Every day I go home knowing I'm the favorite person of 2 cats. Here both of them are laying on my lap.
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For me it's my two little dogs who get filled with so much energy when I come home that one does constant 360s and the other serenades me with vocal sounds with her little tail flailing around at high speeds.
I could be completely flat and done with the world untill I walk inside and I'm filled with joy by these 2 little shits.
Cats have good taste!
I don’t need to be someone’s favorite person, I don’t think. But I’ve grown exhausted with “uneven” friendships. I feel like every relationship I try to maintain, it’s a one sided effort. I’m the only one reaching out. I take note of their interests and utilize that info, send them cool links, spark convos, etc. But don’t really get it in return.
Perhaps that’s too demanding of me? Unrealistic? If so, I don’t think I understand what friendship is supposed to be and likely never will.
so is it this way for every relationship or are there some where the other person is always reaching out to you? totally agree, it's nice when both friends are equally reaching out and attempting to nourish the friendship
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Are you your own favorite person? If not, why not? What qualities about yourself make you feel like you're not worthy of being the person you enjoy spending the most time with? If you are your own favorite person, why does it matter if someone else feels like they'd rather spend time with you over anyone else? I feel if you enjoy your own company when you're completely alone then the relationships you develop with others become more genuine, because you actually enjoy spending time with those people, rather than just being desperate to not be alone with yourself.
I know you don't actually want people to individually answer. But for me, I'm always making mistakes, never working hard enough, always doing the wrong thing, etc. I try but never hard enough. I fail every day at the things I try to do and get everything wrong all the time...most of it in terms of social interaction.
Because I've been very isolated and alone all my life, including home schooling, when I'm alone there's this emptiness inside of me that never gets filled. I get so anxious when I'm alone and have slowly lost the ability to do things to distract myself from it.
Theres a difference between being lonely and alone, I used to be good at being alone but I've never been able to cope with being lonely. Life seems pointless without others in it.
But the more you interact with them, the more it's revealed that people are mostly intolerable and disappointing. So, alone has it's own merits.
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Now that I think about it, I'm not sure who IS my favorite person (?) Is there such a person at all? Do I need to rank them? I like a lot of people but kind of shy away from the ranking contest
Fair, I tend to think in terms of affinity rather than ranking, i have high affinity with some people and less with others. it's not about rank, it's about... Vibes? I guess? There's probably a better word but codes it what comes to mind.
or become old enough to realize...you are no longer the main character in your own life.
I definitely remember the turning point.
Seeing a tiny version of something who raise (either human or furball) get older and do things outside of your control, and all you can do is set them up for success.
Kinda like playing The Sims.
I'm my dog's favorite person, and that's enough.
why do you need to be someone's favourite person? if you make it to anyone's top 10, that's pretty cool already
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I'm my cats' favorite person, but that's only because they are indoor cats and I'm the only human in the house.
I have others in the house, but I feed her so she loves me the most. Conditional love works when the condition is easy to fulfill ❤️
Or do you ever realise that everyone percives you differently, so you're a different person to different people.
Yeah...
I feel everyone is more important than I am. Everyone.
Nahhhh bish you are more important than you will ever know
It took me so long to accept this, don’t take as long as I did.
Cheers, mate..
I'm 35.. if it's not something I've "realized" yet, I doubt I ever will
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the "floater friend"
My partner is my favorite person and I'm his. I would assume it's true for (at least) many couples. Am I missing something, or are people just lonely?
Yeah, I don't think this post is addressing folks who are in a relationship. 😅
Yeah, fair enough 😄
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What about everyone else who does not have a partner?
Of course, I just felt the premise was too specific to be relatable, because many people are someone's favorite, and it's not typical to wonder if you are someone's favorite even when your lonely. But maybe that's just me.
People are just lonely.
That's great but it's important to have friendships outside of your relationship as well.
It's that what the post is about?
Yeah, but I have BPD, and know FPs are dangerous (still want one tho)
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Nah
oh okay. thanks for answering.
I am lucky to get an early start in life to know that you should not please every people, and not everyone will like you. So screw the haters.
No. I matter a lot to some people who matter a lot to me. I don't need to be the most important person to anyone (other than my partner and our kitties; even then, she has lots of people who are more important in different ways, like her mom and brothers and her best friend since they were kids).
Cherish the people who matter to you. This feels like some real influencer-pilled shit.
If you're not 7 people's favorite person by 11am, you just aren't putting in the work.
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always, but I've felt this way for a long time
tldr dated someone and felt it was serious and after breaking it off I never looked at friendships the same way
but the good thing is that this was a long time ago when I was young so I've focused on myself and ever since my motto has been to live purely for my hobbies and for myself
maybe it's selfish or whatever, I don't really care at this point
but friends are cherry on top, in terms of societal structure your family is supposed to be the people who ideally think of you as a favourite
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