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My boss mentioned that she thinks it’s from those reality TV shows like the Kardashian ones where all calls are on speaker since it’s part of the “entertainment.”
It’s why people are holding the phone up to their face like a sandwich and speaking into the bottom. It mimics the TV shows.
Oh my god!! That’s the most plausible hypothesis I’ve heard on that weird phenomenon!!
People do the weirdest and most uncomfortable pose just because they don’t understand they do it on TV so the Boom mic can pick up the convo….
I like this as a possible explanation. In my experience however, it's been older people who do this. The generation that most likely wouldn't be watching these shows
Really? I've only ever seen younger people do this.
52 here and I do this. It's comfortable and people can hear me well. I don't do it in public, except for walking around my yard and talking to a customer or vendor. Even then I feel a little odd.
What is a "television show"?
Yeah, I do it not in public too. The topic is specifically about in public though and that's what I was addressing.
They just don't care. Simple as. People with brand-new phones do the same thing. There's just no regard for other people.
I saw a lot of other "they just don't care" behaviour this weekend.
As someone with really bad anxiety, these people are aliens to me. Whenever I start to think I understand people, behavior like this is so incredibly foreign that I can can't comprehend relating to
I don't even like taking a call or listening to other people take a call in the same room as I am. I always leave the room for privacy. In a home environment at least, could deal with it in a work environment. So I really don't get it for those that do it in public.
You never know what the other person is going to say. It's safer to leave the room in case they say something in what they assume is a private call. A few times when the group I'm with needs to hear what's on the phone, I always let the person on the other side I'm turning on the speaker. I would be pissed and stop calling the other person if I thought they had me on blast.
People do that to me at work frequently - I know you have me on speaker, that's fine, but you're in your little private office so no worries...
Nope, Jerry from Billing is sitting there listening to every word, and will jump in and offer "assistance" on topics he knows fuck all about. The person I'm actually trying to assist will of course take Jerry's input over mine... So why didn't you just ask him in the first place?
I have really bad anxiety but I'm really good at pretending I don't except under a lot of stress. That's partly why I asked this. I just don't understand. I've been on the road since I asked this but the few replies I've seen do make some sense so I'm glad I asked.
I know how judgemental this sounds, but it's because the bottom speaker is louder, and because they don't care about other people.
Since the phone was invented, they designed it with a speaker that goes against your ear for easily heard, yet private conversations.
I'm actually in the broken phone speaker boat, but I just stopped taking calls in public spaces.
I'm this person. I have a few rules - I never have a phone conversation on public transport (bus, train, etc) and if it's a long conversation or overly personal I'll tell them I'll call them back when I'm in a private room.
But I'll answer quick calls like "can you grab bread on your way home?" or "I'm on my way, but I'm running late" on speaker in public.
I have reverse slope hearing loss, and I'm a very forgetful person who always leaves their seventeen pairs of headphones somewhere that isn't on my person.
I can't hear phone conversations properly without putting the phone directly in front of me so both ears are listening.
It's gotten better with VoIP because the method of compression is different to the old copper lines - I can't hear shit over analogue, as a teenager I used to use relay services because I couldn't hear male voices over phone. But some people's phone service is still really badly compressed, I'm on a tight budget so unfortunately I can't afford a quality service, or a flagship smartphone that let's me pitch adjust incoming calls.
I can't afford hearing aids for RSHL (they're not standard) so in the meantime I answer the phone on speaker and hold it in front of my face. (unless I have my headphones and can plug both in)
I try not to shout at my phone, but half the time it's my deaf mother calling me and we just end up shouting at each other over the phone, or it's one of the students calling me, I teach conversational English for migrants and IT for seniors, so there's a huge language or hearing barrier and my stupid little monkey brain thinks speaking louder will help even though I know it won't.
Thank you, this is exactly the kind of perspective I was hoping to see here.
My mother does this. She says it's because she can't hear it when she puts it up to her ear. I think she's just not positioning the phone correctly to her ear. I've bought her headphones and headsets, but she's a retired old lady that's technologically challenged so she's pretty much never going to stop it.
Just start participating in their conversations. That shuts them up really quickly.
If you have a friend or family member that does this, call them when you are in a busy place and start talking mad crazy shit. Quickly learn, and its a bit of fun.... if they can take the joke that is.
In the airport restroom this morning, some jackass having a speaker conversation while he was taking a dump. Classy.
That's your chance to release the loudest fart possible while they are talking
There was a guy at my previous job that took meetings while doing his business. Everybody would try to be as loud as possible and flush several times to make extra noise but he just didn't care
I had a customer that was on video, while taking a dump recently.
You could see a mirror to their left and a shower curtain to their right.
He was also shirtless.
Who do you work for?
People love to air out their laundry
North Americans suffer from main character syndrome. They learned the speakerphone thing from watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians. People literally think you're supposed to use a cell phone on speakerphone only because Kim does it, not understanding that it's for the camera so the audience can hear both sides of the conversation.
A lot of people send voice messages now, so you'd normally record/play them that way.
That's true, never thought of that. These are definitely conversations but I take you point, thank you.
I have a coworker whose wife only sends voice messages, no texting etc.
Curious what country are from from and where you are you visiting? This has been an annoying phenomenon for 10-15 years but it seems like it used to be moreso an elderly person thing. Maybe it’s the fact that gen x and millennials (who have had smartphones most of their adult lives) are now getting older and losing their hearing?
Personally I think it’s mostly a courtesy issue. People lack consideration. If you get a call walk somewhere else. Bring headphones with you. Or just keep the conversation short and call back when you are in private. I always see people get calls and expect them to say “hey Paula I’m at a soccer game so let me call you back” but often times they just fucking chat away… Like we’re watching our kids play soccer, this is not your living room, and I don’t wanna hear your goddamn conversation in the background. Watch the game. Or on the subway I personally would just want to keep a conversation short so everyone is not listening to my conversation. I don’t want them listening and judging for my sake (semi-introvert) and I don’t want to annoy them for their sake. Lots of people just lack self awareness like there are other people around who don’t want to be involved. I don’t want to hear your conversation because then it’s in my head and I don’t want your dumb shit taking up valuable brain space.
Example, at a recent soccer practice a dad conversation talking about work shit included confirming “Greggy is handling the refi.” Just a fucking ridiculous statement. An adult called Greggy and the fact that Greggy is handling the refi. I would never let someone called Greggy manage finances. You’re fucking Greg or you are limited to financial transactions up to and including milk money and nothing more. I don’t want this in my head. Fuck that guy.
I hope it gets better, I’m not a fan of hating on Gen Z who is mostly under 18 at this point…so I’m having faith they will be considerate adults and common courtesy, self awareness, caring about other people, mental health support all that shit will be intrenched in their values. TikTok influencers aside…that is not all kids.
Gen-Z is majority over 18 now. 11-26, 8 years above 18, 7 below 😱
But yeah, agreed.
For me, it's so I can read information from my screen while I am on the phone. I can pull up my calendar and schedule appointments or look up an email and share the information with my conversation. I also just hold my phone to my face when I don't need to look at the screen.
I've had phone calls that were so quiet I could barely hear them, even when I turned the volume up all the way. I don't know if it would've been any better in speaker mode, though.
