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This is a message to all straight guys: buy gay underwear!

Get yourself on Andrew Christian, Box, or Aussiebum, or any of the other underwear sites that cater to gay men. We have styles of underwear you wouldn't believe. Yes there'll be rainbows on a bunch of them, but there's plenty that are more "reserved".

BUT, what we do have is a wide range of styles that are comfortable and sexy. We have underwear that separates your cock from your balls, which are really comfortable. We have styles that allow you to show off, or act demure. We have boxer shorts that have freaking pockets!

And because the queer community largely (not always, but we're working on it) accepts all body types, we even cater to larger guys who need a little more room in their smalls.

Seriously boys, get yourself some sexy gay undies. Your junk, and your partners, will thank you.

SAXX

They are pricey but totally worth it. They last a long time, are very comfortable and have a pouch for your stuff. You can usually find deals on their website for things like discontinued holiday prints. I don't really care what mine look like so I wear a lot of Christmas themed boxer briefs. I'd recommend the Vibe.

Boxer briefs are the best of both worlds. Not too tight like a regular brief underwear, not too loose like boxer shorts, and still has adequate ball support.

Duluth Trading men's "Buck Naked" boxer briefs are pretty good.

Nothing fancy here, but Hanes makes boxer briefs with a little pouch to give your boys a little extra support.

I'm sure other brands offer a similar style, and may be even better, but I can at least vouch for the Hanes.

My friend, it's like searching for true love. You're going to have to go out there and spend the money and try on different styles until you find the right one.

I did a thing a couple years ago where I dropped about $500 buying every style of boxer brief that looked appealing or had a strong fanbase. I tried saxx, Duluth, all citizens, meundies, bn3th, Mac Weldon, Lululemon, Tommy John, separatec, and probably a few others.

All Citizens are my winner overall - the BN3TH are also really nice - I actually like their cuts and design better, but the materials don't hold up nearly as well as the All Citizens. All Citizens are also much better value, IMO.

For the All Citizens, I'm specifically talking about their Paradise Pocket boxer briefs. My legs are proportionally beefy in comparison to my waist, so it's also nice that All Citizens offer an "Athletic Fit" option that keeps the legs from being overly tight. Just snug enough not to ride up without pinching or leaving a visible line visible through pants.

Sizes are very different depending on where you live, so I'm not sure what size you actually are. I have underwear from Asia that's XXL, and underwear from North America that's medium.

Have you tried pocketed underwear?
It'll stop your balls from flopping around without squishing your dick because the fabric is too tight. If you follow the "Keep it slick (hairless) if you want it licked" way of thinking for your balls, it'll also prevent "batwing" by keeping them from touching your thighs.

All of the underwear I wear now are pocketed, some of them are codpiece-styled, which can be fun

Am I the only person that actually wants an openable fly in their boxer-briefs? All these companies these days willing to make 2 distinct pockets for balls and shaft but won't let me poke out for fresh air or a bathroom trip without having to deal with the waistband drive me nuts. My cock didn't commit any crimes, I don't want to force it into solitary confinement...

The worst part is I found my perfect underwear several years back and the company has basically disappeared. They had a sort of soft and loose-ish horizontal fly that basically revolutionized my relationship with my crotch and I can't find more :(

Got myself some StepOne boxers, best undies I've ever owned no questions asked. Miles better than anything else I've worn, I'm incapable of going back to lesser pants now. They are made with bamboo fiber, have a low friction glide panel between your legs and have a pouch for the junk to sit in. They aren't cheap but worth every penny in my opinion.

Boxer briefs. I have a bunch of moisture wicking clothes from 32 Degrees' Cool line that I pick up when they're on sale. They've been quite good at keeping cool and dry, as well as being comfortable.

I think I used to be in the same situation, used to always go for boxer-shorts since i liked having the swinging freedom, but my balls would get uncomfortable.

In comes Dual-Pouch underwear, best of both worlds for me. They look like normal underwear except they have a hole to put the penis in so it drops to the second pouch.

You get a good ball support and you don't have to squish your dick for it or the other case where everything is free, but so are the balls. This fixes that for me

I got the brand 'Separatec' style: everyday

I have been free balling it most of my life.

Having went through this recently and tried ~5 brands, I recommend Duluth. I like the dang soft, but I'm still exploring their line up.

Personally I use meundies long boxer briefs. They run a little small. I'm a big guy, 40-44 waist, usually for shirts I wear a 2x, 1x if it runs big. I need to go 3x in meindies and even then they're a little tight, but not uncomfortably so.

They last a while, I've had a few pairs for a few years now. I'd recommend joining the membership (no fees, cancel anytime, postpone anytime) and get a pair. If you like them, get a new pair every month or two. Till you fill out your closet.

They're a little pricey at close to $15 - $20 a pair, but they're fun patterns and decent quality if you feel like splurging. But get ready for ads on every ither youtube video for the next year if you even go to their website

I can recommend Duluth boxers and briefs, they have a few that tend to hold you in place. They're not cheap, but they generally last a pretty long time and are comfortable. Hanes are good as well, just found they were slightly less comfortable.

I have a similar issue that the package often goes backward, if that makes sense. It's so uncomfortable if it happens after taking a seat in a meeting so you can't fix it. My solution is to purchase boxer briefs from those fetish brands. They usually carry a product line that pushes up the package. I don't need the visual appeal but the design groups everything to the front, so they have nowhere else to go. Then you just choose a size that the pouch is just big enough.

MeUndies thongs for men are absolutely fantastic and my go to daily underwear. They take about a day to get used to but after you do you won’t want to wear anything else.

Boxer briefs all the way. Most of mine are Levis and I'm happy with em.

Get a meundies account for a month and order one of each style that you're interested in. Then buy the style you like. Their model (subscription) sucks but their underwear is comfy

Will second pouch recommendation. It's a small but significant difference.

BootyShorts! T-bo are my fav

Have you tried boxer briefs? It's the best of both worlds. There really aren't that many different options, just try a few more and see how you feel.

Try different brands as well, they all feel different. In addition to different brands, they each have different sub types based on what material used.

They’re not cheap, but I have been rocking lululemon boxer briefs since roughly when the pandemic started. They’re cut so that you’ll have a nice pocket for the old wedding tackle, and the fit is quite flattering (or so I have been told).

You can occasionally snipe discounts on their website, or find deals at outlet locations.

I got some Ergowear boxer briefs and briefs, super comfortable and plenty of space for everything to have it's own place without getting squished.

Only downside is they aren't that cheap, though maybe there are some cheap copies out there

They're not cheap by any means but stance boxer briefs have not done me wrong. Even the tighter bits are pretty stretchy to accommodate. Loose enough but supportive.

Boxer briefs, ex officio is too expensive but pretty darn great.

I had similar issues before but then I decided to try Other Danish Guy boxers. They are expensive but I realized that they are best clothing item that I own. I have recommend them to some of my friends and few of them also fell in love with them. They are much strechier than other boxers that I have tried and really comfortable to wear.