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I've ran into cis women on Grindr. My mom called them the super non-PC term "fag hags." That's the bad F word for those on Lemmy World cuz I'm pretty sure that word is censored on that instance.
I'm on Lemmy World and I can see it too.
I've heard that and fruit flies.
I like that one. lol
Lemmy.world censors only “removed” and the N word. Lemmy.ml censors “bitch” and various slurs. I believe their users can still see comments with these words in (?), though the censored words are removed if they post them themselves
Am I missing something? I have absolutely no idea what you guys are talking about.
Is there a slur somewhere in this post or the comment section? And TIL that Lemmy communities can censor words. I’m from blahaj.zone btw
Lemmy instances are able to censor words; it can’t be set per community. When viewing a comment from an instance that censors some word, that word will be replaced with “removed”. This applies to both comments sent by users of that instance, and comments sent by external users.
Blahaj doesn’t censor any slurs
That feels like a weird sentence
Only federates up-votes and doesn't censor slurs, I find that funnier than I should
Ah, thank you for explaining.
Bizarrely, the reason I’d asked the question at all is because your comment that I’d replied to was rendered as a top-level comment rather than a reply to another comment.
So I was wondering if, rather than individual words being censored, entire posts/comments were being hidden, but not replies to them. I guess that’s actually just a bug or something, because I can see what you were replying to now.
I’ve had this experience of feeling like I’m not seeing the full thread / that someone is replying to something I can’t see a handful of times. It’s a weird one.
What was "removed"?
Aha, so it seems that other instances do censor external comments for their own users. It was “fag-got”.
feddit.uk doesn't censor anything at the moment, because I accidentally broke the slur regex.
Normally, users from censored instances can still see rude words, they just get removed "in flight" if they try to post anywhere.
Firmly believe we should ban all mention of Scunthorpe from the instance.
So they censor removed and not fag. That makes zero sense lol.
Hmm
Well the first one has basically one meaning that's derogatory (including the definition of a bundle of sticks used for kindling; that's literally why it became a slur as it implies you want to burn them) while the three letter word is also slang for a cigarette in much of the world.
removed and fag are used interchangeably in much of the world. Both have other means, both are derogatory and both mean gay.
Makes no sense to censor one and not the other.
Yeah they’re used interchangeably by the gay men I know
The 6-letter version means a bundle of sticks, or a stick, which is how it came to mean cigarette. The 3-letter version is an abbreviation of the 6-letter version. Both of them mean cigarette, and both of them are an anti-gay slur.
I’m no historian or etymologist but I saw one on YouTube once who said a very similar term was used for poor older women who supposedly went around hunched over all the time picking up sticks for firewood, and then was later transferred to homosexual men to imply they were weak, effeminate, outcast, etc
I just assumed it also censored the shorter form, since I ran into that before when quoting Martin from The Simpsons. I was wrong.
I see it.
The non-offensive word I have seen used for a person who seeks out relationships with homosexual people despite being the opposite gender is “beard”. This is derived from the fact that it helps the male in the relationship present outwardly as a “real man” with a “normal relationship” in settings/societies where homosexuality is not considered acceptable to one degree or another. Also, sometimes homosexual couples of opposite genders will “beard” for each other in a mutually-beneficial dynamic.
edit: it seems spoiler text doesn’t work right on a lot of mobile apps, including voyager. Anyways: watch For All Mankind. It’s great.
I'm not sure they're actually the same thing tho. Beards are used by gay men to seem straight. The term my mom used was against the women who just had a fetish for gay men.
Yeah, a beard is a mutually beneficial arrangement. You won't see straight women trying to pick up gay men on Grindr because they want to be a beard. They'll be doing it because they fetishize turning them straight or whatever.
My parents had some friends who did exactly this for Prom since every attendee was required to have an opposite-sex date. They met the requirement to go through the front door then promptly split and found their actual date for the night (or their friend group if they were single)
"I'll light a fag everytime I think of you."
"Oh Buster, you're such a pussy"
http://fag-hag.urbanup.com/686399
what, are you federated from lemmy.world and being salty?
No I just ran into people asking me what the removed word was in a previous comment.