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I’m new to the bidet scene, and this one has me slightly confounded. Should I install a new towel rack next to the toilet? Should my wife and I share the towel? Do you wipe first? There are so many unanswered questions in the ways of bidet-ing!

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[–] Donebrach 28 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Spray with bidet then dry with toilet paper. Why are people so confounded by these things? Have y’all never used water to bathe before?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)
  1. Because it's a funny haha bathroom post

  2. if you have to wipe with toilet paper anyway, doesn't that defeat the purpose of having a bidet?

  3. Actually I'm a lemmy user, I use Arch btw, live in my mom's basement, I've never been on a date and I never go outside. Of course I've never used water to bathe before.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

if you have to wipe with toilet paper anyway, doesn't that defeat the purpose of having a bidet?

No. The purpose of the bidet is to properly clean your posterior which cannot be achieved with toilet paper alone. Also the amount of toilet paper needed to dry is lower than the amount needed to 'clean'

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

My response is always "if you get shit on your hand, do you just rub it with some paper and call it a day?" Usually people get it at that point.

[–] skeezix 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Who was the comedian who said that?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

Not sure where I picked it up.

[–] OmnislashIsACloudApp 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

this 1000%

you use only like 1 or 2 tp (or flushable wipes) after bidet.

is way more to get less clean otherwise

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

No such thing as a flushable wipes. It's just defective marketing. Plus there is no need to use one after the bidet. Toilet paper is perfectly fine to dry.

[–] OmnislashIsACloudApp -1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

yeah they definitely need to improve degradation time, but there absolutely is reason to use them instead of TP.

I don't use all the time but tried them during recovery based on the recommendation of the surgeon that removed my hemorrhoids.

significantly easier on the healing bum than tp was, bidet gets most of it but you're not 100% clean every time.

(I don't think I've ever not had to wipe a time or two even after lots of movement and higher pressure on bidet. wipes clean better than tp, and bidet just doesn't get everything unless you're one of those lucky people that wouldn't use much tp anyway)

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago

I'm not saying they aren't better, what I'm saying is they aren't flushable. If they don't clog up your system, they fuck up your septic tank, or the city system.

If you have legitimate medical reason to use them, knock yourself out, but otherwise they should be avoided. And stop calling them flushable because they aren't. They're just wipes.

[–] ameancow 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

if you have to wipe with toilet paper anyway, doesn’t that defeat the purpose of having a bidet?

The purpose of a bidet isn't necessarily to make toilet paper unnecessary, it's to clean properly. Before getting a bidet I would just step into the shower and use the removable shower head to wash my ass with a little soap and warm water, towel off after, bam super clean. I still do that, but now the bidet can save a step if I'm in a hurry.

Basically, try this experiment. (Quoted from some comedian) Smear some poop on the back of your hand. Then wipe it with dry paper and nothing else. Do you feel clean? Ready to go through the day? Of course not! You want to actually wash that off, and that's the pleasant feeling from using a stream of water to feel thoroughly clean, not just removing residue but getting up in there into the outer wrinkles of the butthole, reduces the chance of getting the itchies later.

(This is particularly of consequence if there is ANY chance whatsoever of ending up naked with another person. You might not notice it, but other people would get hit with a musk the moment your underwear drops, and not the nice kind.)

[–] bitchkat 1 points 4 months ago

two sheets versus a couple of giant wads? You're definitely reducing your TP usage.

[–] BradleyUffner 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Tell you what. You drop a nice creamy dump on your floor, then try to get it clean with dry toilet paper. Let us know how it goes.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

You don't shit on yourself though, or at least I hope so.

You only wipe away the residue and not the entire shit

[–] BradleyUffner 5 points 4 months ago (2 children)

The residue of shit is still shit.

[–] naught101 2 points 4 months ago

I feel like this comment could be applied in many diverse contexts.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

Yes, but your comparison was shit.

[–] ameancow 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Why are people so confounded by these things? Have y’all never used water to bathe before?

I feel like some people were never given actual hygiene instructions from their parents growing up. I can only imagine the way some people are so hung up on genitals and waste products that they can't even think about it, those kinds of people going on to have kids... do we really think they're going to pass on useful information on self-care?

And it's not like there's tons of social messaging and helpful guides all over the place on proper bathroom habits, it's purely a passed-down skillset.

Every time this comes up on reddit, there are a lot of people sharing stories about knowing men who literally don't wipe their own ass or touch it while showering and just constantly walk around with shit all over their ass. I used to think it was a meme, but then met people in real life who also had encounters with men who thought touching their own ass would "make them gay."

So yah, people getting anxious about using a bidet? That tracks. I think a lot of people are at very least, just anxious because they've never really been shown anything and might be doubting their own habits. Basically the bathroom and poop and related topics are just this mysterious realm that nobody talks about. Insecurity over our most intimate and private acts is a tradition as old as time itself.