The way that glassware feels when it first comes out of the dishwasher and you’ve just washed your hands.
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Children.
I’ve heard that this is instinctual. We have evolved to find crying and upset children intolerable because it motivates us to do something about it.
Children are also exceptional and figuring out how to push our buttons because they instinctively find and repeat behaviors that get a reaction out of their caregivers when they desire attention.
Unfortunately the most motivating emotions are often negative ones.
do something about it
eyes the knife drawer
I have so many. Here are some top ones:
- Grinding metal utensils on plates/teeth
- Stepping on something wet
- Motorcycles / purposefully loud exhaust mods
- Most mouth sounds in general
How do people manage to BITE a fork and drag it out? How do they not immediately blow their brains out afterwards?
Idk it hurts my skeleton just thinking about it.
Store Music
I hate it.
Holiday music. Too repetitive.
A crowd talking.
Basically, it can be summed up as, TOO MUCH FUCKING NOISE
(I just want some silence 🥲)
When hurricane Beryl hit us, Target was on generators with very minimal lighting and no music. It was such a great shopping experience, that I flagged down the manager and asked them to do this full time.
Of course they didn't. But man, I miss that.
There's a supermarket nearby that has a 'quiet hour' every day, mostly aimed at neurodivergent customers. I try to go at that time, it's a much less stressful experience.
If someone has the TV volume too high, I cannot focus on anything else
That was last night at the family gathering. Why was the tv volume on at all? Everyone was shouting to be heard over everyone else. The amount of questions directed at me and me not able to string two thoughts together to reply intelligently because someone turned it on some bakeoff marathon and then hid the effing remote.
Hearing the sound of people eating. Especially if it's louder than what i would consider normal.
- Loud conversations. If you need to speak loudly at the person right next to you, you need to get your hearing checked.
- Excessive perfume
- Bright headlights
My wife hates eating noises. I never used to notice them, but she complains a lot.
She also eats pretzels and chews ice all the time. Now it fucking annoys me.
This is a specific thing called misophonia
Mask those sounds with music or some banal tv while either of you eat. It's been a lifesaver for me.
Barking. It drives me absolutely mad.
Unfortunately in the US people are OBSESSED with dogs. Everyone has one and so many people just leave them outside to bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and.... :/
I have a cat. She is currently emitting no noise and is a moderate grey color.
I read "she is emiting a moderately grey color"
If you think of how light and color works that's pretty close to what's going on. She's reflecting the light wavelengths that we perceive as gray and absorbing the rest. So kind of like emitting a gray color.
This is how you can easily differentiate people and assholes. Assholes leave their dogs outside.
The fact that 99% of LED Christmas lights are mini strobe lights.
My folks bought a new house and got all this expensive LED lighting installed everywhere and they ALL run at such a low frequency they look like strobe lights to me. I hate it so much.
Nice place otherwise, though.
Dry, dirty hands after working in the garden. I mean dry.
Sharp Scrape of utensil on plate.
A thick seam on socks at the toes.
Too-tight clothing.
Repetitive noise.
Sometimes people chewing. Or talking around chewing.
Dyson hand dryers.
How something so loud can be installed in public without hearing protection beats me.
This miiiiight not be a sensory thing, but here goes.
To me, everything has, like, a correct feeling it has to give before leaving it to rest. If not, it's a little too rough, or smooth, it just feels off. And I can keep feeling it after stopping touching it. And anytime I look at the object. I can feel it when I watch a movie or show and someone puts something down in some indescribably wrong way.
To be clear, this isn't a placement thing. Organization and whatnot don't matter, it's just like "Oh my foot just dragged forward on the carpet, that was weird and rough forward, now I have to do it backward to make it feel right," or "I just out that down and from the sound, I can tell it went down wrong. I gotta go adjust it." That loops until I get it just right, usually a process of 2-45 minutes.
I’m not a professional but that sounds a lot like OCD
Eating noises
Fibers snagging on a chewed or broken nail
Pencil with the tip broken off on paper.
High pitched noises (CRT displays, dyson vacuums)
Sweating while wearing full clothing
Microfiber hand towels that don't properly absorb water
Microfiber towels sticking to dry skin on your hands like velcro. Soggy sandwich bread. The way cotton balls feel and sound when you pull them apart. Non-skid on bare feet. Wooden utensils or popsicle stick wood on my tongue. Being touched by dogs with wet beards. Trying to sleep in bed with dirty feet. Synthetic fragrances.
I'm sure there's more.
Loud low frequency noise. So cars, leaf blowers, lawn mowers.
I generally don't like people touching me. Even with my wife it can be a little upsetting depending on the duration.
Mouth noises and ASMR stuff. Makes me want to break things. Condition’s called misophonia.
Where do I even start? The one that affects me most is that I absolutely can't stand wearing any pants at all.
I hate the texture of all sorts of porridge and oatmeal with a flaming passion. Wearing a coat indoors for more than five seconds makes me want to punch something. When you're at a beach, come out of the water, and your feet are covered in sand. (bonus points if you're trying to put shoes on)
Sandpaper. Dry skin. Dry clay on my skin. A lot of plastic things. Body hair touching me. Dry lips. Sleeves that are too tight around the armpits. Neon colors. Those fucking bright lights that look like they're made for the purpose of blinding people. Flashing lights. The sound of people chewing or even swallowing loudly. Nearly all beeping sounds.
I have questions.
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Pants - Do you also not like wearing any shorts? If you don't have any problems wearing shorts, then how long does a short have to be to stop being a short and start annoying you?
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Porridge - What about macaroni or chilli ? Do you know that jelly thing with bits of fruit chunks in it? What about that? What happens if your cereal gets too soggy?
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Coats - Do you live in a warm/humid region? How do you cope with winters when it gets cold? Does a sweater feel different than a coat?
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I'm with you on the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing.
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Sandpaper is supposed to be irritating. But is there any correlation between your thing against Sandpaper & the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing?
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Dry skin? Is it because it reminds you of Sandpaper or sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach ?
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Dry clay - again, is it correlated to the sand-on-your-wet-skin-at-the-beach thing ?
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Plastic things? Like plastic things just existing & minding their own business or plastic things that touch your skin or the ones that you're in contact with? What about the kind used in hospitals for IV fluids? Or the so-called BPA free that is used in takeaway containers or food storage?
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Body hair touching you - WHOSE body hair? Your own body hair or somebody else's body hair? Does it remind you of wearing a coat? What do you do when you are trying to get physically intimate with someone? Do you avoid the hairy body parts? Aren't they the most fun?
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Tight sleeves around the armpits - yeah, I can imagine that. Now I don't want to imagine it anymore.
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Neon colours? - okay. To each their own.
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Yes, people using those bright lights should have Gorilla Glue put in their eyes.
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Flashing lights - Do you also not like the small twinkling fairy lights? What about blinking festival lights? Do you also not like any flashing traffic lights? Do you ignore flashing traffic lights?
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Eating or chewing loudly is a sign that you were not loved as a child. I'm with you on this.
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Beeping sounds - what do you plan to do when you have to be in a hospital? Say you have to visit the dentist & there are beeping sounds from their machines, you'll have to bear the beeping sounds along with your toothache.
Loud music in restaurants
People reacting loudly at sports (sudden clapping, yelling, etc)
Velvet
Leather not letting sweat evaporate
Advertising
Stickiness anywhere on my body, but it most often happens when I eat something sticky with my hands like a caramel or something.
Having something stuck between my teeth.
Dry hands. I absolutely have to moisturize at all times.
This whole thread shoulda come with a trigger warning, lol
Chalky foods (merengues, smartie candies, antacids, etc). I also hate the sound of chalk being used. It makes my teeth hurt.
Blue LEDs that aren't properly balanced (they give me migraines)
Electricity whining (I can hear this almost anywhere inside)
Dense fleeces (they make me itchy regardless of material)
Turtlenecks (I feel like I am choking)
I hate things on my face. Glasses, masks, creams, etc. Covid mask requirements drove me crazy. Still followed them because I'm not an idiot or an asshole, but, boy was I always happy to get the fuck back to my car or home so I could remove it.
I also hate cacophonies. A single loud sound is annoying but not unbearable. Being in a crowded space where hundreds of people are talking, even at a normal volume, however, is maddening. I used to have recurring nightmares about people coming up to speak to me and when they opened their mouth, it was just that murmuring sound of a large crowd. Shit gives me the willies. 😬
Acrylic blankets and microfiber. I just can't. Even thinking about it make me cringe.
I can't stand chewing noises over headphones. its fucked up to eat when your mic is on dont do it
The sound of a metal utensil squeaking against a plate. Nails on a chalkboard. Dry skin on dry paper. The smell of tobacco smoke. The sound of a modified or worn out muffler on a car or motorcycle. The tickle of a runny nose. The tickle of drops of sweat running down my face and back on a hot day.
Touching cardboard, I have realized how rough and dirty it is.
Stepping on crumbs with my bare feet.
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Wooden spoons
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Unglazed ceramic
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Synthetic fur / thermal fabric that sticks just a little bit to the microscopic burrs on the tips of your fingers
Nail filing, chalk on chalk boards, using the eraser on chalk boards