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Question inspired by a Charley horse that hit in the middle of the night.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Maybe one day I'll get there too, but not today

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

You will I promise :) I’ve had my heart broken badly 3 times in my life so far.

The first one I needed antidepressants to kick me out of the slump, the other two were hard as well but with time and distractions and new hobbies and interests, the pain fades. Just be patient and talk to yourself like you are your own little brother/sister. Treat yourself like another person and take care of that person. Give them the love they need to get through the heartbreak.

[–] SEND_BUTTPLUG_PICS 5 points 1 year ago

I came here to say the same thing. When someone close to you dies it's painful, but that's still not heartbreaking. When someone you love chooses not to be with you anymore, it's on another level. I hope to never experience heartbreak again.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

College exams. Life after graduation has its own stresses but nothing was more stressful to me than having 6-7 exams coming up and having to spend so much time and effort preparing for stuff I don't care about that much.

At some point it got so bad I'd wake up a few times at night drenched in sweat a day before exams. Yeesh. I guess it was partly my fault for taking it too seriously but I couldn't switch that off.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

School in general. It was so much work. Homework is torture, at least now once my day is finished I don't have to worry about it until the next morning.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So few responsibilities while in school, though. I think about this often. I don't know how anyone stays on top of everything that needs doing as an adult. Work, bills, laundry, dishes, cleaning/tidying, cooking, meal planning, shopping, trash, recycling, healthy sleep,..... It's endless.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Now that you say it, actually highschool was pretty chill. I was living on my own in college, so it was your whole list, plus classes, plus homework, and that was the real hell.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I went into the doctor one time explaining all these strange symptoms I was experiencing. Rapidly developing OCD, heart palpitations, it felt like I needed to pee all the time, etc. I thought maybe I was dying. College exams. It was stress. I was having my heart rate spike up to the point where my smartwatch was warning me several times a day. I haven't had it happen once since the day I graduated about 7 years ago.

It's unbelievable that going through that much stress is normalized.

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[–] Chestrade 24 points 1 year ago

Swallowing while having strep throat.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago

Having to go to school for classes I don't like

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Getting shocked.

I used to help my father-in-law on the farm and he had an electric fencer for the barnyard that was way too powerful for the length of fence it was hooked up to. I knew that; what i didn't know was that it was grounding out on a piece of flashing on the barn. It put me on my ass.

He also has this electric fencing that's made out of rope with small metal strands woven into it. That shit hurts too but in a different way. Maybe because there are more points of contact.

I got shocked doing some wiring last week and it was nothing compared to the electric fence.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

My father told a story about stopping to pee at the side of the road. His buddy peed on the electric fence and "almost blew his balls off".

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

When I was little I got stung 6 times between the legs by a velvet ant that managed to get stuck in my bathing suit. It's not as bad as some exaggerated videos on the internet may have lead you to believe, but I did cry for about 30 seconds before I went back to what I was doing.

Not years ago, but a year ago I got covid and for reasons nobody can explain it made a nerve in my lower back malfunction and just start sending out the maximum pain signal it could. That's probably the most painful thing I've experienced. Tied for it at least.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (5 children)

One time I took a solo 1.5 hour flight and on the descent I suddenly felt a tingling on the top of my head and down my face, which quickly turned into a feeling like someone chopped an axe into the top of my head. I felt an excruciating pain on the top center of my head , behind my eyes and down my face and was trying not to react in front of all the other passengers. The pain was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. By the time we landed and I got off the plane the sharpness of the pain subsided but I had a bad headache for 2 days after. I thought I might die honestly and it spun me into such a bad anxiety attack. I did some searching and only found one post ever of something similar happening to someone else and it was from sinus pressure. I wasn’t sick at all or stuffed up so it was surprising. So now when I fly I pop Sudafed and blow my nose frequently and basically have a panic attack on the descent because of my fear of it happening again.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I had something similar happen when driving down a mountain, though it sounds like it was not as severe. It was pretty short, but I felt like the back of my throat was going to explode. I was the driver, and I actually had to pull over.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had something similar checked out and I had my inner nose twisted and full of the equivalent to pimples. Perhaps that caused your pain? Idk... I'm not a doctor.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I've had it a few times, the first time was the worst because I had no idea what was going on. Didn't have it again for about 10 years and at the time I was flying regularly so I'd take a nasal spray for the descent and also try to breathe out my ears (hold nose and mouth and blow). Only a couple of occassions since that there's been a little, but I do get anxious at times.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Stop holding your nose and blowing, to clear your ears. You can burst your eardrum this way. I have a perforated eardrum, myself (though not from this), and getting a subsequent inner ear infection in that ear is the most painful thing I have ever experienced. Worse than the burst appendix or broken ribs.

Instead, try holding your nose and closing your mouth and swallowing a few times. With a big gulp of water might help. Should eventually give you enough pressure to clear the blockage, without risking your health.

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[–] ji88aja88a 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Gall stones.. thought l had the worst wind,.paced the floor all night....turns out, gall bladder was having a bad time

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Loneliness, it got replaced by headache and sleep deprivation. Fair trade tho.

edit: got also financial problems too

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Ayyy, sleep deprivation buddy! I've been up since 5 AM and feel like absolute death. :)

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[–] Smokeydope 9 points 1 year ago

Enduring other peoples mental emotional bullshit especially to keep a job. Feeling like I have no choices but to kill myself with work to survive. Mental maturity, having goals to work for, and learning to stand up for myself/not tolerate retarded whacky monkey bullshit from fellow human beings has done wonders for me. My young adult years were miserable, it got much better.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I haven't crashed my bike for a long time now. But then I don't ride as much as I used to and know that roads are very slippery when the first rain in weeks falls.

[–] kava 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Over 13 years here, coming on 12 years without opioid withdrawals at all (methadone/suboxone withdrawal can be even worse and is certainly not a catch all solution but definitely worked for me). Great job Kava keep it up.

[–] kava 6 points 1 year ago

Thank you sir and congrats to you as well. I've been clean from opiates since Dec 26th 2016. I still smoke weed occasionally or use kava so I'm "California sober" but it works for me. Opiates are dangerous substances.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon 3 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Kidney Stones! Seemed every couple of years I went through it. Well, now that I'm typing this I realize it's been a couple of years so maybe I'm due soon.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Kidney stones for me too! Mine are calcium oxalate based, so I take a supplement of magnesium citrate to help me break them down, but also drinking more water regularly. I should also lay off the salt, but that's a hard one because it's everywhere.

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[–] Weirdfish 6 points 1 year ago

That I haven't had? The two major ones are a sinus infection (1994), which in theory I could have again, and appendicitis (2007), which I will never have again.

As a life long skateboarder and snowboarder, I've had all kinds of brutal injuries, still do on occasion, but no pain has compared to those two.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Haven't touched a windows machine in 25 years.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] EtherealMoon 5 points 1 year ago

Whenever I used to go out anywhere or do anything social, I'd always be constantly, quietly hoping that someone would come along and fall into my life. That I'd pass by someone that looked like they could relate to me, or that would try to talk to me, or be attracted to me. Anyone that would change my life for the better. It was lonely as fuck to constantly want something unrealistic every single day that never happened, for years and years.

Then I met my future wife, and I nearly forgot that pain ever existed.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Going to meet my father (going to hurt booth of us, i know that he "reguarly" drives the 10 hours from north to south and i exploit him for my move to south)
It will hurt me because he is difficult and him because i will give him no contact information

[–] Tylerdurdon 4 points 1 year ago

First day of school.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Breaking a rib. I have brittle bones that break easily, I occasionally break ribs for no apparent reason.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Dislocated shoulder was the worst for me. The pain meds didn't help at all and I cried like a baby until the anaesthesia started.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I accidentally touched mains power when I was 10 while trying to plug in my gameboy charger. It's been 18 years since, but that was definitely something I never want to experience again. I remember I could feel it in my muscles for more than a week afterwards

[–] 0xeb 3 points 1 year ago

Getting kicked by the balls

[–] MiddleWeigh 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Active addiction and the hopelessness of hunger, legal trouble, and flexing my principles in order to function.

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