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[–] flicker 65 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Anybody saying the anythings are the best time of your life is a fucking liar. You won't know what was the best time of your life until it's over.

Signed, Somebody who hated her entire goddamned childhood/adolescence/20s

[–] Nudding 0 points 10 months ago

Me, an intellectual: life is suffering. Death is the release.

[–] misterdoctor 55 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Looks pretty fucking great to me honestly. Hanging out at home. Got some snacks, a good game. A comfy couch. A little drink.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Add a pet and you’re golden imo.

[–] misterdoctor 28 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Couldn’t agree more

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

*A pet without Satan's eyes.

[–] Jerkface 28 points 10 months ago (3 children)

My 20's were better than my teens. My 30's have been better than my 20's.

[–] dingus 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

You know what, you're right. My 20s have been mostly like the photo in the OP...but chilling out yourself in your own time is still a lot better than the whole growing up through puberty thing.

[–] TIMMAY 5 points 10 months ago

I have observed an opposite trend

[–] thehorsefromthehorseheresy 5 points 10 months ago

30s are/will be my 20s but financially stable.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Your 30's are better anyway.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I'm halfway thru my 30s and they're far worse than my 20s

[–] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I'm in my 40s and incredibly comfortable, money isn't an issue at all. Bit numb to life, though but I was living out of my car in my 20s.

[–] Dr_Fetus_Jackson 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

50's have been fantastic so far. The 40's numbness gave way to less fucks given somewhere along the way.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Can I give less fucks than now? We'll, I look forward to numbness subsiding.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

That rings really true. I’ve got a few more health issues, but nothing terrible. My material and financial situation is so much better than in my 20s. But still, I’m just a bit numb about enjoying things and kinda nostalgic for when I felt more. And I miss all of the easy friendships from my college and post college years.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

I think that's why some of us spend $300 to buy a GI Joe tiger force helicopter. To try and feel that joy you did so many years ago. Don't feel depressed, just maybe that I've experience so many things that the fun has gone away. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

I'm 32 and have given up on pretty much all of the hopes and dreams that I had in my teens and 20s.

[–] FlexibleToast 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I agree. I finally have the money to do the things I wish I could have done in my 20s. The problem now is that my body isn't quite what it used to be.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Ha! Wait till your 40s. At least now your brain is fully cooked.

[–] FlexibleToast 2 points 10 months ago

I can see where this trend is heading. I also fully understand the phrase, "Youth is wasted on the young."

[–] sagrotan 21 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It's going even more downhill from there, believe you me. Enjoy your shitty food, video games and young loneliness. It'll only develop into old person eats shitty food and regrets it instantly, plays video games that are no longer interesting to you and old person loneliness. Ask me how I know...

[–] Psythik 6 points 10 months ago (3 children)

That's the worst part of being 30+ for me. Not enjoying anything anymore. Being able to afford a 4090, but video games just aren't fun anymore like they used to be. And the few high school friends I had all disappeared and moved on with their lives before I even reached 25. So now the only form of enjoyment I get comes from my car. If I didn't have something that was fun to drive, I'd have nothing.

At first I thought it was just depression. But I went to several psychologists; tried various anti-depresssnts and mood stabilizers but none of them do anything for me. So I don't think I have depression. The body simply does not want to enjoy anything anymore once you get older. Sucks, man.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago

But I went to several psychologists; tried various anti-depresssnts and mood stabilizers but none of them do anything for me.

Just want to point out that the efficacy of treatments isn't an indication of whether you actually have depression or not. Took me many years to find a working combination of meds and therapy, and it's still a struggle.

You mention your friends moving away, this could be loneliness/isolation. Made me think of this article: Why Americans Suddenly Stopped Hanging Out

If I were to play "internet therapist" here (which is totally always a great idea) I would suggest to try spontaneity. Shake things up, go outside your not-so-comfort-zone, because it sounds to me like what you've been doing isn't working. And logic dictates the only way to find something that does work is by trying something different.

[–] dingus 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I'm almost 30 and I stopped enjoying video games long ago... probably late teens into early twenties. It kin dof stinks because it's a great solo activity, get I just can't get into it. People say I should find a hobby, but everything just feels like "work" to me. When I get home at the end of the day, I only have the motivation and mental capacity to veg out on the couch or online. Mine isn't depression either. It's just like I don't have the mental capacity to do stuff like that for whatever reason. I actually enjoy watching people play video games, just not playing them myself.

[–] Donjuanme 2 points 10 months ago

Reach out to the high school contacts who weren't your friends, chances are there's a large% of them also feeling isolated, and you will have shared experiences.

And don't give up on therapy/therapeutics. Everyone's isolated right now, despite what their screen tells them

[–] robocall 1 points 10 months ago

Hey, how do you know all that?

[–] Son_of_dad 20 points 10 months ago

They meant back in the day when a 20 year old could get a bullshit job, and still be paid enough to party, travel, buy nice things and save for a bit for a house.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 months ago (1 children)

NGL, 30s are where it's at. All my 20s people shit on people over 30 acting like they were old and out of touch. Maybe I am but tbh I have loved my 30s like I lived my 20s except I have more money, know what I like and don't like, and feel zero pressure to do anything I don't want to. It owns, highly recommend.

[–] Num10ck 3 points 10 months ago

out of touch = untouchable

[–] frickineh 14 points 10 months ago

My 20s were a bit of a shitshow, actually. Had that partially developed brain making a lot of stupid choices and I had no clue who I really was or what I wanted. My 30s have been a lot better, even accounting for the fact that I got divorced. I turn 40 soon and I'm hopeful for the next decade. I fully expect to give my last fuck sometime soon.

[–] ConditionOverload 9 points 10 months ago

Hate when people say a certain time period of your life should be the best time of your life. Childhood, teenage years, 20s... High school, college... It doesn't matter. Your life is yours and it's different than anyone else's. You're allowed to have different points in your life when it's good and bad. Don't feel like you're missing out because of some pointless, arbitrary rule that says this is supposed to be the best point in your life.

[–] Z3k3 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I was told that my school age was the best time of my life. This coincided with the time of my life whereinwas bullied to te point of multiple suicide attempts that went unreported because my parents and guardians thought it was embarrassing

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

buT In A FEw yEaRS yOU wiLl lOoK bACk aT tHIs tiMe ANd UndERsTAnD wHAT we Are TAlktIng ABouT!1!!1

But honestly, I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you all the strength for your future life

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

People who say "XX Years are the best" have simply fucked up and like to think of their past. It is stupid nonsense.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

You'll see. Still true

[–] CleoTheWizard 7 points 10 months ago

I know you might need to hear this. The things you’re doing right now, they aren’t a mistake. There is no answer, no perfect life to live. You’re doing okay. Your life will always be a work in progress. Please don’t feel like your life needs to become something to be worthy of respect. Think back to a time in your life that you regret wasting time. Was the past you content in that moment? Then why regret it?

To everyone who sat on the couch too long. Who stayed in that broken relationship. Who dropped out of school. Who betrayed someone close to them. Or who missed an opportunity. Or who made a minor social error. Forgive yourself for those things. For everything. That thing you’re holding on to. Forgive yourself for that too.

I want you to know that the world is a better place with you in it. You don’t need to be important in your world. Just to yourself.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

Yeah those people are lying.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I think the intention of that statement is that you are an adult, but often won't have the full responsibilities of adulthood until later. So it's kinda like having the most freedom to do what you want before you get settled, and while you are at or near your physical peak.

(Obviously this varies a lot between individuals, and I don't really agree with the sentiment anyhow)

[–] doingthestuff 5 points 10 months ago

As a 50 yo this looks amazing

[–] StayDoomed 4 points 10 months ago

IIT: angry people in their 20s saying that no one will tell them when to have a good time!

[–] yamanii 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I miss having free time, you can pirate fine here so as a teen I consumed a lot of media without any money.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Lol :-/ Lmao

[–] Thcdenton 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Find a sport you really love. You'll make new friends, feel healthier, and life wont feel like a waste so much anymore. Its not a cure-all but it sure makes life better.

[–] sagrotan 3 points 10 months ago

Yeah, that's right. Do yoga. Eat good. Exercise daily. Smile and dance once a day. Embrace the sun and a tree here and there. NOPE. I say: find a drug you really love, something reasonably natural, you'll make new friends, feel good every day, when you buy it and can go home at last, all other problems are just disappearing, no more taxes, career, consume, all gone. No more pain. It's not a cure, but it'll sure make life different. Oh, and cultivate your sarcasm, THAT can be a cure.