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After racking up thousands of dollars in debt, some borrowers are deleting the apps from their phones to avoid getting prodded to spend more.

Many consumers find buying now and paying later a godsend when cash is tight. Others are wishing they’d paid upfront to avoid pain later.

Tia Whiteside, 27, knew she was spending more than she would have without buy now, pay later services — the popular loans that let borrowers split purchases into installments with little or no interest. Planning a day trip to the beach with her 2-year-old son last year, she spent $800 on Amazon purchases including a tent, new outfits and a high-end sandcastle kit with the BNPL provider Affirm.

Whiteside, a Greenville, South Carolina-based behavioral analyst who treats childhood autism, makes good money; she and her husband bring in about $110,000 per year combined. But the $6,000 in BNPL loans she’d racked up over roughly two years felt frivolous, she said, especially because they’re planning to buy their first home.

“I was just seeing my paycheck continually eaten up,” said Whiteside, “and I was like, ‘Where’s my money going?’”

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[–] ExcursionInversion 63 points 7 months ago (1 children)

$800 on a day trip to the beach?? Thats insane to me.

Also never understood why anyone would you those options, they have always seemed like trap. Have some self control

[–] FlyingSquid 18 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Why do you even need a tent for the beach? Are you camping out there overnight?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I could see it being useful for keeping the sun off, serving as a refuge from insects (depending on the local biome), perhaps serving as a changing room for privacy. But yeah, it should hardly be necessary. Just another frivolous expenditure, only do it if you can genuinely afford it.

[–] partial_accumen 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

If you're spending $800 for one day at the beach its cheaper to get a day pass to a mid-to-higher end beach resort and rent a cabana. You'll get a better experience, staff that will cater to your needs and still be cheaper than $800 for one day.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

It could become a bit more reasonable when you consider that most of that gear is probably reusable, so if she expects to do day trips to the beach frequently the $800 gets amortized.

In this case, though, I wouldn't assume any forward planning like that was factored in to this.

[–] SkippingRelax 3 points 7 months ago

We both know that stuff will never be used again!

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[–] macarthur_park 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I imagine it’s more of a canopy than a sleeping tent. Something like an EZ up tent that provides more shade than just an umbrella.

I’ve used them and they’re pretty nice, especially if you’re going to be at the beach all day and don’t wanna get sun burned. That being said, it’s still a big purchase for just one day trip. I’d only invest in one if you were using it regularly, or had like a week-long trip planned.

[–] FlyingSquid 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I think I've seen those before. And I believe when I did, they were renting them out for the day like they do with chairs and umbrellas. Which I'm guessing is not uncommon at beaches.

[–] macarthur_park 4 points 7 months ago

Yeah, it would make much more sense to rent one for a day trip. Even a week vacation honestly.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I honestly don't understand why anyone thought "buy now pay later" was anything new. Usury is among the earliest professions.

[–] John_McMurray 6 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Says "no interest", so it ain't usury

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 7 months ago (6 children)

A couple of weeks back there was an article making the rounds of the fediverse about how people with reasonably decent incomes were nevertheless living "paycheck to paycheck", and a number of examples were given in the article with their individual stories of woe about how they were baffled by how burdened with debt they were. Most of those stories, when you dug in with just a slightly critical eye instead of an automatic assumption of victimhood, revealed people making foolish choices to take on debt and support the maximally lavish lifestyle that they could manage.

The comment section was weird. It turned out that there were some people there who thought this was perfectly reasonable, giving examples of "necessary expenditures" from their own lives that were just as excessive when examined. If you think that building a deck or buying a new bed simply because it's "time for a new one" are necessary expenditures then it's kind of hard to be sympathetic when you complain about how you have no money for long-term savings.

Is there just some basic personality type that finds it hard to be responsible with money, or is this a failure of education somehow? I have ideas for how to help but help will be unwelcome by people who refuse to recognize that they have a problem.

[–] Kyrgizion 17 points 7 months ago

simply because it’s “time for a new one”

Depends. There are probably people who say that after a few years, and others use it for 10-15 before making that exclamation. In which case the choice for a new bed is (depending on your choice) no longer a luxury expense but a maintenance one.

[–] cybervseas 14 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Is there just some basic personality type that finds it hard to be responsible with money, or is this a failure of education somehow? I have ideas for how to help but help will be unwelcome by people who refuse to recognize that they have a problem.

I think a few things come together to bring us here:

  • Modern education has completely abandoned teaching personal finance to kids.
  • Modern payment technology (credit cards, tap to pay, apple pay) have separated us all from the tangible feeling of spending our cash on stuff. Now we don't even swipe a card or hand over a credit card to pay for something.
  • Influencers and social media create new, unrealistic expectations of lifestyle.
  • Highly targeted advertising on the web, in apps, and through paid influencers and social media, finds people at their most vulnerable moments and suggests that they buy stuff. Companies are targeting the weaknesses in our psychology and it's hard to withstand that onslaught.
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[–] SkippingRelax 8 points 7 months ago

Ah the person that complains they had to tap into their investments because you need to periodically get a new bed and redo your deck and can't save money. Yes I got downvoted for providing basic personal finance recommendations there!

I think the problem is a combination of the things you mention, and the fact that society is just normalising stupid spending, waste of resources and spending everything you earn, if not more.

When on reddit, I was active on personal finance subs. The amount of people asking for suggestions on how to improve their budget that didn't see anything wrong with 10-12 subscriptions for shows and music, on top of astronomic phone bills, eating out etc was crazy. At least they took the first step, wrote down their expenses, and were asking for help. The bed/deck guy was just pure madness.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I commented there, and while I do lean towards the idea that personal finance literacy is an issue, I don't think that it's purely a matter of self-control. I don't think this is necessarily a "Bob knows that he should spend N and save X but instead spends N+X" situation. I think that some of it is that people do not really have a great idea of what they should be doing in terms of personal finance. Like, what is a reasonable amount to be spending? How much should I be spending on housing? How much should be going towards retirement? How much of an emergency buffer should I have? What should I do with money that I save?

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[–] John_McMurray 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yes. Absolutely there is, the personality thing. It's undiagnosed learning disabilities, ADHD or just a straight up person who would have been a well regarded hunter a different century.

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[–] herescunty 36 points 7 months ago (2 children)

A high end sandcastle kit?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 7 months ago

Sounds like a GREAT reason to over borrow.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

high-end sandcastle kit

I mean, we built some pretty neat sandcastles as kids with our hands. Dig a hole, put the sand in front of it as a barrier, scoop up sand+water from the hole and create "drip castles" with turrets and such that harden as they dry.

If you're buying decorations, I'm thinking that it's gonna be liable to wind up with plastic decorations or something left behind.

And in that case...I mean, the kid is 2 years old. I figure that she probably wants the best for him and all, but...I've seen a lot of 2-year-olds enjoy the box that a toy came in a lot more than the toy. I dunno if his sandcastle experience is gonna be so much more awesome with some kinda kit than just experiencing and learning how wet sand acts...

[–] IsThisAnAI 20 points 7 months ago

Idiots spend money they don't have. News at 11.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago (3 children)

The only purchase I'm willing to go into debt for is a house and a car. Anything else I spend on should be something I already have the money for. I don't understand how some people are willing to take out loans for miscellaneous things that aren't even necessities.

[–] joel_feila 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Well medical care is not house or car but needed.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

For sure. I forgot to include that, since it’s a necessity after all.

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[–] taranasus 7 points 7 months ago

People have completely lost track of what wealth looks like and it's not their fault. Using UK numbers cause that's where I live:

  • salary for a 21yo in 1970 for a white collar job: £1861 - £24k adjusted for inflation. Pretty on par with today's salary for a starting white collar job.
  • price of the average house in the UK in 1970: £4378. About 3 times the above annual salary. Adjusted for inflation that's £57,491. The average price of a house in the UK right now is £260,000 after dropping from 300 due to current market. 10 Times the annual salary.

You go to work at least 8 hours a day 5 days a week, in a culture that's indoctrinating you that you should be thankful you even have these horrible work conditions and pay, you spend half of more of your income on a landlords mortgage payments + extra, and for what? So you can't even afford to buy a damn games console outright and drown your sorrows in a virtual world?

Yeah no shit their overspending, they just want to live a little of their life when they can but they can't even afford to do that.

And to everyone that's about to write "well if they would budget better" kindly fuck into the sun. First of all not everyone should be an accountant in order to live comfortably. A lot of people simply don't have the skills necessity to do it. But more important, a full time job should be enough to provide for yourself, your family (1 spouse 1 child) and a mortgage on a house or apartment suitable for this family of 3. Not because I feel like people are entitled to this, fast from it, but because this was the norm 55 years ago. This was the normal for my grandparents. Society is supposedly evolving. The first world countries where this was the norm have, supposedly, grown their economies by A LOT. How can it be possible that the majority is worse off than 55 years ago in a more modern society and in now a lot more advanced economies.

But the answer is very simple really isn't it. You can't afford a house or a car made in the last decade while the rich are having literally privatised space races. Space races were exclusively the hobbies of nuclear superpowers, funded by taxpayers. How exactly did private individuals summon up the funds to advice this?

Well, you fill in the dots...

[–] SkippingRelax 6 points 7 months ago

ITT a breath of fresh air. I am not alone in having an interest in personal finance, and understanding the basics of it.

Most of my interactions on lemmy so far have been making me feel guilty (and downvoted) for saving some money like I was a dirty billionaire, and to invest in index funds, using capital to further oppress the masses.

[–] paraphrand 4 points 7 months ago (3 children)
[–] hark 4 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Well if it isn't then more than half the country is making bad money: https://fred.stlouisfed.org/series/MEPAINUSA672N

[–] phoneymouse 7 points 7 months ago

More than half the country is making bad money! We’ve been ripped off since the 70s. There was a Time article a few years back that calculated how if wages had kept pace with productivity, like it did up until the 70s, then Americans would be $50 trillion richer. Instead that money went to the rich. The rich has scraped off the $50 trillion in wages from the working class and that’s why everyone is paycheck to paycheck.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

Our country is big, and has wild variances in both cost and standard of living.

I make a bit less, and $55k would change very little other than the fact that I'd be able to get medical care. I'd still have to live 40 miles from work in an ancient apartment, I'd still be unable to go out to eat or spend money on recreation, and I'd still have to ration my grocery money pretty carefully.

Where my best friend lives, this would be cocaine and hookers every weekend kind of money. Their rent is $400, and again, they live alone.

But on the coast, you couldn't live even with several roommates. You'd be homeless.

[–] Fosheze 4 points 7 months ago

I make $50,000 and I live alone in a 3 bedroom house (a fixer upper but decent enough) which I own in a decent part of my not even terribly small city (~50,000 people). And I live comfortably enough even though I put very little effort into budgeting. Only 3 years ago I was still living in the same house/area off of $30,000 and even that was technically livable. $55,000 in my area is decent money as long as you don't go completely wild with it and it's downright great in a dual income household. There are also areas of the contry that have an even lower cost of living than mine.

Once you get out of the metropolitan areas money usually stretches much farther.

[–] Evotech 4 points 7 months ago

Depends on where you live

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