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Police say a former student came forward claiming that when he was 14, Melissa Curtis, 31, sexually abused him

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[–] TheBananaKing 51 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm just amazed that it was called 'sexual abuse' and not 'an intimate relationship', a 'romp', etc. like it usually is.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It's taken a while but looks like we'll be able to call a sexual abuser a sexual abuser regardless of gender!

[–] Pasta4u 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Was reading about one 49 year old who raped a 14 year old and just got probation. So women still get away with much worse than men.

[–] EmpathicVagrant 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I mean regarding teachers that may seem like the case, but there’s preteen mothers that would like a word.

Most abusers don’t even get probation, if they’re reported at all.

[–] NOT_RICK 25 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I really don’t understand the psychology that pushes someone to do something like this. I suppose I should be glad about that

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] -3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Lots of reasons but it's generally by women who lack a partner or don't have thier emotional needs met. They don't feel threatened by the child and confuse thier mentor/pupil relationship as love and as such doesn't see thier abuse for what it is.

[–] Tedesche 16 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Source? I’m sorry, but that kind of sounds like you’re letting female sexual abusers off the hook a bit by arguing their actions are innocent in their own minds. I don’t think these women are that stupid or deluded. I agree they find boys non-threatening, but I don’t think they construe their own manipulation of a young, naïve teenager as completely innocent. They know they’re taking advantage, they just don’t care.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-act-violence/201208/female-teachers-sexual-predators

But for female teachers, other motives may come into play: the desire to “care for” a male child from a broken home, which then de-evolves into sex; a need to feel attractive, wanted, and sexually desired by a young man, who may not have the capacity to understand or give real love, but certainly has the testosterone to provide sex; or even as revenge against a husband who is no longer emotionally supportive.

https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/lessons-learn-female-educators-who-sexually-abuse-their-students

"Heterosexual nurturers” are women who develop sexual relationships with children and adolescents on the basis of feelings of love or a desire for intimacy. These women also often mistakenly assert that their behavior is not abusive.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

pedophile noun pe·​do·​phile ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l ˈpē- : one affected with pedophilia

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I thought it had something to do with feet.

According to wikipedia:

Pedophilia (alternatively spelled paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.


Is 14 generally considered to be 'prepubescent'?

[–] SheeEttin 2 points 10 months ago

I hate that I know this, but when it's ~15-19, it's ephebophilia.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Preadolescence is commonly defined as ages 9–12

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Preadolescence

no but pretty close, still predatory as fuck.

[–] kalkulat -2 points 10 months ago

Oh, that poor victim.