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[–] [email protected] 35 points 6 months ago (1 children)

"Just live your life and do what you do, your person will find you"

me half a mile into a 24" drainage tunnel unable to stand or see anything ahead or behind me: :/ wish there were rat girls(or fembois)

[–] toynbee 6 points 6 months ago

I didn't know post10 used Lemmy.

[–] problematicPanther 18 points 6 months ago

"Now, Lou Ann, life can sometimes throw you a curveball. When that happens, there are two things you can do: Cry, and that's the path that you've chosen Or you can not cry. Instead of letting it out, try holding it in. Every time you have a feeling, just stick it into a pit inside your stomach and never let it out." -hank hill

[–] darthsid 14 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 38 points 6 months ago

I think it's slang for ignoring your problems and compressing them into a tiny ball of stress deep inside your mind instead of doing anything to alleviate the suffering.

[–] AtariDump 11 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Is that George Michael from Arrested Development?

[–] poplargrove 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Looks a lot like Michael Cera

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Isn't that a character in This Is The End?

[–] Pretzilla 7 points 6 months ago

No, it's George Maharis, not the star of the 1960s series Route 66 (1960), who was once arrested for having homosexual sex with a hairdresser named Perfecto Telles in a gas station bathroom.

[–] LeafOnTheWind 6 points 6 months ago

No it's Scott Pilgrim

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

The cure is obviously alcohol to numb the feelings

[–] niktemadur 6 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

The Cure!

Back in the mid-to-late 80s when The Cure came to town, a buddy of mine didn't have the money left over after buying his ticket to buy any official merch, but he did have enough to buy a bootleg t-shirt in the parking lot, with a tiny The Cure decal cheaply ironed into the breast pocket.

Next day in school, many were sporting their brand new t-shirts with THE CURE HEAD ON THE DOOR NORTH AMERICAN TOUR 1986 or whatever it was.
A stoner guy approached my friend with his tiny "The Cure" t-shirt and the exchange went something like this:

"Hey man... where'd you get the shirt?"
"At the Cure concert."
"Oh for sure, for sure..." as he turned and walked away.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

The cure is to not be a man... I hope

[–] LemmyKnowsBest 0 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Is this assuming that women don't suffer from the same thing?

[–] TotallynotJessica 46 points 6 months ago (3 children)

There are some unique reasons that men are more lonely, even if we all are as well. They don't show weakness to their friends or help each other out as much emotionally. The vast majority of men have no support network for this sort of thing. The bros will help out materially, but less so emotionally.

Capitalism is still more to blame than gender for lonely men, but they have an extra disadvantage. We all need societal change, but men have a harder time finding that sense of belonging than women. It's how gangs, militaries, and fascists lure in boys. They promise a place for men, even if it's as a disposable tool. Liberals used to promise men a place as successful workers, but that place has disappeared with the middle class, while fascists get to blame feminists for capitalism's effects.

[–] Gonzako 13 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Man, it's cool to see some empathy around. With the bear thing it's dried up quite a bit.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Do you mean the activity about the question or the question itself?

I haven't engaged, so I don't know how mean people have really been getting, but that topic was more about, like, a verifiable sociological reality among women. I wouldn't take it personally.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Maybe you should express empathy for the women saying they'd rather chill with a wild animal because of their traumatic experiences.

[–] Gonzako 10 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I do have empathy for victims of terrible human beings but I've got enough self-respect to take such a bad-faith argument at face value

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

I have no interest in arguing in any faith, sorry.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

My ex was physically abusive and a pedophile, but I'm not more afraid of half the human population than I am of a grizzly bear because that would be fucking insane.

[–] ZILtoid1991 9 points 6 months ago

I have a former friend, that turned fascist due to incel reasons.

Societal exceptions will also make men's safety networks way less efficient. My family helped me way less financially than any of my female relatives to avoid "spoiling me". I just smart enough to realize it wasn't the welfare state that did this.

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod 2 points 6 months ago

Wait, you guys have bros?

[–] utrinity 15 points 6 months ago

Women who suffer from male loneliness?🤔

[–] capital 8 points 6 months ago

The title does not suggest that.