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I'm not saying particular genres, we all have our less desired musical genres, I mean music in general.

When I was a child I was very confident to say that I hated music, all kinds, and my cousin used to say that was not possible.

Turns out he was right, and I only hated the teenage music my sister from the 90s used to listen to.

Secretly I enjoyed soundtracks and OSTs from several media, such as animes (digimon openings and battle themes for example) and some TV shows or even videogames.

Then my taste "evolved" and pretty much stayed at rock, heavy metal and alike.

So that little memory lane inspired me to ask about this.

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"Amusia" is apparently a thing, which would be the inability to feel patterns in pitch, beat and/or rhythm in music, so I can definitely see those people not enjoying music so much. I can't relate at all, but I guess I can't exactly relate to what it's like to be blind either...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Now that we are talking about disabilities... I didn't even consider deaf people... Perhaps some deaf people are not capable of liking music? (I suppose there are levels of deaf, as blind people do).

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Deaf people can still feel vibrations from music, and in my experience tend to enjoy that quite a lot

[–] Fondots 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had a teacher once who used to work at a school for the deaf and he told us about their school dances. Apparently they would crank the bass way up so everyone could feel the vibrations, and apparently a lot of the kids would carry balloons around because you can really feel it in the balloons, it actually sounded like a pretty cool experience

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[–] Blyfh 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well, that doesn't stop one from liking music, no? Music has such a wide range, there is music without rhythm/beat (or a very different understanding of the concept of "rhythm"), without melody or patterns in general. I think this just narrows down your choice, but doesn't make you hate music.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Note that I'm using these terms in their largest, most generic sense. Melody as elements of pitch with some kind of temporal progression. Beat as in a regular pulse around which sounds are organized. Rhythm as a form of temporal repetition or pattern (you can have rhythm without a beat). As far as I know, they're pretty much the fundamental differentiating elements versus what's just called noise.

I know there are types of music that stretches the limits of what most consider music, but I'm trying very hard to think about a single thing we'd call music that doesn't have at least one of those elements, and I just can't. Maybe you could come up with some examples, cause I really can't haha. I was thinking of things like Perendecki's Threnody, but it definitely has melodic elements, despite being mostly extremely ambiant and atonal/dissonant. John Cage's Prepared Piano stuff is basically all rhythm. Most ambiant music is extremely melodic.

[–] PetDinosaurs 20 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Music was much better when I was younger and more emotionally vulnerable.

I also like music from before my time, when they used to let ugly people make it.

It's complicated.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Maybe you are just bad at finding new music you like. There's an insane amount out there.

[–] morphballganon 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The people who make good music are still mostly not conventionally beautiful.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

There's like 3 regular-looking Swedes who make just about all popular music, isn't there?

[–] Nihilore 2 points 1 year ago
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[–] glimse 8 points 1 year ago

Reconsider that statement. Outside of top40 there's no shortage of unattractive artists making amazing music. Music has always ranged from bad to good and ugly to attractive in about the same proportion

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I also like music from before my time, when they used to let ugly people make it.

Are you implying only cute or handsome people do "music" nowadays? Because that is not true at all.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Um... You know there's millions of indie artists who are ugly making just what you are looking for, right? I listen to music all day, hardly any of it mainstream. Most of the really popular stuff is worse than a lot of the independent or small label stuff you'll find.

[–] Substance_P 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"when they used to let ugly people make it" funny comment, sad but true.

[–] glimse 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Funny comment but completely untrue, goddamn lol

Listen beyond what top40 stations play for you.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Dude the internet exists. You’re on it now. It’s not hard to find shit you enjoy if you put some time into it. Find a local scene. Enjoy music.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I know people who hate some music and are apathetic at best to all the rest, but I feel like theres enough variety that no one would hate all music.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I feel like my dad would be the closest person to hating music. I absolutely love music, so did my mom. My sister was into music when she was a teen and then it was more like: yeah i like when there is some music. I asked my dad once if he doesn't like any music. He didn't answer but 3 days later he said he liked the beach boys. He has no album or anything from the beach boys. I once bought him some Mozart album, because he said he liked Mozart. They are still sealed 10 years later. Every time we exchange cars, the radio of his car is just shut off. So i genuinely believe that my dad doesn't actually like music at all.

[–] pete_the_cat 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

There is a condition called Misophonia which literally makes even the most pleasant music sound like silverware in a garbage disposal. I remember finding out about it on Reddit.

Since I watched Guardians of the Galaxy 2 recently it reminds me of Drax recounting how he met is wife: "When I met my sweet Evette (?) she wouldn't dance at all. The most melodic song would come on and she wouldn't even tap her foot. She wouldn't move a muscle. Some people would think she was dead. It was so beautiful."

[–] AA5B 13 points 1 year ago

Streaming services have been a life changer for me. Previously I rarely listened to music because radio was too much blather and I never got my music collection to the point of being convenient. However since I started subscribing to a streaming service, I listen constantly, to music from various genres and time periods, and have rediscovered music I like that had previously been too much hassle.

Most importantly I discovered the genre that most spoke to me was one that I rarely heard in my region, or among people I knew

[–] IntrepidIceIgloo 11 points 1 year ago

I used to not like music for a long time because my family was weirdly annoying about music. They made it uncomfortable to want to listen to it, making me feel embarrassed about it.

[–] Knuk 10 points 1 year ago

I know someone that doesn't like music, it's just overwhelming noise to them.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't think it's really possible to simply hate music. You might hate songs, or bands, or genres or styles; and those may be extremely hard to get away from making it seem like you hate all music. But human brains generally like musical form to some degree. It helps in learning and memorization and all sorts of other things.

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[–] Monkeyhog 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't hate music, I also don't like music. I am indifferent to music. I don't seek it out at all, nor do I ever listen to it on my own.

[–] sizzler 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Do songs ever get stuck in your head? Did you ever go to gigs when you were younger? What's your family's relationship with music like?

[–] morphballganon 7 points 1 year ago

When I was young, I hated any music with vocals. I thought, just replace that vocalist with a saxophone or trumpet, and it'd be a better song.

I don't feel that way anymore.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm curious to see if you find anyone. I do know there are some kids who are very sensitive to the moods of music and cry for Happy Birthday, for example, because it's in a minor key. I can see how it could almost be like someone is whining at you or trying to get you hyped up and you just want to be with your own thoughts?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Not trying to take from the emotional side of birthdays here.

Going to put on my poindexter hat: It’s not in a minor key. But the melody is in a mode, called Mixolydian, which is more major than it is minor because its primary triad is a major chord.

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[–] justlookingfordragon 7 points 1 year ago

Not hate per se, but my grandpa was very uncomfortable around any kind of "persistent noise", be it too many people talking at once (he usually spent the most part of family reunions in the garage, tinkering with his gadgets), loud machines running for a long time (he'd rather walk a few miles than sit in a car for longer than five minutes) ... or music. Then again he was a German WWII veteran who never went to therapy, so who knows what kind of memories he buried deep down ... he never talked about it.

So ... not exactly "hating all music" in the actual sense but I think he had a good reason to avoid it nonetheless.

[–] tahoe 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I used to regularly listen to music a few years ago, this was something I was able to really enjoy no matter the situation. But then I got depressed and I just can’t anymore.

Spotify will suggest me a song and I’ll be like « hey I kinda like this one ». I’ll listen to it the next day and it’ll feel super repetitive, as if I had listened to it hundreds of times already and it got annoying.

Thankfully it doesn’t happen with situational music like in games and movies, so I can still enjoy that. I’m also still able to listen to the songs I really loved before I got depressed (I don’t do it much though, don’t want them to get repetitive too). New music tho… I can’t :(

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

This has been happening to me recently. It's like my patience for a piece of music has become wire thin. I'll flick from song to song rejecting everything before hearing something I think I might like and I do like it, for about 30s then suddenly I start to feel really irritated by it and bored and impatient like I want them to get to the point, but it doesn't make sense because there's not really going to be somewhere the music is necessarily arriving at, you're supposed to be enjoying the whole thing. I don't know what's happened to me. Hope it's temporary.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I live with a guy that seems to hate music. Haven't actually asked him about it because he just yells at the TV or radio if they have music on.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Huh, that must be... Weird? Imagine getting mad at all TV jingles 😂

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I get a bit agitated at TV jingles but thats just because i hate advertisements in general

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I definitely met people who don’t care about music. And would prefer silence than music on the radio. I don’t believe they hate music in general.

I’m at an age where I’m just not as passionate about music as I was. Not saying only young people enjoy music. I’m just currently not inspired by it and hope to be so again soon.

[–] Substance_P 3 points 1 year ago

100% agree, I love music and have been in the past passionate. I have gigs of old MP3's, tapes stacked in boxes and soft folders full of CD's. In my house I have easily more than a thousand vinyl records just sitting in their sleeves but today's music just doesn't do it for me. I think good music is out there to discover but it's just harder to find those gems these days. I blame many things but that's probably for another discussion, maybe I'm just getting old to be honest.

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[–] SereneHurricane 3 points 1 year ago

I love certain music but find it terribly distracting to the point that I rarely listen.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I worked with a rich ranch girl at a Restaurant once, she was 17 maybe just doing the summer serving with us, and I was playing music and taking requests and I asked her what she liked and she said "none of it I hate Music." I said "what do you do in the car?" she said "listen to talk radio or podcasts" and this just... Baffled me. She was not good at her job but after she told me that I couldn't help but feel a bit bad for her.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

We, apparently, found one then!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Some islamic fundamentalists introduced wide-ranging bans on music, for example Afghanistan under taliban rule or Iran for few initial years under Khomeini, so yes they probably have some strong opinions

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)
[–] morphballganon 4 points 1 year ago

And yet, his name is slang for someone who kills it on guitar

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