I'm on board!
I'm a big fan of the word cunt in all of its current uses it's my preferred slang term for my own, though it's rare to find someone who's not taken aback by that in the bedroom.
Would it be a grammatically consistent pronoun? "oh, someone left cunt wallet, I hope cunt come get it" or do we need a cunt/cunter situation? So cunt can collect cunter wallet.
The way the OP phrases it rules out trans men who have vaginas, trans women who have vaginas, and a bunch of cis women who've had certain pelvic traumas or cancers and therefore don't have vaginas.
What he's trying to say is "if you were born with a vagina and you align with it" which is actually still funny because I was born with my vagina, I like my vagina, I'll be happily keeping it even after all my surgeries....but if this OP saw my face he would put me in the "trans man" bucket because they lack nuance around identity.
You need to get big into two tone ska, then the fedora is socially acceptable again.
partners they could hypothetically reproduce with
"fertile women"
"women capable of pregnancy"
Outdated, slight red flag option: "gynephile"
Or you could even try "I find women attractive and would love to have kids with the woman I love one day"
There, language isn't that hard.
I love that half of these are fully gender neutral terms of endearment in Australia 😂
Can we trade? Every year I ask for socks, sunscreen, and cash, and I get useless stuff that is so lovely but so useless to me.
I've got a luxury nail care manicure set for Christmas this year that I'll be hauking as soon as my family blink so I can buy some sunscreen for myself for Christmas since I'm out and I need it.
It's a thoughtfully misguided gift - they know I go to get "treatments on my hands" and they keep thinking this is at a spa, so a kit to do it myself at home is a thoughtful gift to help me save money.
Except that I've explained thousands of times "it's medical treatment, at a physiotherapist clinic, for palsies, not relaxation treatment, at a spa, for pleasure"
I can't even really use the manicure set by myself because of the palsy.
For my actual nails I just bite, and occasionally file them... like a normal guy.
I was made redundant this year in November, so I need cash and socks, not a manicure set.
I hate feeling so ungrateful towards gifts. But I really do feel like they've gifted me guilt, when I asked for socks.
There were friends that were not peers involved who probably wanted to find a sex worker who could provide a medically and psychologically safe session to the boy.
If he's dying he's likely not able to have sex with zero health considerations, and can you imagine being a teenage girl and holding the knowledge that you pity fucked a dying boy and have to keep it a secret from his family? As a teenager that kind of memory will stick with you and I imagine those organising the boys wish wanted to minimise that psychological grey area for the girl and get someone who has access to occupational mental health support through networks and hubs.
See this way of thinking has actually landed me in a pretty bad place with my mental health.
"I'm in charge of my own emotions" is not something an autistic person with rigid lines of thinking should internalise, but I did.
As a result I never gave myself permission to feel negative emotions, because who wants to feel negative about anything if they don't have to?
It seemed so smart and healthy, just be happy, that's what everyone always says about the easy fix to mental health. It was easy too, regardless what was happening around me, if I pictured myself feeling happy, I'd feel happy.
I'm in my 30s and regularly mistake sensations with other sensations (am I tired or do I need to pee? They both cause a headache) and also I think all my negative emotions are skipping my brain entirely and coming out my arse in the form of IBS.
I can't picture myself feeling sad to experience sad because I .....don't remember what sad feels like.
I remember what vomiting feels like, because that's how my body has reacted to "sad" recently.
what were you doing this whole time
Assuming it was this hard for everyone else and I was just really, really, inexplicably bad at this....so I'll work harder to overcome my personal shortcomings!
Undiagnosed thought: "I'm always forgetting my important things, this is really difficult"
Society: "everyone forgets things"
Undiagnosed thought: that fluorescent light is so incredibly loud and the way it flickers is creating this strange rainbow effect on my computer and it hurts my eyes and I'm really struggling here.
Society: working in an office sucks, the lights, the distractions, it's normal to have unfocused moments.
You repeat enough of these thoughts - I feel like I'm struggling with my emotional regulation, could it be ADHD? Well as a teen it was hormones, as a uni student it was "freshman anxiety", then I was getting divorced so my emotional state was blamed on that, then I was always moving house so it made sense that my mood was always a hair trigger.
There were always just enough environmental factors to mask the underlying condition.
And it works! Until you burnout in your 30s because no one else is actually giving 150% all the time.
I did the same with a physical illness! I was born with a hip deformity so my whole life any pain or issues around my hips was just totally brushed off until I got aggressively assertive in my 20s because with the physical symptoms I was able to feel more confident in my perception of my reality and advocate to my doctor (where as with mental health, it's harder, sure I think I feel this symptom but it's in my head it's fleeting what if I'm remembering experiencing my own thoughts wrong? Years of describing how I feel to therapists, being told it's nothing out of the ordinary, so I've convinced myself it's nothing, but it's not nothing)
Turns out I had nerve damage in my spine the whole time, but we all just assumed I was being overly dramatic and sensitive about the known hip issue.
Same with my ADHD. We all (myself included) thought it was just really bad anxiety in addition to me being bad at sticking to the homework for therapy so it made sense I wasn't getting better.
But we know more about how it presents, so if I was a kid going through the process again I'd be less likely to be misdiagnosed in the first place.
Wow, it's almost as if other places exist and had different responses to covid.
A quick google would reveal that police were used to enforce lock down measures in places such as UK and AUS.
Victoria Police alone gave out 39,985 covid lock down violation orders in the 2.5 years we had lockdown orders in place.
The Engagement party fined we all remember. Idiots.
Including such crimes as, playing video games with 3 people in a lounge room, and having 9 people over for dinner.
And this is why I loved being a community education teacher.
I get to decide where we're going for an excursion/field trip. I choose which activities we do. I not only get to participate but I'm expected to actively get involved to encourage my students. I get paid to do it.
I'm literally living the dream.
I had a student ask "what's the big red building on [Street]" and enough students were curious that we spent 20 minutes talking about the building. It's the pipeworks and gas mains museum and I've wanted to visit for years but never had time or justification for the adult entry fee ....so you bet we took a field trip the following week!
(another upside to community ed, we can plan and initiate a field trip on 20 minutes notice. Last week the toilets in the classroom started spilling over and we couldn't physically be in the building, but class had just started, so we grabbed our bags, I grabbed the field trip kit, and we walked to the train and went to the beach. "Change of plans, maths class is cancelled, we're doing environmental science today, who's ready to learn about coastal ecosystems")
A few staff members and I have joked that we'd save so much money just ditching our school building entirely and literally every class is a field trip. Field trips are some of the most fun, most engaging, and honestly sometimes the most effective ways to learn something. Place based learning and hands on learning utilises a different part of our developmental skills compared to classroom based learning, as well as community engagement and life skills developed from getting out into the community and learning how the world works.
But the way America does excursions and field trips is odd to me, because they're often expensive and you get a chartered bus and it's a curated experience. Vs Australian community ed where a field trip is often "walking to the local train station to talk to the station staff and learn about the ticketing system" it's free and is like 40 minutes out of our class then we walk back to school and you do several things like that a week.
Wow I completely forgot Lemmy existed for a full fortnight, I'm sorry I accidentally ghosted your comment!
I'm currently using Reef 50+ SPF sunscreen oil.
I swapped to sunscreen oil instead of cream last year after I started using an oil based toner and realised that I prefer the slick oily feeling of actual oil over the sticky greasy feeling of sunscreen creams or the drying chalky sensation of mineral sunscreens like zinc.
I am myself on the hunt for another brand of sunscreen oil, because Reef is coconut oil based, and I have a friend who's deathly allergic to coconut, so if I'm hanging out with her I need to swap back to the gross greasy 1L bottle of Bunnings sunscreen that's probably expired but it's what I've got.
And I'm worried I'll forget one day and kill my friend by hugging her while wearing sunscreen.