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Be direct. "It's been great, but I have other things to take care of (or get to bed if night). See you later!"
They literally asked "oh, what do you have to take care of?" I said "I have an oil change scheduled" and they said "oh I can go with you"
"No thanks"
Look, I understand, I have social anxiety, but you just need to say what you want and move on. Of they don't like it, then they don't like it - who cares?
This. I think this person has just shown that it's really important to set boundaries with them, and not worry if they like it.
Or better yet, don’t assume whether they’ll like it or not.
Tell them, "Sure! You can ride in the trunk 👍"
Hah!
“My wife and I planned something special for tonight and I have to do my anal douche.”
Well, I am gay so... you're not wrong.
"You're not going to believe this, but I brought my anal douche, just in case you wanted to douche together!"
That person desperately needs someone in their life to tell them the truth.
“I am done hanging out. I need to be alone now”
Some people are autistic and as an autistic person myself believe me when I say there is like one in ten thousand people who will actually tell the truth, and they only do it once in a blue moon.
Be that person.
“That would be fun but after that I have to xxxxxxx for my mom, then….xxxxxx”
Imply the ‘no’ - that would be butttttt nope.
It happens. Sometimes just "I need some personal time."