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Lemmy reacts to a non-sexualized silly outfit pic in a totally normal way…
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i fail to understand how i am very respectable when i try to find a girlfriend yet this misogyny is widely celebrated by some men and some women find it acceptable. is somthing wrong with me?
"Italians do it better" is an intentional double entendre, so I feel moving to a more sexual commentary is not wholly out of the ballpark of reasonableness.
Fuck "Is this your first day on the internet" response, though, and the other two weird comments.
We really 95% male here, though? I thought it was more like 70-30.
Those are yucky comments anywhere other than an lemmynsfw community or a community with a suggestive name. I can't glean much context from this screenshot of the post but in general, I believe horniness should be kept to horny online places.
We can and should do much better than that.
based and kindnesspilled
Those are yucky comments anywhere other than an lemmynsfw community or a community with a suggestive name.
Or RoastMe if Lemmy has such community, but basically all such communities require you hold up a sign with your username to prove it is actually yourself (good).
Related to the previous posts bit, but I remember first seeing the Man vs. Bear memes.
I'll admit it was hard not to take it personally at first, because even if you agreed with the core of the message, it feels like you're being lumped in with the worst of menkind for no good reason. That's probably why the reaction was so toxic, because people just replied with their gut reaction, which was to take offence...
But upon giving it a bit of thought, I realised that as a guy who's lived in some dodgy areas, I think I too would oftentimes prefer to take my chances with a bear than alone with a stranger at night - not cause I think I'd beat the bear, but at least you know what the bear's probably gonna do...
And if I feel that way being a man, then considering (on average) women are weaker than men of the same build, I can see why women would feel that way too.
Indian metal band Bloodywood has the best take on the "all men" issue:
Not all men?
Yes all men!
Need all men for what we're solving
Can't be what it's been but we're evolving
The patriarchy privileges every man, which means every man needs to fight the system. If every man who hears the message and isn't an abuser stands up and does something, we can end the patriarchy. It's not "every man is guilty", it's "every man is responsible, and we can end it together."
And the rest of the song is about punching rapists.
I agree with this and I have absolutely no desire to undermine the problems that women face. However I think it is also important to understand how many men also feel oppressed by the patriarchy as well. Obviously women have been and continue to be oppressed to a far greater and much more literal degree, but so many men feel this immense pressure to "be a man." This frustration at feeling inadequate because of these immense pressures is what makes so many men as dangerous and unpredictable as they are. I really think this is a major part of the issue, we need more men to stand up and realize that they don't have to conform to some shitty societal idea of what masculinity should be, same as how women have been fighting against their own traditional gender roles. Any man who can feel secure in being himself regardless of society's expectations should help the men in his life to understand the same. Maybe then we'd have less insecure, dangerous men running around.
Oh yeah Bloodywood get that. They're an all male band. They also have songs about struggling with suicide and living your own truth
(In Hindi:)
I am not voiceless, I am endurant
I m not a stray rock, I am the founding stone of a mountain
I am not weak, I am forgiving
Within darkness, I am my own light
They are the most positive male role models you can imagine, openly talking about personal struggle and about the things they told themself to overcome those struggles.
And they also think the working class should rise up and redistribute wealth. They've used the proceeds from their tours to help homeless animals and pay for counselling for young people. They say if the conditions faced by the poorest in society don't change, the owning class should expect a riot. "No flag on my bulletproof vest".
this is so sick ty for sharing
Fuck every man for himself
It's every man for every man
And everybody else
Everybody else
🤘😫
By the way, their most popular song is about politicians who use religion to divide people. It's called Gadaar, which is Hindi for Traitor.
hell yeah dude. it’s an uncomfortable conclusion to draw, but it’s an uncomfortable reality we live in.
Love getting the wakeup call that just because something is part of the fediverse it is not inherently good or perfekt and still needs work (in regards of the humans that join)
Shit misogynists say
The men ain't sending their best, folks.
They’re sending rapists—and some of us, I assume, are good people
Which instance was this on?
[email protected] which someone else said has a problem with this sort of thing. wasn’t personally aware it was localized.
.world users suck compared to blahaj.zone. With .ml, you get tankies, but with .world, you get more transphobes and lib normies. I spend all my time here, getting shocked by what's normalized when I visit other instances. The people here can be horny, but are much more likely to respect boundaries if told.
Oh shit, I've seen this (yours) post a few hours ago, but just now I noticed that's Lemmy...
I thought that was from Reddit at first.
i miss [bigotry showcase] it made me feel like i was on the sane part of the internet
Reminds me of the days of circlebroke and srs. It was always nice realizing that I wasn't alone in thinking the comments of a post on my frontpage were rancid.
I'd offer to maintain something similar myself but I know myself well enough that it would slip my mind after a few weeks.
What happens when you group all chronically online nerds in one place (twice not going outside and talking to girls)
tbh put some respect on the name of chronically online nerds- that describes like a ton of my friends who would never say this shit lmao
these guys are like a really sad subsection of that group
Has that picture cropped off the S or a comma?
Is it "Italians do it better" or "Italian, do it better'
it’s the full plural “italians” like in the madonna music video
Who is this? They look familiar.
Prominent YouTuber and OnlyFans model Trisha Paytas
trisha paytas! she was on SNL (for like ten seconds) the other day