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[–] [email protected] 77 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I explicitly purchased identical cutlery and gave away all my old mismatched cutlery.

[–] Tenthrow 27 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I tried to buy another identical set of cutlery because we needed more and the two version while looking identical on the package and being from the same maker are dramatically different in reality and it makes me crazy.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

Yes I did the same, bought a whole set of a big brand so I could easily get replacements and additions if needed. Some time later I decided I needed more spoons so I bought another set of 10 spoons of the exact same brand and set name. Turns out the spoons are slightly different in the handle, bugs the hell out of me.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Yes, one of my most adult-feeling purchases was a full cutlery set for 12, and basically a cabinet full of different types of plates and bowls, all in sets for 8 ppl, from the same design series. I love this stuff way more than I ever imagined.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I also only use rounded handles. For some reason flat ones drive my crazy! 😅

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[–] snausagesinablanket 37 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Got a butter knife that looks the same but weighs nothing. Drives me nuts.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 12 points 4 months ago (2 children)

My favorite spoon is made of really low quality aluminum and weighs nothing!

[–] KpntAutismus 8 points 4 months ago

we had an aluminum teaspoon once, don't know where it went but it's on the top 10 of my favourite objects.

weighed almost literally nothing and always catched me off guard. i love it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Trivia. Aluminum was once the most expensive, and thus prestigious metals on the planet. The king of France would dine with aluminum cutlery as a show of opulence.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 8 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

You (everyone) will hate this entire comment, but my aforementioned favorite aluminum spoon comes from a Czech army surplus cutlery set. I hate the other utensils, but just think how fucking amazing it is that this is a set which belongs together:

Why is the spoon so ornamental and aluminum? Why is the knife steel with a plain plastic handle? Why is the fork so fucking weird with a different ornamentation (aluminum too, btw)? This is a set for soldiers. Fancy is good and all but why is it so mismatched? So many questions.

This specific picture isn't mine by the way. I'd never allow a fork that horribly misshapen to live in my house.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Taking this post as a platform to rally against cutlery that isn't fashioned from a single piece of metal but has a useless metal or plastic handle. When you take them out of the dishwasher, a pool of warm, stagnant , vaguely soap-smelling water will pour out onto your wrist and wet your sleeve and my week is ruined.

For the record, I haven't experienced this in years but I carry the trauma.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

Or the very first time you discover you hate those when the tines end pops out into your food and sludge from the handle falls in after it.

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[–] youCanCallMeDragon 23 points 4 months ago

Laughed, then saw the community… uh oh

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Mine is a butter knife. I had a poor quality and overpriced meal at a restaurant and stole it in revenge. When I got home and started using it I realised that every single thing about that restaurant would always be atrocious and nothing would ever make it OK to eat there.

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[–] feedum_sneedson 13 points 4 months ago (1 children)

That's bizarrely specific yet accurate. For me it's a spoon, but only because I somehow lost every single fork I own and had to buy a new, matching set.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

I've kind of made it my mission to buy orphaned utensils that I like, so my drawer is full of mismatched stuff. I have stuff that matches too, of course.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 months ago

I bought us a nice, thick , chromatic set.

kids lost a spoon here and there and now... we have this hodge podge of shit silverware.

when grabbing for me, I reach for the chromatic set every time.

the other ones are mostly too sharp around the edges, too heavy, or just too flimsy.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

It's a proportions thing. There's a very specific size and shape of fork that I like, and it shouldn't have decorations on it. Just stamped sheet steel.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

It's usually a handle issue

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 12 points 4 months ago

Weight balance is important tho

[–] kalleboo 12 points 4 months ago (2 children)

One day my wife had enough and threw out all the mismatched cutlery, so now we have everything 100% matched.

I married the right woman.

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[–] Pirky 10 points 4 months ago

For me it's one of the two sets my parents use. One set is smooth, shiny, and nice to hold. The other has lots of detail which looks neat, but is unenjoyable to hold. So I avoid them whenever I can.

[–] a4ng3l 9 points 4 months ago

Damn you guys are making me doubt my sanity way too much with these posts…

[–] Misconduct 9 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I don't have a single metal fork in my drawer because I have some kinda weird issue where metal cutlery touching each other or my teeth makes me want to die :(

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[–] Rajtinka 9 points 4 months ago (5 children)

I have 2 different sized spoons that don't match the rest. I can't use either of them, even if it's the only utensil I need. I also have no idea why I don't just get rid of them instead of making sad panda face every time I accidentally grab one of them...

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[–] Madrigal 8 points 4 months ago

We call ours “special fork”.

[–] MrWafflesNBacon 8 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I don't understand people that like big forks and big spoons like why

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago
[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 6 points 4 months ago (3 children)

My largest spoon is just funny. I don't like eating with it, but I appreciate that it's not small enough to be a spoon while at the same time not being large enough to be a ladle.

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[–] Deestan 8 points 4 months ago (4 children)

That fork has too long prongs and they curve... inwards. Brrr...

Loving the engagement in this post btw

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[–] dornad 7 points 4 months ago

Mine is a spoon that is different from all the other… and it is specifically for cat food.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago

Fsck that fork specifically

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago

Does it count if by 28 I have one fork I like and the rest I only tolerate? My preferred fork is a plain one, not unlike fourth from left while all the others are more textured than any of those present here. I'm used to them from having forks like that all my life but I like the simple one most.

[–] Thcdenton 6 points 4 months ago

Someone put a tiny camping cutlery set in the drawer. I balk everytime I accidentally grab the baby fork.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

If I had to use a teaspoon as a fork I'd hate it too.

[–] gedaliyah 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Report: I'm in this image and I don't like it.

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[–] Pooptimist 5 points 4 months ago

Mine is a three pronged one 🤮

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

I have a compulsion... At every restaurant I go to, I inspect their fork. Specifically, I check to see if the tines are aligned. If they aren't, the first thing I do is start bending them so that they are aligned. I do it subconsciously if I'm by myself. But in polite company, often I cover my compulsion by making some sort of joke about being a food blogger or similar.

[–] Lemminary 5 points 4 months ago

I've disowned that plate. Its only duty is to support the hot plates that come out of the microwave. It's become the Cinderella of my kitchen.

[–] sleepmode 5 points 4 months ago

I only have one left out of the set that I like from my parents’ first marriage.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I don't know why this is a universal feeling.

Anyway, managed to almost get rid of my Wrong Fork last week.

[–] The_v 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

The Wrong fork is my wife's favorite. She's weird that way.

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[–] Mpolmanteer 5 points 4 months ago

Haha it's true. I've always had hand me downs and I finally got the first time bought a set. It's pretty glorious. Side note, definitely hammy downs in my head)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

i have a single fork that has 3 prongs that I think I got from a thrift store and i just hate using it cuz the tines are too far apart. Yet I've kept it for a decade

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

A couple of years ago I threw out all my old basic cutlery (forks, spoons, butter knives etc.) and bought a whole new matched set of good quality. It cost less than I imagined. Never had a single ounce of regret, I love having a nice matched set and not having to dig through to get out a good pair for dinner.

The old stuff got donated to a local club, who were happy to have it in their big pot of cutlery.

[–] LemmyN 5 points 4 months ago

Throw it out?

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