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Negativity and wedge issues sell. Keep your head up and don't let them play you out. It's all for money or power ...or both. I think people just never wanted to see how dark reality is and now it's showing how naive the common person is to the evil in the world.
It's like all the horrible things they played out to be history or entertainment are actually real and that we were just told it's all in the past so "tHeY" could keep us subservient with a false sense of security.
Every time I see people try to blame the media on this, I look at my medical bills, I look at my bank account, I look at the temperature, I look at the cost of housing, I look at the vacant seats where my coworkers sat before they were let go, I look at the election results, I look at my sister who had her right to an abortion stolen, I look at the hateful people that vandalized my trans partner's car...
And I think, damn..the media sure has some real reach, don't they? They're really going all out to make me miserable. I mean, this is some impressive commitment to a narrative. One day I'm gonna break free and live in this reality where "Everything is fine, actually" with the rest of you but first I gotta figure out how the media has me in the Truman Show situation.
the media sure has some real reach, don’t they?
I mean, yeah pretty much. It's been a few decades of sensationalism, anti-intellectualism, and capitalism-is-patriotism rhetoric, but we got here. It's not entirely the media, but the media definitely has a huge impact.
agreed, life is tough, but remember: we didn't start the fire!
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It doesn't help that news corps have found that we generally respond to the negative news much more than we do positive news.
its the fight/flight response. negative news gets people afraid.... literally gets their juices flowin. some people who have stopped watching faux news specifically mention the exhausting nature of the constant fear put forth by the 'network'.
That doesn't invalidate the negative news, though. I mean, what good news do you think they're not reporting that makes up for the actual shit going on in the world that has a real, tangible effect on people's lives?
"Your future is completely fucked, from finances, to freedoms, to democracy, to the damn climate itself.
But, hey, the bees are coming back. For now, at least."
I'm not saying it's social media, but it's social media. You're connected to negativity 24/7. The algorithm feeds on negativity because that is what makes us stay on there.
I've got something to change your thinking. At least it helped me 17 years ago.
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I don't want to dismiss the facts. There are terrible things going on but overall we're living our best lives at the same time.
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And hey! I'm 43 too. You have a whole life ahead of you. You still can go in any direction you want to go in.
For millenials who have had it timed perfectly to get fucked over by the way of it all our entire life, and when the power is taken back it'll skip over and be the next generation that follows.. Sweet spot generation of pure fuck-assery after being promised an entirely different world. The revolution is coming... It had better. In my opiniom, the best you can do is focus on a more personally enriching life, and forget everyone else's bullshit.
Graduated in 07. Gave all of my savings to my parents in 08 so they wouldn't lose their house. Bumbled around for a decade and a half trying to get a degree and start my career only to get shit canned from an okay paying job mid-pandemic. Tripped over my own dick in to a great paying union job. Currently working too much overtime and saving every dime I can because I've seen enough shit.
Graduating with debt in 2008 was pretty cruel.
I got married in 2006 and bought a house that fall, and it turns out that was the peak of the market. Even though I have a great job and make great money, I'm also still paying off my student loans.
There have been many times in history when things have been far worse, so no, it's not the worst. But many things are in decline right now. Democracy, digital privacy, trustworthiness of information, global peace, climate, the environment... humanity has to get back on track soon or the future looks pretty grim.
Go touch grass = just dont think about how the world is going to shit. lol great advice everyone
I was always rather politcally passive. I decided to join MERA25 this week (self proclaimed radical leftist group). Get active.
I normally avoid doomerism, but it starts feeling like the end-times here in Europe and I think it is worse at other places. Open fascists are about to take power in several federal states here in Germany this year.
I think a lot of the comments have really hit the nail on the head. Never hurts to take a step back and try to detox from the climate of negativity that inundates social media. Go out for a walk, go cycling, touch grass
Remember that there are biases at play here. There's the negativity bias (we worry more about bad things happening, than we are uplifted about geed things happening), and media bias to report the worst. As Pinker wrote:
News is about things that happen, not things that don't happen. We never see a journalist saying to the camera, "I'm reporting live from a country where a war has not broken out". (...) As long as bad things have not vanished from the face of the earth, there will always be enough incidents to fill the news, especially when billion of smartphones turn most of the world's population into crime reporters and war correspondents.
Combine the two, and you will naturally have all media preferentially report (and often blow out of proportion for the views and clicks) bad news over good news.
I recommend not watching or reading the news. Spend your free time learning about hobbies or finding new ones, getting involved in local politics instead of national/global politics, improving yourself, and finding friends in communities around your hobby.
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There are only about six news sources left. All the rest are simply trying to get a reaction out of you so they can sell you advertising.
There's very little you actually need to know. You don't need to know about what some pedo did to a kid. You don't need to know what some celebrity thinks about Hamas. You don't need to know which little kids got shot today because the yanks still think a 300 year old law is relevant.
Stop clicking the links.
If anything major happens, Associated Press, Reuters, the BBC and a few others will let you know the facts without any opinions or speculation.
The rest is just horseshit being spewed by people who don't have enough talent to be an actual writer, and there's an absolute fuckton of talentless cunts out there.
Start by blocking websites that have headlines containing the word "slams" and take it from there
I think on a global scale we are all dealing with unresolved trauma from the pandemic, related catastrophes and the general economic roller coaster that we all live in every day. The severity of the pandemic lessened over time but there was no definite point where it ended and we all got to go "Wasn't that nuts? Is everyone doing okay?" Instead it was just a slow crawl back to business as usual. We feel like we shouldn't complain because it could be a lot worse but all of the other non-pandemic problems still exist and nothing seems to indicate that things will ever get better.
It's not just you that feels this way, but that doesn't mean things are hopeless. There are a lot of people out there fighting tooth and nail to build a better future in spite of all the challenges. Try to find a way to improve the world in your own small way. It really goes a long way to quieting those feelings of helplessness and despair.
I think you make a great point that we didn't really get to an ending point from the pandemic trauma. For some of us, our nervous systems are still in panic mode.
But we also have the threats of climate collapse, global food and water shortages, a shift to the right or alt-right in several governments around the world, and technology being weaponized against us at an increasing rate. These threats to us are real. There are too many to list here.
To OP, please know that you are not alone. There are a lot of us who look at the state of the world and recognize the severity and criticality of these problems. My advice would be to get involved in something --anything -- that helps or gives back to the community in some way. I started with donating blood. Will it change the world? No, but it helps someone, somewhere, and that helps my brain find peace.
It's not worse today IMO, I mean the news, it's just we're constantly seing them, because of our smartphones & cetera.
In the nineties the toral nuclear war was also imminent and we'd not be able to live outside because of pollution @ year 2000.
To combat all that I'm getting my information myself, so I go to trusted sources and check out the state of the world in that specific matter (I have decided to follow certain topics, because I just can't take in everything) instead of being bombarded by random clickbait horror stories (remember, news outlets needs to capture your attention Every day even if nothing happens and also gore and hate sells more).
Cheers and good luck!
While you have a point, if you’re scared you keep watching/reading and that benefits the companies behind pumping the fear, there is also a pretty goddamn dire situation with climate change. Things are happening much faster than they seemed to expect. Remember it used to be “we won’t have an habitable world in a few hundred years at this rate” and then it was “our children’s children are going to have a tough time,” and then it was “ what kind of world are we leaving for the next generation” and now it’s “um…this is happening.”
Scientists aren’t interested in scaring you. They’re interested in what the data suggests. And the scientists are freaking the fuck out. This is bad. And we’re not moving at 1% of the speed we should be. That really can’t be downplayed. Is this the end of life as we were promised/told it would be? I don’t mean we’re nose to nose with a mad max reality, more that we are going to start feeling pretty intense effects weather-wise, seeing the global south start to emigrate, feel the effects of a capitalism squeezing the last of our money and labor out of us because even their predictions will see profits dip when people start rioting, dying off, etc. (what they plan on doing with those profits in a dead world, I don’t know. But that’s capitalist brain for you.)
I’m just saying. We need to really consider if what we’re doing with our time is how we’d want to spend it if it were our last chance in this structure. OP, that doesn’t mean you should dive down a bottle, though. I kinda got that from the subtext of this post.
Living in the US, I see on a daily basis the indifference to climate. It's been heavily politicized. One side cares a little, the other side does not care one bit. It's very sad to see.
I also lived in Europe for many years where climate is less politicized and more mainstream. Most people try to do their best to contribute regardless of their political preferences. It's a big difference to what I see in the US.
You're telling' me. The amount if "once in a lifetime" crises I've experienced is too damn high. I'm going to be 30 this year and I'll never be able to afford a house.
If it makes you feel any better I'm 40 and I'll never afford a house either. Millennials got screwed.
"Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”
It's the end of things being easy, that's for sure. But maybe that's okay.
Humanity is in for a wild ride with climate change coming. It will upend entire food chains, let alone nations.
Sure, there's definitely been worse and more unstable periods in history before, but what's coming is very likely going to make those look tame in comparison.
I fully expect Eco-Fascism to take hold at some and the very people who denied the existence of climate change will demand full control of the last vestiges of the planets resources because in their minds only they are smart and capable enough to dole out what's left to the plebeians.
In other words, things have been a hell of a lot worse and could get a hell of a lot worse. Instead of waiting in anticipation for the worst that may inevitably happen, do your best to lead a good, kind, and loving life with the people close to you. Things feel like they're getting worse all the time, and hell, maybe they really are...
But well better to count your blessings now than to waste your life acting like it's all already as bad as it can be or that the badness is just around the corner. Maybe it is just around the corner. Even more reason to savor the little joys of life while you still have them and to build connections in your community while there's still time to build Mutual Aid networks. Those things alone can make a dark future easier to suffer, community and fond memories.
I find it easy to have this mindset too. Sometimes it's outright depressing.
But I think a lot of this is a result of the media having given up on reporting good news.
Try ignoring the news for a while and you may feel better.
Came to say, touch grass. Get a job, get busy. Clean your home (I sure need to!), tidy up your corner of the world & exert positive control over things you can control. If you can't control it, please, don't worry about it.
Saiga antelope populations are recovering.
Crime rates dropping in US, multiple companies working with NASA for ISS access, direct observation of gravitational waves, left reddit for Lemmy, multiple COVID vaccines in like a year from outbreak, more usage of renewable energy sources, etc. There are some obvious problems we need to get together and address as communities, countries, and species, but there are a bunch of improvements and advancements being made too.
Massive drop in maternal mortality over the past century
This is enlightening. US maternal death rates compared to other industrialized nations.
Only one thing can be the worst. Grammatically everything else is just bad.
Everything does suck. But it will suck whether you pay attention to it or not. Unplug whenever you need to. If you're in the US that goes double at least through the election. Also, something that really helped me out of a similar pit of despair, was finding ways to volunteer. Getting face to face with some problems you can actually do something about (i.e, feeding hungry people) is a good way to ground yourself. Good luck out there.
Short answer. Yes.
Long answer: I'm 48. And while some of what we are feeling is certainly a sense of "back in my day" nostalgia, its certainly not the only cause.
We are from a strange generation who were old enough to remember a world before all of this, and young enough to adapt to all of it with relative ease. ( "this" being a transition to an online existence)
Even one generation before us just simply struggles with it. And just one generation after us, while still "born" before this all became a thing, were to young to truly experience it.
So we have a very unique and valuable perspective to offer; one that says "yes, things seemed better back then, and that is likely most certainly true for many things. But some things were likely just as fucked up back then and we simply didn't have the internet screaming it at us 24-7. And perhaps right and left were not quite as polarized as they are today because of it.
Just my Gen-x take on it.
Only thing that is worse in my mind is the "media" no longer news and "social media" both are largely negative and both are full of misinformation these days.
Housing costs may also be a negative..
Other than that MOST things seem better, we just can't enjoy anything since the media/social media keeps telling us what we should fear and hate.
Other than that MOST things seem better
This is obviously going to be a discussion that's going to vary greatly from place to place and region to region, but I honestly what to know what you think this.
This is going to be pretty American-centric, and even then pretty specific to my region, but that's certainly not the case here. Cost of living has skyrocketed, wages have hardly budged, and people are really, really struggling.
Now, we've obviously made some amazing progress in recent history. As fucked as it still is and as far as we still have to go, I think gay rights is probably one of the best examples of this. Even with all the bullshit we continue to see, we're miles ahead of 20 years ago.
But the overall trend, even internationally, is incredibly worrying. People's standards of living are decreasing, far right nationalistic populist movements are gaining momentum nearly everywhere you look, and we're actively watching multiple genocides happen in front of our eyes. Famines are already being massively exacerbated by climate change, you just don't hear about them because they're happening in poor countries. Everything points to all our previous warnings about climate change being incredibly conservative. I personally have next to zero hope in the world's government's to do a damn thing about it.
Don't get me wrong, there is absolutely still the possibility for a good ending. These are all problems than can be solved. We even know how to solve a good chunk of them. Just have to actually find the political to force it.
Not everything is the worst. Just the important things.
As mentioned by other commentators, negative, emotional news sell the best and the news nearly perfected this method during the last couple of years. Yes, it isn't as good as pre pandemic times, but it's not the worst. For me it really helped to limit my news time to max. once a day (like in the past with the newspaper in the morning or a news show in the evening) and watching things called "good news". In Germany some TV shows have this category so I never searched it on social media or YouTube, but I bet there are some channels/pages dedicated to good news (like there is a new treatment for disease XY or here is a good step in the fight against climate change, but sometimes just news like "the big panda isn't as endangered as it was".
The news is always like this. i recommend paying attention to the toilet instead
Hello fellow 1980 baby. Have you ever seen a chicken hatch? It's a pretty destructive process. The chick is immediately exposed to a myriad of microorganisms, a sharp shell, embryonic fluid, and plenty of other potential hazards that it can easily kill itself on in the first 20 minutes of its life. However, if it can manage to make it through the hazards you end up with a cute fluffy yellow chick, for another day. They turn brown and dull way too quick for me, at least when I was 10. My point here is that humanity is also going through a transitory period currently. We have already technically reached post scarcity levels, and the proletariat is noticing that. There is bound to be a fair bit of bloodshed over the next couple decades as we strip the power from the ultra wealthy sociopaths that currently run the ship, but the upside is that fucktons of really smart people understand that the roadmap to world peace includes universal education for all, and the elimination of extremes of poverty and wealth.
Do you know how much better we would all be doing as a country if we had no access to "news"?
I'm sixty-two and I think one reason we feel so anxious and depressed all the time is because we have more information than we have ability to act.
Think of the myriad threats there are to the earth and humanity. If we ALL undertook to fix them together, there's still the question of priority. We can't do everything at once.
And most global problems require a unanimous response. Like the United Nations, if one country votes NO, you can't make progress. So unless we plan on a global war over climate, or plastics, or AI, or humanitarian treatment of humans, it's going nowhere.
We have elected officials who CAN effect the change that's needed. They are trained. They have inside information that we don't. They have access to technologies and resources we don't. We absolutely have to make the best choices for our elected leaders that we can, and then trust them to do the right thing. But, after that, we can't continue to let it eat us up.
I'm with Dory on this one. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming.
