness and self-reliance and all of that, and I've prepared myself so that I am rarely at a complete loss of what to say or do in any given situation, I have plenty of training and life experience to fall back on.

No one ever trains you how to watch democracy die.

Or how to handle something like ¾ of your country turning their back on your most deeply-held values either by actively voting against them or by not even caring enough to bother showing up to vote.

And nothing prepares you to look around you in a 911 dispatch center, surrounded by people that people are supposed to be able to trust to stand for justice, safety, law, order, security, fairness, equity, compassion, basic human decency, who are supposed to stand up for and provide assistance to vulnerable members of our community when they need it most, who like to pat themselves on the back for being the "calm voice in the night" or the "thin gold line"...

... And realizing that most of them either don't care or are actively rooting for a man who stands for the exact opposite of all of those values.

For the first time I can remember I feel well and truly lost. I tend to be the guy people turn to when they have a problem because I know how to fix it or I at least know how to find someone who can. I don't know how to fix this, and I certainly don't have a guy for this. I'm gonna keep on soldiering on until I figure it out or I guess I'll die trying, but I really don't know what my path forward from here is going to be. And if I need some time to figure this shit out. I certainly won't think less of anyone who needs the same.

And everyone deals with different kinds of stresses differently and more or less successfully than anyone else. Despite the crazy shit I've managed to deal with, there's other more mundane situations that some people can handle just fine that I can't hack. Put me in a regular office environment with reports, paperwork, deadlines and presentations, and I'd probably be burned out in a week. It's like the old saying about trying to judge a fish by its ability to climb trees.

It's ok to not be ok right now, honestly I think anyone who says they're ok right now is either faking it or a psychopath. Don't be afraid to ask for help, if you have it in you, try to check in on others to make sure they're doing ok and getting what they need too. The only way we're getting through this is together.

 

Looking for some inspiration, my wife's out of town this week babysitting he grandmother with dementia, so she's been eating a lot of very bland, old-white-lady-palate-approved meals (her grandmother once described some jarred vodka sauce as being "too spicy")

We're both pretty adventurous eaters and spice-lovers, and I know it's driving her mad by now, so I figured I'd welcome her home in a couple days with a dinner full of all the biggest flavor bombs I can find

Help me light her taste buds on fire, decimated my spice cabinet, and make my toilet tremble in fear of what is to come.

 

The wife and I have been looking for a good excuse to dress to the nines and have a fancy night out

So what do you got for me, Philly? Fancy restaurants, swanky cocktail bars, jazz clubs, the opera, black tie galas, anywhere we're not gonna be "those overdressed weirdos" if we show up in a nice suit and fancy dress.

 
 

I recently got my hands on a very old but still totally serviceable full-sized deli slicer, and my local restaurant depot is very liberal about handing out day passes to anyone who walks in and asks for one, and the savings buying a whole log of meat and slicing it yourself are pretty bonkers, totally worth the pain in the ass that is breaking it down to clean when I'm done.

Of course it's just the wife and I, and 6lbs of Pastrami is a lot for us to go through before it goes bad. So far I've mostly been getting a few friends to chip in and divying up stuff between us or doing a little bartering and trading lunch meat for homemade bread and such, but I'd like to start freezing some to have on-hand.

Anyone have any experience with this to share? I have a vacuum sealer and a deep freezer to work with.

Which meats freeze well, which don't? Is it worth trying to slice it then package and freeze it in smaller portions, or should I freezer larger chunks of meat then thaw and slice it as-needed? Should I just abandon the idea of freezing and stick with the little ad hoc food co-op thing I have going?

Of particular interest to me is homemade roast beef and turkey, I'm never going back to the deli counter for those after I've been making my own (those boneless turkey roasts are amazing for this purpose, even if I'm sure there's a little meat glue involved in them)

Also cheese, I've never really contemplated freezing cheese until I found myself with a 9lb block of Swiss in my fridge. My gut says cheese doesn't do well in the freezer, but my gut has been wrong before.

I also kind of like the idea of having pretty much a lifetime supply of prosciutto in my freezer, although a quick Google search seems to tell me that prosciutto does not freeze well at all, which seems odd to me, since it's pretty low-moisture I would have thought it would freeze spectacularly well.

Besides that, anyone have any other cool ideas about what I can do with a slicer? I've already sliced down some beef to make cheesesteaks, and when I get my smoker up and running when the weather gets nicer I'm going to have a go at making my own bacon, and will probably use it to slice down beef for jerky as well.

 

This is a true story.

My dad and sister went out shopping on black Friday one year. The went to a local mall that was of course packed. They went to drop a couple of their bags off in the car to free up their hands for more shopping. On their way back to the car, a lady who was driving around looking for a spot pulled up next to them and asked

"Are you two going out?" Hoping to nab their parking space if they were leaving.

To which my dad answered "No, we're related" earning some befuddled looks from the lady and some amused Snickers from my sister.

 

Sunny is, as far as we know, a purebred Malinois, she's almost 4 years old, and is a strong contender for being the Laziest Malinois in the world (which still means she has more energy than any other dog I've ever known)

Some Malinois like to catch frisbees, run up walls, chase bad guys, parachute into hostile territory, etc. Sunny just like to wait for you to get up so she can steal your chair.

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