I like being a dude but why roll the same char twice?
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Because hard mode is too much work tbqh
I'm already OP being a white male and this game is still hard as fuck. No way I'm doing a challenge run. I'd just redistribute my stats to min max my dude.
We going full luck build boys!
C'mon son of a billionaire!
Wish granted, you are now the son of Elon Musk.
I would definitely never choose to be born a woman again. I've had some really terrible things happen to me because of my birth gender, and while I know some of them can and do happen to men, they wouldn't be in the same context.
My life has been quite a lot better since I stopped presenting as a woman. Testosterone made me really sick, so I'll never be able to present as a man, but the middle ground is good enough for me
Opposite, no question. I don't hate being AMAB, and there are parts I like, but a lot of aspects of it are really boring to me. Lack of clothing options/self-expression being a big one. It's frankly always felt like a box I've been forced into even though parts of it fit well. That said, I'd probably feel the same if I were AFAB, just about different aspects. I don't want to transition in my current life, but I'd definitely switch in a new life.
Same boat- AMAB, and no dysphoria with that at all, but yeah, a little jealous of women's fashion options.
It's taken me until my mid thirties, but things I've come to realise:
- There are a bunch more options for women - entire categories of garments that aren't socially applicable for men to wear - but a lot of that comes from a much wider variance in body shape for women. There are plenty of things that just don't work if you aren't a size 12 B-cup with a conventional body shape. A cropped top is just as off limits if you are a woman with a bit of a tummy or D+ cup breasts as it is for men
- There are options for men, but they aren't always as obvious, and often end up looking more formal - try different shoes, different coloured belts layering things (open shirt over a t-shirt etc)
- Most men (and I'm super guilty of this) don't get a haircut as often as they should. There is a whole world of options and styles, try some out, find one you like from a barber you have a rapport with, go regularly to keep it looking good
Completely agree, you can wear a dress, leggings, a blouse, style your hair, but, I'm sitting hear in my boring uncomfortable pants and t shirt. I completely agree with everything your saying.
Nothing is forcing you to dress that way . I wear a skirt a few times and they are very comfy. Also I really enjoy some colorful nail polish! Do what ever you want it's your life!! I've been in drag a few times too , one time my gf gave me a classic Harley Quinn look and she dressed as the Joker !
There's this girl I found a while back that posts on GoneWild and OF (ForestGreen91) and she can completely change her look just by styling her hair differently and putting on some makeup. It can change her from a 5 to an 8.5 easily. It's actually quite impressive.
I live in Miami now and it's a very fashionable city, all the women look sexy as hell with different style dresses, shoes, accessories, and hair styles. All the guys largely look the same, myself included.
When I think of growing up female again, but in the current time, it sounds terrible, but then I think of growing up male inbhe current times and it seems awful too, so I think I have to tick the "neither box" and accept I'm too old for this modern shit in any gender form.
Reborn as a cat is the only correct answer
Is having.... no gender an option? Boobs are a hassle, I can't fathom dealing with having to wrangle a dick into pants, I just kind of want to be a human without having to deal with either.
I wonder what an androgynous body would feel like. My body is full boobs and hips, which is fine, but wholly unimportant to my identity. I think i would like the freedom of not being seen as boobs. I'm pretty genderless in my head.
Can't say I've ever had to wrangle it but sometimes it gets stuck to one side and that isn't great
I don’t know why I’d ever willingly choose a life so fraught with sexism and sexual assault. Women pass by me all the time as though I don’t exist, and I’m absolutely fine with that.
I'm trans so that's an easy no
Don't you mean easy yes? If you're born male, but identify as female, wouldn't you want to be born female so you don't have to do the whole trans thing?
Travel to some place like Ethiopia and see how the women live. In some countries, women are treated equally to the men, but that isn’t true in other countries. Someone once told me that a young man, of pale complexion, could take a Time Machine to any country, step outside of it, and most likely never be jailed, or shot, upon being seen. That isn’t the truth for everyone. I would hate to be a woman in Egypt, even today. If a man disagrees with a woman, he is allowed to legally slap her across the face. In Saudi Arabia, women are forced into female circumcision. If you think being female would bring you more job opportunities, you might be surprised. I have a graduate degree, and years of experience in my field. It is very difficult to remain at any particular job site. I overheard a coworker discussing what I could “possibly be mixed with”, before I was let go. At every job site, people are always trying to determine who my husband is, or if my dad is anyone important. If you want to feel like a woman, start asking everyone to judge you based on your spouse, and who your dad is, before they care about your qualifications and experience. I mean, there are always the women that seem to have a job based on who they know, but when you look into those situations, it isn’t always something you’d envy. I doubt you’d want to have an advantage in the workforce because you were the life of the party in your social circle, as a female. I haven’t had that advantage. Here I sit without a full time job, at the moment.
I can think of many many exceptions to that Time Machine idea. It, itself is an example of Western ignorance about non-Western history.
But I agree with your wider point.
IDK I'm a dude and women have to deal with a lot of shit both socially and physically... But boobs are great.
I would like to play tinder with cheat codes as well
On one hand yes, on the other hand, chances of getting date raped would also be a lot higher. As a white male I'm basically playing life with cheat codes.
Hell no. I've seen what women go through from periods to harassment to abortion rights and I do not like it one bit. I'd rather be comfortable.
Why would I choose twice the work at less pay?
Yea, I would change sex for a second time around. I wanna try it out. I am also the kind of person who don't order the same kind of pizza every time.
I am also the kind of person who don't order the same kind of pizza every time.
Teach me your ways, oh wise one.
May as well have a go at the opposite.
If that ever happens, though, I predict a lot of dudes are getting kicked in the nuts. Just saying. So you'd better watch out.
I find it almost impossible to imagine myself as a man, but no periods + male privilege sounds nice.
100% this.
I consider myself a woman, but I'm pretty apathetic about gender all told. I think I'd adjust to being male pretty well? It'd be weird and uncomfortable for a while and I'm sure I'd find things I'd miss about being a woman.
But between the male privilege and biological advantages (no periods, easier strength, etc), it sounds like a deal to me.
I’m an uber driver and had an ftm passenger in the car the other day. We got to talking about architecture and he was an absolute wealth of knowledge about the history of cities on the east coast.
Made me realize that I don’t see too many woman geeks. Like geeking out isn’t part of our society’s woman role.
I wondered if he transitioned so he could be a geek without social rejection.
I like to change things up. But in this case, I'd have to come back as male again. Our work is not done when women are still facing constant danger and possible "gender-cide" with the likes of the taliban and the united states.
Very probably I would be born the other sex. I've kinda had those vibes all my life, in various moments. This egg has the hardest shell.
Hell no, I want to try having a dick.
Hell no, I'm glad that I'm a man. I think being woman sucks.
it's like when you replay Star Wars Jedi Knight II: Jedi Outcast to also get to play the light side ending
I mean like I accept who I was born as but if given the choice I’d choose to be born a woman, yk? Idk but I kinda envy them a bit but i’m fine being an unsexy man
Said by millions of trans women in denial before you...
That's not to say that you are trans. I can't tell you that. But what I will say is that for most people, their gender isn't something they "tolerate"
Also said by straight men who have been conditioned by society to believe they can't be sexy.
Maybe. I'm completely comfortable with my sex. But it's also not a huge part of my internal identity.
On the one hand I would have loved to be able to be a parent, which doesn't look likely in this life as a 40 something gay man.
But on the other hand, if I was me but a woman, I would probably have dozens of children by now.
So, no, I'd stay as a gay man if I could choose.
As a man in a country where it's illegal to be transgender (including all other gender identities outside the gender binary; male and female), I'd honestly rather not be reborn at all, especially if I have to stay in the country I'm currently I'm.
And yes, I've been misgendered as a girl multiple times, both online and in real life. It pisses me out.
Oh yes. I absolutely love being biologically female. Loved being pregnant, nursing kids, love the sexual response, periods were bad but the mirena IUD fixed that. I enjoy having a female body so much still.
The social restrictions can fuck right off, and I wouldn't mind having the physical strength of a dude but not at the expense of having a body like this.
ETA: almost all the problems people downthread have with being female seem to be the fault of men, social problems not anything to do with having a female body. I don't think you dodge those being male, you have sisters and moms and girlfriends and girl friends who are harmed by that discrimination.
Depends on if I'd retain my memories. If yes, stick with the current selection, if not, coin flip if that's a choice. If coin flip isn't an option I'd pick the opposite.
Different. I want a chance/choice to be pregnant. While I don't think I'd bring another human into this world, I've always really really wanted that capacity. At this point I might still be open to being a surrogate, but maybe not. There's plenty of us.
This is how I feel about my gender now. I'm AFAB and mostly fine with it. In my 30s so don't feel like I can opt out at this point without some major major sacrifices. But if I could start again I'd be a dude, even if I was still AFAB. I sort of envy kids that got to grow up hearing that switching was an option, but then I think about the state of everything else and I figure I still probably got the better deal.
Meh I'm pretty indifferent.
I'd choose not to be born. Or maybe wait 100 years to see how things changed.
Imagine skipping from 1920 to 2020...