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Hey all.. I don't even know if this is the right community. But figured I'd ask here and worst case no one gives a response.

Anyway, two of my comments were deleted and I was banned from a community:

Banned

@StaySquared from the community Lefty [email protected] reason: reactionary

The post was about how there's no such thing was unskilled work. I commented that, "sex work" is an unskilled job. And my second comment was that it was the first thing that came to mind, that a clown creating animal-shaped balloons are more skilled than a sex worker.

I don't understand how this is reactionary? Or how it's defined in this community but apparently it's bad enough to get banned for it. I wish the mod(s) would give a clear explanation, otherwise I'm going to continue breaking rules aimlessly (without realizing I'm breaking the rules).

Definition of reactionary: opposing political or social liberalization or reform.

I'm not opposing sex work. I'm defining sex work as an unskilled talent/job. If a man or woman wants to be a sex worker, good for them. I'm not offended or negatively impacted by sex workers.

So I guess the question is, how do I contact the mods or a mod of that community so they may get my defense before outright perma-banning me from the community?

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 7 months ago

I'm not sure if the reason fits the definition of reactionary, but that is a pretty awful take, which is at the least wildly ignorant, and at worst, trolling.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 7 months ago (2 children)

haha mahn your sex life must suck if you think its unskilled. hilarious

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

this mf gives the toothiest bjs

[–] jordanlund 21 points 7 months ago

I wouldn't call it "reactionary", but I also wouldn't define sex work as "unskilled".

If you've never had bad sex, I'm happy for you. But bad sex workers aren't going to get far. :)

[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

“sex work” is an unskilled job.

I can't believe I'm having to suggest this to someone... please actually go visit a brothel. Vanilla sex between couples are usually more passion focused so they won't have to give much attention on any particular sex move.

Sex workers however have to use their finesse to satisfy you because there was never any attraction or intimacy between either of you thus no passion to excite either of you. Just ask them to take the lead and find out.

Reactionary:relating to, marked by, or favoring reaction especially : ultraconservative in politics

Your takes are reactionary in a sociopolitical lens. Words can have more than one meaning.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 7 months ago

Man you have 6 days old account. I had to deal with one comment as a mod, I checked the account (for other posts and comments), saw that it is exeption and just deleted it.

If I saw few days old account I would just ban it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I mean, I don't think what you said is ban worthy, but I understand why someone would.

Also, anyone can go bowling. Anyone can fuck. But just like bowling, if you're doing it professionally, you have to be good.

Also, sex work isn't just having sex transactionally, it's shooting porn, writing erotica, drawing hentai, etc, and they all take a lot of skill too.

[–] StaySquared 2 points 7 months ago

Good point.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

In trying to understand "the rules", you are attempting to understand human nature. In the fediverse there are no "rules", there isn't a governing body, instance owners and moderators essentially have "root" permissions.

Some use those for the greater good, some don't. Some react in ways that are unexpected and unfamiliar.

In other words, be kind to your community and find a place where you can enjoy yourself. Don't fret about the things that you cannot control.

If you absolutely need an answer, set up your own instance and be your own boss.

In the meantime, have fun.

[–] StaySquared 2 points 7 months ago

Thanks for the response. I believe I have a better understanding now after your explanation. I will try to do better.

Thanks again for your input.

[–] RaoulDook 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

No comment on your comment, except that it's quite mild to get a mod's attention. Having said that, I've had lots of comments removed around Lemmy because there are apparently a lot of mods who just want to edit the comment stream to fit their worldview. It's pretty goddamn pathetic IMO.

Anything the mods don't agree with personally is liable to be deleted. It's making Lemmy look bad with all the censorship.

For example I posted US gov't website info about how the poor can get free or reduced cost healthcare in the USA, and a mod removed my comment as "misinformation" because it was their opinion that there is no healthcare in the USA.

Anybody who is afraid of reading words that they don't agree with needs to grow up. If you don't get exposed to opposing viewpoints, then you don't understand reality.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

As someone who has actually tried to get government assistance, I suspect it was removed for being misleading, not because they actually believe there is 'no healthcare in the US'. Don't strawman people.
Poor people often cannot get healthcare, such as via lack of documentation, lack of means to actually get to the places they need to go, etc. In my case, the government invented a completely fictional job for me that I did not have and declared it meant I was not eligible, and gave me a time limit to respond that expired before I had the actual chance to respond. The window for applications is a very short time period and I live with people who frequently do not give me my mail before winging it some place random, so it can take me a week to find my own mail.
Someone living without a mailbox would have had zero opportunity: in that regard, I was 'lucky'.

[–] RaoulDook 1 points 7 months ago

I am someone who "tried to get government assistance" too, and I got discounted healthcare from the US government when I was poor. I shared .gov links about those programs to help others who might need free or reduced cost healthcare but might not be aware that community health centers exist. That's what was "misinformation" according to the Wrongthink Censors.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Hmm. Maybe send the mod in question a DM?

And are you permabanned? Or just for a few hours? If it's just that, take the timeout.

[–] StaySquared 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm not sure if it's a permaban. But I will try to reach out to the mod. Thanks for the suggestion.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Your ban in "Lefty Memes" and "Political Memes" seem to be permanent... Your ban from "World News" already expired.

[–] Zehzin 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

First case of a ban for not getting pussy

[–] Boozilla 0 points 7 months ago

Not a clue. But there's plenty of other communities on Lemmy who would appreciate your participation!

[–] [email protected] -1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Remember the days when everyone came to Lemmy because they were tired of the power-tripping that went on in Reddit?

Why do some people feel the need to bring that shit over to Lemmy? Keep it the fuck over there.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Oh but thats the pont of Lemmy. You just find an instance that supports your views, and isn't banned by others. Or have varous accounts across instance's. Or start a new instance. Its that easy and so much better.

So they tell me.

/s btw. But it does seem to be the Lemmy ethos.

(Also not saying I agree with OPs opinions)

[–] [email protected] -4 points 7 months ago

Mods can and do ban for whatever they don’t like. The “rules” are there as a vague list of nonsense to appear as if there’s a general desire to have order, but at the end of the day- they’ll ban you for saying anything they disagree with.

It’s their community. And it’s there for them. Not you.