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[–] partial_accumen 205 points 10 months ago (7 children)
  • Your body is now "out of warranty". When it breaks in a significant way, it may never get fully better. Don't do stupid stuff that will break it in those ways.
  • If you haven't figured out yet that you can't drink, party, or skip sleep like you did earlier in life, learn it quick. Each of these will have a much larger impact on you.
  • If you don't have your retirement savings on track now, you have a VERY VERY short window to correct that. Its going to be much harder now to put the money aside than it would have earlier in life, but you're in the prime earning years of your life. I would think you will earn more now in the next 10-12 years or so than you will/would have in any 10-12 years of your life.
  • Hopefully you've learned by now to be comfortable with yourself in your own skin. This means not doing things/buying things to impress other people. You are who you are. This doesn't mean stop learning or improving yourself, but nobody is going to be impressed with a 40+ year old driving an amazing car. It doesn't matter how amazing the car is.
  • Support younger people. You didn't get where you are on your own. You had help, advice, and your mistakes were forgiven by those older than you because of your youth. Now its your turn to do that for the younger people. You grew up seeing heroes around you. You are now the hero in a younger person's eyes. Hold that duty sacred. Be their hero in how you act.
  • Embrace change! No, things aren't like they used to be. No, they shouldn't necessarily go back to those things just to make you comfortable. Its not our world anymore, it belongs to the younger generations. Understand your ways could be out-of-date or backwards. Your old ways worked for you in that old world. That old world is gone. Be part of the new. You'll have to do this two or three more times before you die if you live into your 80s or 90s.
  • Stay fit. That doesn't mean body builder or supermodel. It means be moderately active so that picking something up doesn't cause a strain injury that will take you 6 months to a year to recover from. You shouldn't be out of breath walking up stairs. If you are, make changes. You're likely already seeing the difference in your peers with those that stayed fit vs those that didn't. Be part of the first group, not the second. If you are in the second group, you can change to the first by taking care of your body and eating properly.
  • Make a will. You will die and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Dying without having a will makes some of your assets evaporate in probate and may mean your money/assets go to people you may not want.
  • Go to the goddamn doctor for wellness checkups! You're entering the time of life where conditions found early are treatable. Don't dying/become disabled because you were too lazy or afraid to go. Yes, some of the things are going to be uncomfortable, but I can tell you its much more comfortable than debilitating pain or death.

You might look at the list above and think it negative for you now. Its not at all. This is the prize for living to this age. You likely have some friend or family that died before 40. You are here to see this part of your life. Make sure you're still here to see 50, 60, 70, with as much of your body and mind as you can.

Good luck!

[–] [email protected] 77 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I tell myself every day that I'm not working out for my beach body, I'm working out for my old lady body. I just want to be able to tie my own shoes when I'm 70.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago

This is a great way to frame it. Thank you.

[–] partial_accumen 12 points 10 months ago

You've got more lofty goals than I do. :)

I'd just like to extend the years I'm able to go to the bathroom by myself without another human required to help me relieve myself.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

They were discussing this on the radio the other day - one of the key things is being able to get out of a chair without using your hands.

[–] macrocephalic 8 points 10 months ago

I think there's a lot of value in just lying down on the floor and getting up like ten times a day. Being unable to get up after a fall is a huge problem for older people.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm only 31, but I'm going to do all of these things anyway.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

It's advice you should probably start following as early as possible - that way you are in a better place to head off any future unpleasantness.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago

Still socialize and hang out. It is very helpful for your mind. Do hobbies and stuff.

[–] paddirn 10 points 10 months ago

Having gone through probate with my Dad’s Will, I learned that you want to do as much as possible to avoid probate altogether. Trusts and/or Quitclaim deeds or other instruments that an estate planner can setup can make the whole process alot smoother. Otherwise a Will isn’t the ironclad document you may think it is, it’s more like just a set if guidelines.

[–] DBT 6 points 10 months ago

This is true wisdom right here.

[–] Mango 1 points 10 months ago

Nice to see this instead of a meme. I came here to meme. I suck.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

This is all such sound advice, I hope all young people in this thread take it to heart!