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Abuse.

Preferring looks over functionality.

So many things in today's world are dogshit covered in a pretty wrapper and everyone eats it up. Meanwhile things that actually work well and last get ignored because they're not pretty.

I'm not saying things can't be pretty but you should never put form over function.

Thinking that things they don't enjoy should not be enjoyed by anyone else, and complaining bitterly about people enjoying those things.

A type, true believer office people.

It's all laid out, you have at most 100 years and 50ish healthy ones if you're extremely lucky, and you want to spend more energy then you absolutely have to... micromanaging others and bragging about maximizing your office work output as you eek out a living?

I genuinely find the coworkers that try to drown themselves in corpo kool-aid disturbing. Soulless. I find them as sad and pathetic as they probably find me for my half hearted, clearly mocking impression of corpo culture, as I don't show my true self at work.

Like just.. Why? It's a job. The owner truly doesn't care if you live or die. Stop bragging that you canceled on your family yet again in favor of your "work family."🤮 They think they're setting an example for their coworkers to follow, but I'm just sitting there pitying them.

People out here stating obvious human problems and I'm out here like: why do humans like Chocolate?

Dancing.

I'm biased because I'm rythmically deficient, but it makes no sense to me. It's just weird wiggling.

Worse still is clubbing, which is just dancing in a hot, sweaty dark room where the drinks are $13 each amd you don't get to pick the music, or turn the volume down.

This might be the most boomer thing I've ever written.

People who stay with abusive partners the first time they are abused

How some people have to constantly get into someone else's business that doesn't have any negative affect on their lives or society and try to force the latter to conform to the former's worldview. Religion is notorious for this, demanding others conform to the ideology's rules even if they have no desire to participate or believe, but it can also be as simple as being critical of someone's differences and trying to make them change.

Littering.

People being mean or cruel to other people or living things just to see them suffer. I don't understand it.

Using LinkedIn

This product costs $14 to make, they sell it for $30.

They remove three screws and replace the beautiful $6 screen with a bottom of the barrel $3 screen saving $3.06. People would easily pay $5 more for the nicer screen, but they can only focus on cost cutting instead of making a still modestly priced great product.

Smoking. Let's see, I could pay a ton of money for something that reeks and damages my health and the health of those around me, that once I start I'll become addicted to so I'll struggle to quit even if I want to, or I could, uh, not. Yeah let's go with not.

Not putting your fucking shopping cart away. There’s no better way for me to explain it than the shopping cart theory:

A lot of ceremony-like events confuse me.

They seem designed to be as tedious and gruelling as possible. Consider Graduation Ceremonies, or the ceremonial part of Weddings. Just hours in a hard chair, listening to some old motherfucker blabber on and on about random bullshit. (the parties afterwards I understand and respect, even if I'm the opposite of a party person. The only thing I like about parties is the excuse to dress up and eat cake. But hey, people enjoy dancing and drinking and stuff, that makes sense to me.)

Is this some Neurotypical thing I'm too Autistic to understand? Like do people actually enjoy this?

EDIT: Actually, since I brought up drinking when talking about parties.

.... I don't comprehend people that like alcoholic drinks. It's one thing to enjoy the feeling of being buzzed, we all want to turn off our brains sometimes, and of course it is literally addicting.

But I am talking about people who apparently enjoy the taste. Every type of booze I tried tasted like something between "medicine" and "actual poison".

People will spend a fortune in Wines and Beers and they all just taste bad. Then they'll swear up and down "no no dude, this wine is super sweet" and then you try it and it tastes like every other wine, which is to say it tastes like you took grape juice and sucked out all the joy.

When you discover a bump somewhere on your skin and the very first reaction is to scratch and dig whatever may be there, out.

Becoming very invested in watching strangers play games for money.

(Wo)men screaming when something unexpected scary/frightening happems

Wanting to look rich... Like, who the fuck cares.

Wanting expensive designer clothes/accessories.

One, I hate spending money. Two, I'd worry about ruining them too much to ever want to wear/use them. Three, they just generally aren't comfortable.

I can't understand someone that want to attack another country, go to war, just to take some piece of land. And then want to die for this reason.

People should just learn that you can't get everything they want in life and deal with it in a good way.

Not technically a behavior, but - having hurt feelings over other people expressing their negative opinion about myself.

Like, say someone tells me I look bad of that I acted badly or whatever. I see three options:

1. They're right, so it's a good thing they told me.
2. They're mistaken, so it doesn't really matter (though the fact some people might think that way is still valid information)
3. They're being mean, in which case I don't really care about what they say.

I guess it's some defense mechanism? I can see how that would work with people prone to narcissism, but having ones feeling hurt over things like that seems normalized in (most?) societies.

Oh, also religion. People believe in an all powerful being that personally cares about every person in the world, but is unwilling to reveal itself? Despite having zero corroborating evidence? And he's responsible for every good thing that happens to me therefore I should see that as proof it exists and believe more, but if something bad happens that's because I didn't believe hard enough and should therefore believe more? And you're sure about that and don't see how that might be purely because this answers a psychological and social need? I understand I'm exaggerating a bit, and no offense to religious people, but... I don't get it.

people that have more money than they could ever spend trying to accumulate more money

There's a lot of human behavior I don't understand. Used to make me feel like an alien as a kid.

Like the super unhealthy parasocial relationships people think they have with famous people, and more appalling is the way the media feeds right into it. People acting like it's normal to obsess over details about celebrities personal lives is very weird to me.

I don't understand cheating... just break up and then you can fuck who you want. Why does deceiving someone and breaking their trust have to be a part of it? Why is that necessary?

I don't understand how you can be the richest elongated muskrat in the world, so rich you just doubled your wealth, and not do anything to help people who need it. I don't know how he can live with himself. And what I really don't get is that he clearly wants the world to see him as some sort of important amazing brilliant person. So why not do the thing. DO THE THING AND HELP YOU SELFISH FUCK

Don't even get me started with bigotry. It just does not make sense. Why does someone's skin pigment effect people so drastically? Why does the gender or sexual orientation of strangers matter? People need to focus on themselves and mind their business. If someone would like to make minding your business the new fad of 2025 I'm here for it.

Littering is one of those things I struggle the most to understand.

I can somewhat grasp it in extreme cases, like when you’re dealing with something really dirty and there’s nowhere to put it. But I’m talking about casual littering - things like throwing candy wrappers on the ground when you could just as easily put them in your pocket.

I don’t think anyone sees themselves as a bad person. Even when we engage in bad behavior, we usually have some story we tell ourselves to justify it. But I can’t put myself in the mindset of someone who casually throws trash on the ground for someone else to clean up. It’s kind of like walking around and cussing at random people - it just doesn’t make any sense. You have to know that you're the problem.