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In which situations a friendship can swallow us and destroy our life ?

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[–] ladicius 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's not friendship if it's danger. It's bullshit, manipulation, toxic, whatever.

Problematic relationships should be identified as such and swiftly abandoned.

[–] LesserAbe 24 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Not to sound like an after school special, but if a "friend" encourages you to do something harmful then they're not your friend. (Making fun of others, physically fighting, consuming more substances than you're comfortable with, generally breaking the law) But especially when people are younger they might be eager to have a friend, and feel pressured to go along with what another person suggests.

[–] TotalFat 4 points 1 year ago

If your role in your social hierarchy is the same as Toadie from The Road Warrior, it might be time to reevaluate your friendships..

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Depends. If you and the whole group are into fighting, abusing substances, and breaking the law, then you can definitely have real friends that encourage you to do those things.

[–] Potatos_are_not_friends 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

One of those posts where I go, "OP are you okay?"

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Yeah, Am okay. A little bit confused about how to choose & maintain friendship.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Co-dependence

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think any can be really.

A friend gives us validation, which could push us to do things we don't want in some situations.

We can also be betrayed by a friend, and our outlook on life/perspectives shift into darker territory, particularly if you are isolated and stuff...

Someone you consider to be a friend may also not have your best interests at heart, or may have a completely wrong impression of you, and may not protect you from danger when you need it most.

Despite those, IMO friends are kind of essential from a mental health perspective - we're social beings, isolation can bring out the worst in us. Whenever you come across someone that shares your values, keep them close 👍

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Friendship with always one friend in the "leader" role.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Will he stay with me until my death ? But still friendships are essential.