Whats_your_reasoning

My friends and I recently took the Cat-Q test, which is a questionnaire used to assess how much one "masks" autistic traits. We took it casually because one friend brought it up, then compared results with each other.

But while filling it out, every one of us had to stop and consult each other because of ambiguous questions. We also found the design of the answers (which are all ranges from "Strongly Disagree" to "Strongly Agree") to be difficult to work with. There's no official explanation to clarify vague statements, and the responses we wanted to give would've varied depending on context. One friend (the one with the most psychology training) said to "fill it out as if we hadn't acquired coping mechanisms yet." Which makes sense, but isn't stated anywhere on the questionnaire.

We're autistic, damn it - the psychologists designing a diagnostic tool for us should know full well that without clear directions, we're going to struggle to fill out this sort of form. I understand it's just a tool, possibly one used during bs insurance situations, and thus is designed to benefit someone besides us. At the same time, there are so many simple ways this questionnaire can be made less stressful for the people who fill it out, that it's almost insulting to keep it as-is.

That's a silver lining, at least.

My friends and I are (almost) all like this. Sometimes we "pin" ideas based on the key words that triggered them. That is, one of us will go, "Oh! You mentioned dogs. I need to put a pin in that idea, because I have a story about dogs when you're done." Then we go back to the main story. When it's over, now (at least) two people knew that there was a "pin" about "dogs." One of us might forget, both of us might forget, but we've found that by mentioning the key word, it's usually easier for us to find the "lost" thought again.

Your mileage may vary. Some people might prefer to make a note or some other tangible reminder. This is just what works for us, but maybe it can help others too.

I used to love Detective Conan. The anime came out in 1997 (the manga began in 1994) and it's still running. At first I watched everything, but after a few years and still hundreds of episodes I'd never seen, I gave up trying to watch each one. I switched to only watching plot-relevant episodes, skipping the many filler episodes. Eventually, I simply gave up and lost interest.

There are over 1000 episodes now.

Poor Shinichi has been trapped in the body of a 7 year old for 30 years. Dude deserves to go back to his old life already.

Does anyone have a suggestion for a new name?

It doesn’t need to be called the same thing.

I’m also not sure if it matters, but Troll X and Two X Chromosomes were very different subs. Troll X was more of a spin-off, and was never strictly for XX women - it was trans-inclusive by default. That’s what I’m hoping for here too.

Pretty much all of the above. Sometimes it was a silly comment or argument that didn’t quite make sense. Sometimes it was like, “what are you trying to say?” but specifically asking for one’s reasoning helps clarify things.

I still might ask it some time, but I’ve found the environment here to be more hostile to rational thought than I’d originally expected… which was a sad discovery. A lot of people seem to react without first comprehending what they’re reading.

Also, thank you!

For an attentive lover, coming second means winning first.

Back when I used Reddit, one of my favorite subs was TrollX. If we had a sub with that spirit, it would be a good start.

Are there secret communities on Lemmy? Not that secret communities should be a default, but I was invited to a secret sub on Reddit years ago that was all women. It was a true safe space from harrassment, where we could talk about feminine things that we knew wouldn’t gain traction in main subs. I have no idea how it started, but I knew that users who were invited to join had previously been vetted by the sub’s mods - they saw that I’d made feminist posts and multiple comments about being a woman, and didn’t go around picking fights. It was like a background check.

I don’t believe there is any one solution, but starting with dedicated communities (in the spirit of TrollX), with mods that smack down misogyny and (actual) trolls, sounds like the best way to start.

Yes, I agree. At no point did I ever propose such a dialogue. I'm talking about supporting those that already chose to leave.

I hope it brings you joy to know that "dinosaur" kids are still memorizing these ever-growing lists. I work with kids, and the big dinosaur fan is still teaching me new dino things almost every day. We recently learned of a dinosaur that is basically another student's name +saurus. That was a cute discovery.

At first I lurked on my boyfriend's account. We had both left Reddit during the API debacle, but I wasn't ready to rejoin social media yet, so he hopped on Lemmy first.

But as he shared links and news and memes with me, and I scrolled the comments, I started wanting to participate. The first few times I felt drawn to comment (but didn't yet), I wanted to ask people what the reasoning was behind their thoughts. That stuff is interesting to me.

So when I finally sat down and made an account for myself, it was the first thought in my head. I haven't found myself asking anybody about their reasoning since then, but I still like the name.