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[–] BackOnMyBS 93 points 1 year ago

Taking advantage of people in weaker positions of power, from being rude to a waiter to abusing a disabled person. They all make me dislike the person immediately and will likely cut them out of my life as soon as possible.

[–] [email protected] 78 points 1 year ago (2 children)

When they say they are Republican. Or touch on Republican talking points promoting hate, sexism, racism, and/or ignorance in general.

[–] sixerzero 41 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Same with people who call themselves centerists, but hate everything slightly left and cheer for everything right wing. Like when the Charlottesville protests happened, and my centerist friend (not friends anymore) was defending people chanting Nazi stuff and attacking the counterprotesters.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In my experience, "centrists" are often just right-wingers who smoke weed.

[–] fubo 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Heh, that used to be the joke about libertarians, back before half the libertarians turned out to be white-supremacists and joined up with the alt-right, and the other half said "holy shit, the right wing is really bad for actual people's actual liberty."

Back in 2008 I thought Ron Paul might be an okay guy ... yeah, no, it turned out not only that he was a neoconfederate racist piece of shit, but that libertarian mainstays like Murray Rothbard and Lew Rockwell had been in on it all along.

Quite a lot of what passed for "libertarianism" turned out to be a fraud to get the potheads, Deadheads, perverts, and hackers to join up with the far right. Fuck that.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

My old boss claimed to be a libertarian.

He would always rant and rave about the government overstepping and forcing people to get the vaccine and wear masks (which never happened, but okay) and then in the next sentence would praise the folks in power who wanted to ban abortions.

Like..... motherfucker, at least be consistent!

He also scoffed at me because "must be nice to get government money during the pandemic just for having a kid." I got like 300$. That shithead gladly got a massive business bailout and just smugly read shitty articles and conspiracy theories from with Facebook Q group at work instead of doing his job.

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[–] fubo 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

After Bush II and Trump, there's no redeeming the Republican Party. It doesn't even have big-business capitalism or national security on its side anymore. The Bush-era fratboy MBAs hollowed it out and left it to be taken over by the Putinist-Trumpists.

The Democrats are now the party of big business; the Dow is up 17% since Joe Biden took office. The Republicans have become instead the party of hate groups, child-molesters, and thieves — losers who have nothing to offer the nation but rape, murder, and suffering.

[–] Mikey_donuts 71 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Squander 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] croobat 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] 10_dollar_banana 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (4 children)
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[–] [email protected] 66 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Blasting music/videos on their shitty phone speaker in public. If you really don't have headphones, at least turn it down or hold the speaker closer to your ear so you're not just annoying everyone in a 10-meter radius.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I'm ASD and use music to cope ...if i don't have headphones in public, i don't play music because that's how it fucking works

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[–] [email protected] 53 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Telling me I should forgive/contact my abusive exfamily. Especially after knowing me for less than 30 mins and them not at all.

[–] indepndnt 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"But family is so important!" You go talk to them then, or go fuck yourself, IDC.

There have been many instances when I've told someone how crazy people in my family are, and then even if they believed me, after they met them they're like "OMG I had no idea it was that bad."

You have to know that there are some extremely shitty people in the world. Sometimes, those people are someone's family.

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[–] son_named_bort 48 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Casually using racial slurs.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People who leave their dog's shit on in the ground, or bag it up and leave it hanging in a tree

[–] iconic_admin 16 points 1 year ago

And people who leave their dogs outside all the time. It’s hot out there for them too.

[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 year ago (1 children)
  • Harassing homeless people.
  • Hurting animals.
  • Bullying
  • Bringing politics into a conversation that wasn't already about politics
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[–] justlookingfordragon 38 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"It's just a prank bro"-people. I already hate it when someone finds it hilarious to hurt others, but if those same "pranksters" then also act all indignant and percieve themselves as victims of prejudice when other people do NOT find their "pranks" funny, they can GTFO.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Being disrespectful to other people because someone think they have mundane jobs.

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[–] KrisND 34 points 1 year ago

If they treat others bad. Such as waitresses, their friends & family, co-workers etc.

Instantly no respect, zero tolerance.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 year ago

There's the obvious "if you're a homophobe, transphobe, racist, abelist" etc etc etc. Like obviously that makes me lose respect for people.

But I think if you judge someone for doing something that you deem "weird". I used to so that until I learned that like, hey we're all fucking weird. Who cares.

[–] sknob 31 points 1 year ago

Lack of curiosity.

[–] BromSwolligans 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Leaving carts outside the corrals at the store. Failing to signal. Actually a lot of car or car adjacent behaviors. All of which go back to "my immediate convenience is more important than being a conscientious member of the society I live in with other people."

[–] Lemmylefty 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

It’s the lack of awareness that gets me. You’re operating a 2+ ton vehicle at speeds significantly faster than humans can reach by themselves, amongst a group of other people doing the same, and you figure it’s okay to be unpredictable?

Unfortunately that’s not something you can really test for, that blasé attitude towards interacting with traffic, since most early drivers are going to be on their best behavior, and this is developed after years of getting away with it (or NOT but somehow still doing it?).

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Two things,

  1. They are a young earth creationist.
  2. They think Trump can do nothing wrong.
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[–] drekly 26 points 1 year ago (9 children)

No hobby or passion.

Some people just seem to work, then come home and watch whatever is shown to them on TV or scroll through their phone. And that's it, other than socialising, that's their lives.

[–] LucasWaffyWaf 15 points 1 year ago

It's hard to find passion for things when depression is constantly bearing down upon you. Constantly making you second guess yourself, the things you do, the things you find joy in. Anything that could bring happiness and enrich your life, your mind will sabotage any chance of you trying it out in favor of the lifeless apathy that's taken a stranglehold over your life.

Not to say I'm constantly mopey woe is me, nawh mate. It's just hard to find reason to be passionate about anything when your mind is constantly telling you it ain't worth it.

Not everybody that your comment applies to is depressive, but it's a common pattern within depressed folks.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago

They waste food and criticize a person when they're doing them a favor

[–] Jackthelad 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hypocrisy.

The problem is that it seems 99% of the population are guilty of it.

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[–] Moshpirit 18 points 1 year ago (5 children)

People who abuse animals, beyond normalised speciesism. Like kicking dogs or cats. Or wearing fur. Or... OK normalised speciesism also makes me lose respect to someone when they know about it and they don't care.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

Bootlicking.

[–] Aceticon 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Fake friendliness.

More in general, I have some respect for people who overtly are just selfish (at least they're open about it) whilst having none for people who, acting with the same selfishness as the former, try and pass themselves as nice.

As it happens, nowadays I pretty good at reading people when I do care enough to pay attention.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)
  • being rude in general

  • being a stickler for timekeeping

  • liking dogs but not cats

  • salting food at a restaurant without tasting it first — though I guess this fits under "rudeness"

To be clear, these are all "lose some respect", not "lose all respect.

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[–] DrSleepless 12 points 1 year ago

Making jokes about disabled people

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

If they say "woke" unironically. Let's me know that they have nothing important to say.

[–] Faildini 11 points 1 year ago

Learning that they believe in ghosts, flat Earth, or anti-vaxx conspiracies.

[–] JoeClu 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Smokers who support the war on drugs.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago

I support the war on drugs, but on the side of the drugs.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Violence or aggression towards animals or pets.

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