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I know that like Mr. Rogers, Bob Ross, and Sam from LoTR are all considered green flags if they are considered role models.

But are there any unique role models you have or have seen others have that you consider a green flag?

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[–] [email protected] 64 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I've never thought in terms of "green flag" but really like that concept.

I'm going to go with Levar Burton. Reading Rainbow ran for like 35 years and encouraged millions of children to read.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

It's not really here or there, but when I was a young child, I saw Star Trek: The Next Generation before Reading Rainbow, so my parents had to explain how actors worked when I was baffled how the blind man was teaching me how to read.

I did love Reading Rainbow, though, and still read regularly, probably in part thanks to Levar Burton.

[–] SzethFriendOfNimi 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Man I loved the episode of reading rainbow where it showed behind the scenes of TNG

Found it

https://youtu.be/PaG6evVcd-w

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

That's a great story! I was...maybe...11...when STTNG came out, so I had already seen RR prior. I was super excited to see an actor I knew appear on the show.

[–] ericbomb 12 points 1 year ago

Oh that's a great one!

He's still doing stuff trying to get more books and reading to children.

So he's a wonderful answer.

[–] x4740N 7 points 1 year ago

Thinking of star trek would gene Rodenberry's philosophy be considered a green flag

I personally think it is

[–] justlookingfordragon 47 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Morticia and Gomez Addams.

They're unapologetically weird, fiercely in love with each other, they support and love their children unconditionally, they're brutally honest with each other, including openly showing affection without giving a damn about what others may think of them. They're one of the best (fictional) examples of caring parents and lovers, and I will die on that hill.

[–] A_Random_Idiot 9 points 1 year ago

Anjelica Houston and Raul Julia.

There will never be a more iconic Morticia and Gomez.

They are my absolute relationship goal. I want to find a partner that embraces my weird and loves it whole hearted and unashamedly, and I theirs.

Sadly, as I get older, I realize its never gonna happen.

[–] Everythingispenguins 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have this vague memory of an interview where this was being talked about and how showing them as kind, loving people with real emotions was somewhat controversial. If anyone knows what I am talking about please chime in.

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Nick Offerman.

Many know him as Ron Swanson from Parks & Rec, but that's a character. He's a dynamic actor, a hilarious comic, eloquent author, and an outstanding woodworker. I like his honesty and pragmaticism. I enjoy the way he brings his characters to life. His writing transports me in my mind. His woodworking is inspiring to me. His comedy makes me feel seen in this human experiment. I love his laugh; he clearly likes to be goofy, much like myself. He came through my town on his American Ham comedy tour and that's when I got a real feel for who he is as a person. He loves his wife enthusiastically. He's a connoisseur, whether it's words, whisk(e)y, wood, what-have-you. He's inclusive; understanding that we're all just individuals living our lives and wanting to do our best. You'll find a wide swath of genders working and managing his woodshop which means a lot to me as a woodworker because it's often a male dominated industry. I'm white, cis, male, and shoot, even southern (Appalachian) American, but I staunchly believe in accessibility and inclusiveness. The more I learn about Nick, the more I like the guy, and I've learned a good deal about him. I've had this dream for a while about reaching out to see if he'd want to go paddling with me down the oldest river in North America which starts in my area, but I'm just some guy, and he's probably pretty busy.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Why not contact him anyway? The worst that can happen is that he says no. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, as they say...

[–] son_named_bort 33 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Weird Al Yankovic. He's been making comedic music for decades with no scandals or anything and he is a genuinely nice person.

[–] Everythingispenguins 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And that there is the real scandal some guy calling himself "Weird" is really a nice normal guy.

[–] spittingimage 2 points 1 year ago

A nice normal guy WHO PLAYS THE ACCORDION.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

My boyfriend said he sees David Byrne as a role model.

A clearly anxious man who finds it within him to love freely while being his own goofy self and speaking his mind.

I found that really appealing and now we dance along while singing his songs in the living room.

[–] ericbomb 6 points 1 year ago

He also is the founder of some non profits!

So he's a really good one.

[–] calypsopub 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Serially accused of extremely appropriate behavior

[–] EssentialNPC 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you have any examples? I ask not to be confrontational, but instead because I have read nothing but kind things about him. Thank you!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Appropriate behavior. It's a Keanu meme because he's not been accused of a bunch of shit, like way too many high profile actors have.

(Or if this is some other joke, I don't get it. )

[–] EssentialNPC 4 points 1 year ago

Or I am just an idiot and cannot read. Let's go with that, since it is the truth. Thank you for the kind correction!

[–] morphballganon 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

There's no apostrophe in Mr. Rogers. Rogers is his name. It's not possessive.

I don't have an answer to your question, but it reminds me of Jim Varney (actor who played Ernest in the Ernest movies). He was a smoker, but was careful to not be photographed smoking, so any kids who looked up to him wouldn't consequently think smoking was cool.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Carl Sagan was already mentioned, he’s def a favorite of mine. I’d also add Matt Mercer, everything I’ve seen of him makes it seems like he’s just a wonderful person all around.

[–] ericbomb 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean I didn't wanna out myself as a giant critter...

But it appears he has built a large and successful business with his friends while being fiercely protective of them while being welcoming and accepting to everyone.

So yeah I think he's a food role model.

[–] glimse 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So yeah I think he's a food role model.

I love their new ramen show, Critical Bowl

[–] ericbomb 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not changing it cause I would watch it.

[–] glimse 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Me, too. I don't even play DND but I'd follow anything Matt Mercer works on. He's a peach!

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Carl Sagan is like the Mr. Rogers of science.

I'm also a big fan of Richard Feynman--joy and curiosity in equal measure.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Richard Feynman is wonderful. I accidentally watched a 25 minute talk of his once that I started just to learn what his voice sounded like.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you've never watched Fun to Imagine, check it out sometime. It's just an hour of him sitting in a chair answering questions/sharing his thoughts and I wish there were hours more like it. It's so great.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Feynman is an amazing person but not a good role model. He will science away your girl, wife be damned.

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[–] thehappyteacup 12 points 1 year ago

Steve Irwin - definitely one of the most iconic people from my childhood. The respect and awe he showed towards animals was so inspiring to me, and definitely was my biggest role model when it comes to the way we should treat non-human animals.

[–] Speculater 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Watching someone fuck something up, research, a video game, a car repair, that costs them a lot of time and took a ton of effort, then just laughing and going with the after math. It tells a lot about your character when something doesn't go your way.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Andrew Camerata on YouTube, after his runaway crane fell off a cliff: "It's fine, it just needs to be, y'know, not upside down"

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They asked for role models, not just any random green flags.

[–] Speculater 5 points 1 year ago

Ah, I was responding to the green flags part.

[–] msbeta1421 9 points 1 year ago

Anyone that takes time to do the little things that make us civilised: picking up someone else’s trash, putting away someone else’s shopping cart, etc. Just shows they give a fuck

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Killer Mike. He a real one.

Charles Barkley as well.

[–] iron__giant 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just went to RTJX in Atlanta and had the time of my life. It was awesome to hear Mike and El telling stories between songs.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I'm beyond jelly at that. I'd love to see them live one day. I saw El way back in the day with Aesop.

[–] aturtlesdream 6 points 1 year ago

Mr Dress-up, aka Ernie Coombs, in the same vein as Mr Rodgers. A national treasure in Canada who was the best role model for kids. They just released a fantastic documentary on him recently on Amazon I think

[–] Spiralvortexisalie 5 points 1 year ago

Hank Hill, I never met someone who liked him and stood for anything asinine.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

This doesn't really answer the question, but sometimes it's not so much who the role model is but what action they want to model.

Maybe it was wanting to get better at controlling emotions, being great at communicating during a breakup, or a general attitude towards problems that come up.

When I see someone admire / want to emulate the good actions of others, that's a green flag.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

A lot of the guys from Wu Tang Clan seem to be pretty chill.

[–] dontkickducks 2 points 1 year ago

Jack Black. Inspires people to do what they love. Really knows how to gave fun and doesn't care if people think it's weird. And despite a lot of banal poop, penis, sex humour in the Tenacious D songs, they changed some lyrics in live shows to swap genders. Great example of nonchelant emancipation and equality.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Buckaroo Banzai.

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