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[–] [email protected] 46 points 4 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 40 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Actually, using alcohol could make the problem worse through classical conditioning. By drinking alcohol every time you get socially anxious, it teaches your body that alcohol is coming. That would make your body get even more anxious to make up for the anxiolytic effect of alcohol. Eventually, not only will you be dealing with social anxiety, but also alcohol cravings. You'd be socially anxious and alcohol dependent.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I understand all of that, my comment was a joke. But I appreciate you pointing this out for others.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago

cheers 🍻

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

entirely expected instance name, god bless

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

omg, is this one of those things where everyone knew they meant something, but I thought it was something else, so I go off on some unprompted lesson of facts and people roll their eyes at me? lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

nah i think it was warranted, but it's just very funny to see a big infodump given at the slightest opportunity, and then reading that instance name

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

lol, how funny! Im happy you enjoyed it ♥️

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

Used to think this, and absolutely would have ignored me if someone had said this to me at 25, but quitting booze altogether has really evened out exactly those more extreme feelings.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 4 months ago (1 children)

cognitive behavioral therapy for social anxiety can have a huge impact. also, learning diaphragmatic breathing helps regulate your stress response and can de-activate the sympathetic nervous system (and re-engage the parasympathetic nervous system). there is also some promising research emerging regarding sensiomotor psychotherapy.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

All therapy is contingent on the quality of the relationship between client and therapist. Thought Records, which are a huge part of formal cbt, can be quite effective in reducing the emotional impact of negative automatic thoughts, which is a very large component of social anxiety.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

ow my balls

[–] riodoro1 13 points 4 months ago (6 children)

Is it a new thing? Are people born after 1980 just walking anxiety?

[–] essell 49 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Nope. A very old thing.

People born before 1980 just have other names for it.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

There be ghosts in my system!

Just kidding I was born in the '80s, I'm walking anxiety.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Really couldn't have opened with that fact?

I got the cocaine and morphine ready to deal with some ghosts in the blood. What am I supposed to do now?

[–] irreticent 6 points 4 months ago

More cocaine and morphine, obviously.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 4 months ago (1 children)

People with social anxiety born before 1980 didn't have the memes to express themselves

[–] riodoro1 1 points 4 months ago (2 children)

But were there so many of them?

[–] samus12345 9 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Yes. They just didn't have nearly as many outlets to express it.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago

Hard to say. Definitely not as many people actually naming their anxiety. It was sort of taboo to talk about mental health plainly.

But a lotttt of folks with dubious coping mechanisms, just repressed and bottled up without even the memes to combat their anomie.

[–] BarbecueCowboy 11 points 4 months ago

Like a lot of the problems from the past, you basically figured it out yourself or just went off to die in a corner alone and didn't talk about it.

[–] then_three_more 4 points 4 months ago

No, people before were too. They just self medicated to the max 🍷🍷🍷🍷🥃🥃🍻🍺🍺

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

things generally haven't been great since the industrial revolution, but the big thing is that nowadays we're just soaked in stress at all times with little reprieve.
Used to be in the past that things were generally chill except for big stressful events that happened every now and then, but nowadays things are constantly loud, we constantly have to hurry to do stuff, we constantly have to worry about affording basic things and knowing that we'll probably never own a home, etc etc etc.

We're also in the middle of a loneliness epidemic, it's basically standard at this point to have few friends and not hanging out with people anywhere near enough. Add these things together and you get people being miserable.

[–] Lizardking27 1 points 4 months ago

No but the people active on social media are/want to be.

[–] Lizardking27 13 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Real answer? Do more social interactions.

Bonus, if you've had tons of social experiences, that one time you said something kinda dumb seems way less significant than if you've only had a handful of interactions.

[–] Noodle07 7 points 4 months ago

Yeah I have tons of experience saying dumb shit

[–] LouNeko 11 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Given that there always a combination of words that will end up with you being punched in the jaw, I say it's justified.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

nahh I don't believe that any given person has some magic key phrase that would change their behavior instantly

I fucking wish there were though, therapy would be so much easier

ppl who punch faces are already face punchers. just dont talk to face punchers

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Social interaction is fight or flight. The other person is thinking about whether to eat you, fuck you, or otherwise exploit you.

Ours is a transactional society.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Me and my buddy off to mutually exploit eachother over some coffee and doughnuts 😈😈

[–] irreticent 7 points 4 months ago
[–] TotallynotJessica 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm more down for eating my friends personally

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

I can do that in small quantities. Though buddy indicates you've already negotiated a relationship in which one isn't food for the other.

Hypothetically, we're supposed to be civilizations of good neighbors, so that I, Californian can trust any New Jerseyite or Alabaman not to take advantage if I'm a sexy young person in the dark of night needing a lift home. But we suck at crews of more than fifty or so people.

[–] Lizardking27 4 points 4 months ago

/s

You dropped this.

[–] samus12345 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

"Hello."

Do I punch them or run away? Maybe both??

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I read that "hello" in James May's voice, so given that scenario I'd say neither.