When I feel bad emotionally, I clean. I do the nastiest, most unpleasant jobs; since I'm gonna be miserable no matter what, I might as well get some use out of it.
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That's interesting. I wonder if I can trick myself into doing stuff like that as a form of punishment. Generally I find myself unable to move so I just stare into space. Sometimes I have a hard time even moving my arms and legs to drive home from work. Or to get out of the car once I've parked out front. How do you manage to start?
I don't force myself to start right away. After years of "well I guess I might as well" I now more-or-less automatically start washing dishes, doing laundry, and tackling yardwork when my mood dips. I still need to make the conscious choice to tackle bigger jobs like mucking out the basement or turnjng the compost.
That's kinda genius.
Do you feel that getting the worst jobs done also helps to boost your mood, because that awful thing you didn't want to do is now done?
Not in that way, but:
A) my environment is usually nicer afterwards, which improves mood, and
2] if I was miserable due to fighting with my partner, seeing me do chores usually improves her mood, facilitating reconciliation
I am sorry you are fighting with your partner. Have a heart β€οΈ that means nothing to you.
I think I might try this. It sounds useful in so many ways.
Every day I get up, get on the exercise bike and watch an episode of Star Trek.
Thanks to this, I've seen nearly every episode of Star Trek multiple times.
ToS, NextGen, DS9, Voyager or are you a heretic I need to burn at the stake?
I rotate between all of em.
Except Picard and Disco...
Enterprise really gets the heart rate up
No doubt that... It's been a long road
When i post on asklemmy i write my individual answer as a comment, so people can reply to it instead of the post, where should just be answers to the question.
I'll keep that in mind
I think your best habit is correcting people without correcting them. Good job!
I'm extremely consistent with my weightlifting program (1.5 years aww yeah!)
Starting to lift with the best decision I ever made and the best habit I've ever formed. Nagging aches and pains are basically a thing of the past. I'm way more useful, and my lower body, which was once withered and useless after a decade of working in an office, have been replaced with tree trunks and a dump-truck ass
A couple of the accessory benefits of this that in order to support my lifting progress I now eat way better, quit drinking and prioritize proper sleep. Overall it's just been a huge increase in quality of life
Same, except I lift with my teenage son and daughter. We got a power rack in the garage and now they drag me out to it with them. Weβre all feeling better about ourselves!
Everytime I get a meal with vegetables I eat that first no matter what else is on the plate. I think of it working my way to the best part of the meal
I clean up when I'm done. Never leave dishes in the sink and such. I'm not a cleaning freak or anything, it's just that I prefer not having to deal with these kind of obstacles before I can begin doing something else in that area.
Doing many small tasks is easier than doing a large one. Kinda like the inverse of "the whole is greater than the sum of its parts"
I say the opposite: fries get cold too fast, they SHOULD be eaten before you get home.
I mostly get naked in private
I weigh 175lbs naked, but you really can't trust those grocery store scales.
Is the fry thing really your best habit?
I'm paranoid about losing my wallet and other daily carry stuff, so I haven't. Been carrying stuff for like 30 years. Never lost a wallet, cell phone,pocket knife, or keys. Couple close calls.
Me too. Often when I leave a grocery store or my home I check all my everyday carries. But I still lost my wallet last month. Forgot in on a car roof when I fled from attacking wasps. It flew somewhere and I lost some cards.
Daily reminder on al devices to think of three things for which I'm grateful every day. I'll do today's list now:
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Despite the terrible heatwave in California, I now live in a place with AC for the first time in two decades (uncommon in the Bay Area)
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My current work is so chill that I can be on Lemmy most of the day between calls
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My partner genuinely loves our (my) kitties and takes great care of them with me
Arenβt they cold by then?
I prefer them fresh but if needed, I retoast them when I get home especially with undercooked fries like Wendy's . Ensures they are hot and crispy
Make and bring my lunch to work every day. It takes planning and discipline, but over a year, saves me about $12/day, or $3,130 a year.
Im not sure if it counts as a habit, but i never eat fast food
If that doesnt count: i always wash my hands before touching food
Dragging myself out of my house to deal with this maddening existence called life, despite every fiber of my being telling me to stay home and avoid all you annoying flesh-bags that just do everything you can to irritate me.
That and I read daily.
Probably exercise. Lifelong habit of exercise. Different sorts at different times but never nothing, always something on purpose to strengthen & keep flexible, most days of the week.
Night cream and sunscreen since my early 20s too, I do not look how I expected to at this age, nice surprise that was.
When I'm really dragging at work I take a nap.
I've been really good with taking my medication first thing these days. I also walk during my lunch hour, and use that time to listen to audio books. Sometimes I don't wanna walk, but I still want to know what happens next, so I go for that walk.
What is good about not eating the fries until you get home? Did you think the benefits would be self-evident to everyone?
First thing I do once I've checked into the workplace is to itemize what I'd like to get done today. And I list a bunch but they're priorities and not requirements. So I have 8 on the list knowing I'll only do 3 and then 5 will carry.
And I forgive myself if something comes up and it hoses my achievements. And I refer to it often as I get unfocused fast.
Keeps me on track.
Whenever I see on Youtube Shorts something too crazy to be true, I immediately do a quick research and don't stop until I have three sources (counting wikipedia) to corroborate the information.
Meal prepping my lunch and breakfast for the week. Makes it so I donβt eat junk food or if I do itβs rationed in such away itβs premeasered. But chicken and salads everyday this way and I mix up my proteins. Leftover steak go great with A1 sauce. Pulled pork with BBQ sauce on a salad to die for.
Just easy for me to pull it out and now exactly what I am eating
Doing my job consistently enough to pay my bills
I quit coffee earlier this year and traded coffee for water. I now drink about 2 gallons of water a day and my teeth have never looked better
Reading
Do something new everyday.
Handtool woodworking, especially if you tackle the hard stuff. I resaw 50% of my stock, by hand, then smooth, by hand. Just in the last 3-4 months when I started taking it seriously, I lost 20 pounds, with basically few dietary changes. It also keeps me so preoccupied I don't think about eating lol.
I don't know if it counts as a habit, because I don't have a schedule or anything, but I ride my bike an average of 150km per week.
I wake up and before I get out of bed, I put on some TENS pads and shock my back for some minutes before I do a set of stretches. I'm 42 and I have an active job lifting stuff, if I don't stretch every morning I'm going to have a very bad rest of the week.