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[–] [email protected] 125 points 1 month ago (6 children)

I went to a board game convention a month ago, it was the first time I've girlmoded for something major. They put their own signs over the bathroom signs explaining that both were gender neutral and the only difference was urinals vs stalls. That made it soooo much easier on me and I was very glad

[–] RageAgainstTheRich 70 points 1 month ago (8 children)

I'm a dude and i want stalls every time. I HATE pissing in a urinal next to a bunch of other people and get piss splashed on everything. So so so many bacteria.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 month ago

There are well-designed urinals now that don't splash back. Add to that, If there's a divider, then the urinal is convenient, quicker and imo cleaner because you don't have to touch the stall door or lock to close it and you're not pissing on the seat or sitting down. It's literally no-contact

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I love urinals, carefree pissing

[–] ebolapie 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago (5 children)

If I can, and it's clean, I always prefer to sit down to piss. I just want a break, man. Leave me alone for 5.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 month ago

Indeed, I'm a furry and a few conventions I go to, even in red states, have temporary rebranding of the bathrooms to gender neutral for the duration of the convention as a requirement that the Hotel must maintain in order to keep the convention's business.

And since furries are either suspiciously wealthy or poor, but dedicated, it's a wise economic decision for said Hotel.

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[–] Proprietary_Blend 105 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Here's a little known fact, gender neutral bathrooms are just bathrooms.

[–] [email protected] 62 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The gender neutral bathroom's already in your house!

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They are also in your neighbor's house too! Get the pitchforks!

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago

My son goes to a gender neutral school, my daughter goes to a gender neutral daycare, I work in a gender neutral office, and shop at gender neutral shops.

[–] Joeffect 12 points 1 month ago

It drives me crazy to see a single occupancy bathroom in a public space labeled as gender neutral... Just say bathroom... Or even worse they went out of the way to change it from bathroom to gender neutral... Looking at you taco bell...

[–] [email protected] 63 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

Gendered bathrooms should not need to exist because bathrooms should have some dammed privacy.

In the US, there’s a door for boys and one for girls. Behind each is a giant room with some sinks and some toilets that may as well be using cardboard and tinfoil for privacy.

Go somewhere more pleasant like Sweden? You have a short hallway with 3 or 4 doors on each side, and behind each is a small restroom including a sink and a mirror.

Every real and maga-hallucinated bathroom problem largely solved.

[–] NikkiDimes 16 points 1 month ago

I love the idea behind gender neutral bathrooms, but I really wish they weren't just a band-aid on the problem that is disgusting American bathrooms.

I didn't realize how much better it could be until I went to Japan. Floor to ceiling walls, doors with curvature where the door and wall meet completely eliminating door gap, buttons to play music or water sounds...wtf America. Might as well be pissing in a prison in some bathrooms here.

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[–] MsPenguinette 57 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If I was near here, I’d go to this place just because of this

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 month ago (5 children)

It's pretty great. It took over the spot of a gay bar in town which had evolved to be more of a general bar while being explicitly LGBTQ+ friendly. They had to shut down for various reasons. I/O took it over and has largely continued being LGBTQ+ friendly, but now with more pinball tables and old arcade games.

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[–] [email protected] 53 points 1 month ago (13 children)

The fact that stalls exist kinda makes me question why, outside of poorly aged "values" we even have gendered restrooms.

[–] YarHarSuperstar 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I don't know if it's the reason, or just a side effect, but I'm pretty sure it prevents a bunch of sexual assault, or at least makes some people feel safer.

[–] Godnroc 56 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I feel like that's the only justification I've ever really heard, but I find it to be rather flimsy. It assumes that someone willing to assault someone else would be deterred by a sign. It also assumes that assaults only happen across genders and not within, which is either very narrow-minded or willfully obstinate.

Personally, I would think individual unisex bathrooms that each contain their own sink would be the safest option. You enter fully aware and lock the door behind yourself, only leaving once you are fully aware and alert again. Given that the common area between stalls is essentially public, you could have cameras observing the entrance without invading privacy and capturing anyone attempting to force their way in or tailgate someone entering a stall. Better, safer, gender neutral.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

It also assumes that assaults only happen across genders and not within, which is either very narrow-minded or willfully obstinate.

Ya know I've actually sat down and talked with my cisfriends on how they feel about the whole thing, way way back when the bathroom scares started... One thing they brought up that I didn't even think about was "Do these Republicans not know that lesbians exist?"

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[–] TankovayaDiviziya 11 points 1 month ago

My former college has gender neutral bathroom in the gym. I have never heard any issues in the many decades that it has been there. Besides, the wall of the toilet stalls are really high and there are no gaps underneath the stalls to dissuade peeping. Just do how my college did with gender neutral bathrooms.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago (2 children)

This is the justification.

My only comment to that is: the "women's washroom" sign isn't going to stop an attacker.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago

Right? A No Guns sign isn't going to stop a shooting, but a Women Only sign will stop all rape forever!

Republican "logic"

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

But imagine how awkward that attacker must feel walking in there

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago
  1. Trans people who don't pass will also feel awkward walking in there, and many of them don't. Often times, you'll primarily just see people who pass going into the restroom matching their gender. Just the fact they identify as the gender doesn't often mean even they are comfortable going in there, so it's not like anyone presenting as masculine going into the women's restroom is even a common occurrence in places where trans people are accepted
  2. Anyone who would be willing to visually change themselves to pass as the opposite gender doesn't need "being trans" as a concept to do so, and could be just as willing to engage in that regardless.
  3. Gay people exist and they don't feel awkward walking in to those spaces, yet could just as well engage in sexual assault of people matching their gender without anybody questioning their right to be there.
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[–] [email protected] 50 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"What kind of bathroom does your home have?"

[–] EtherWhack 27 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Well, I guess since there are no urinals, it's for women. Men will just have to find a tree or corner outside.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)

no urinals

That's what the bathtub/shower is for!

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Is there already a sink pisser community on lemmy?

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 month ago (6 children)

I wish reviews used a "web of trust" so I could discard votes by Anders Holmvik and anyone who agrees with him frequently.

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[–] Sage_the_Lawyer 25 points 1 month ago (1 children)

This is in my hometown!! Absolutely one of my favorite spots. And I cheered out loud when I saw this response a couple days ago. I/O is legendary.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Overhyped. i don't like the comment above. they make it seem like a big thing. i don like these kinds of posts..

when a post has "absolute legend" as the title, that reads to me like a youtube title like "We DESTROYED FOREVER!" or "This EASY trick is a GAME CHANGER". gooooddddd (im in complain mode now sorrii)

[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Smorty HATES this one simple comment

[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

196 poster SLAMMED by Smorty

[–] rtxn 26 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The Smorty situation is CRAZY

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (10 children)

Thanks y'all now I got new terms for my post filter

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (9 children)

~nununununu!!!~ please understand that I'm angry at the reddit post with the annoying youtube title, not the repost here on Lemmy. On thus post, "No" is a pretty good title I think. it's not overselling it, it makes sense within the context of the funi and it's not an overused buzzword.

the REDDIT POST on the other hand! it goes out of it's way to be annoying. it repeats the the same meaning using different words. it pretends like this is a big thing: some employee replying with no to some comment about thir game. It's boring, overblown and who cares. It would have been funier if the reddit person just reposted the post and didnot add a dum and long subtitle to it. WHAT IS THIS? prepare for my next game, named Calm Compass: A side adventure in a parallel dimebsion. (very out of context, yes, srryy)

have I now become the one to overblow and overreact? am I now saying the same thing with many words? YES! ON PURPOSE!

im sori next time I will ramble shorter.

Also

Alright, that's gonna be it for this round of Smorty COMPLAINS about your somewhat well known topics! Tune in next episode, where I discuss, that AI is actually BAD for the internet and that it is RUINING the internet and that AI features are BAD and that OpenAI is now putting its LLMs into MURDER DRONES (not a joke btw) and that GOOGLE SEARCH RESULTS ARE USELESS NOW BECAUSE IF AI!!!!<|endoftext|>

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

This is actually CRAZY! Smorty drama update

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Mfw "rule" isn't in the title:

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

“Finally.”

[–] too_high_for_this 17 points 1 month ago (10 children)

Anders Holmvik

What a colossal piece of shit

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago

Posted "Just Now" 🤔

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