I'm my dog's favorite person, and that's enough.
this post was submitted on 08 Feb 2025
527 points (96.1% liked)
me_irl
5019 readers
462 users here now
All posts need to have the same title: me_irl it is allowed to use an emoji instead of the underscore _
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
or become old enough to realize...you are no longer the main character in your own life.
I definitely remember the turning point.
Seeing a tiny version of something who raise (either human or furball) get older and do things outside of your control, and all you can do is set them up for success.
Kinda like playing The Sims.
I don’t need to be someone’s favorite person, I don’t think. But I’ve grown exhausted with “uneven” friendships. I feel like every relationship I try to maintain, it’s a one sided effort. I’m the only one reaching out. I take note of their interests and utilize that info, send them cool links, spark convos, etc. But don’t really get it in return.
Perhaps that’s too demanding of me? Unrealistic? If so, I don’t think I understand what friendship is supposed to be and likely never will.
so is it this way for every relationship or are there some where the other person is always reaching out to you? totally agree, it's nice when both friends are equally reaching out and attempting to nourish the friendship
Same thing with me. I've joined a notorious uni known for ragging and bullying. Being friendless can make you their target. If not for that, I would rather be isolated than fruitlessly try and make friends.
What the fuck is wrong with your place that there is bullying at university? I think most people left that shit in high school, and I could have gone for days at uni without interacting with someone if I wanted..
I think I must have told you that I'm not an American. It's worse than high school in uni here because the staff gives no fuck.
Me neither. I was at one trade school and two universities in central Europe, and I haven't heard of any serious bullying. At most at the trade school, because the average age was around 18-19 and "shop talk" is a bit rougher by default. But at uni, where half the people are like 25?
I think I mistook the meaning of the word uni. The oldest students in my college are 20. There is no 25 year olds here. Tbh, I've never personally known a person who is like 25 and studies irl.
the "floater friend"
I'm my cats' favorite person, but that's only because they are indoor cats and I'm the only human in the house.
I have others in the house, but I feed her so she loves me the most. Conditional love works when the condition is easy to fulfill ❤️
Or do you ever realise that everyone percives you differently, so you're a different person to different people.
Every day I go home knowing I'm the favorite person of 2 cats. Here both of them are laying on my lap.
For me it's my two little dogs who get filled with so much energy when I come home that one does constant 360s and the other serenades me with vocal sounds with her little tail flailing around at high speeds.
I could be completely flat and done with the world untill I walk inside and I'm filled with joy by these 2 little shits.
Cats have good taste!
Are you your own favorite person? If not, why not? What qualities about yourself make you feel like you're not worthy of being the person you enjoy spending the most time with? If you are your own favorite person, why does it matter if someone else feels like they'd rather spend time with you over anyone else? I feel if you enjoy your own company when you're completely alone then the relationships you develop with others become more genuine, because you actually enjoy spending time with those people, rather than just being desperate to not be alone with yourself.
I know you don't actually want people to individually answer. But for me, I'm always making mistakes, never working hard enough, always doing the wrong thing, etc. I try but never hard enough. I fail every day at the things I try to do and get everything wrong all the time...most of it in terms of social interaction.
Because I've been very isolated and alone all my life, including home schooling, when I'm alone there's this emptiness inside of me that never gets filled. I get so anxious when I'm alone and have slowly lost the ability to do things to distract myself from it.
Theres a difference between being lonely and alone, I used to be good at being alone but I've never been able to cope with being lonely. Life seems pointless without others in it.
But the more you interact with them, the more it's revealed that people are mostly intolerable and disappointing. So, alone has it's own merits.
load more comments
(3 replies)
Now that I think about it, I'm not sure who IS my favorite person (?) Is there such a person at all? Do I need to rank them? I like a lot of people but kind of shy away from the ranking contest
Fair, I tend to think in terms of affinity rather than ranking, i have high affinity with some people and less with others. it's not about rank, it's about... Vibes? I guess? There's probably a better word but codes it what comes to mind.
My partner is my favorite person and I'm his. I would assume it's true for (at least) many couples. Am I missing something, or are people just lonely?
Yeah, I don't think this post is addressing folks who are in a relationship. 😅
load more comments
(1 replies)
People are just lonely.
What about everyone else who does not have a partner?
That's great but it's important to have friendships outside of your relationship as well.
why do you need to be someone's favourite person? if you make it to anyone's top 10, that's pretty cool already
I mean, I would prefer to be my partner's favorite person, but I'm sure there are like 50 reasons that reveals I'm broken inside somehow. Or maybe it was that last part I added.
right, partners, I was just referring to friends
Yeah...
I feel everyone is more important than I am. Everyone.
Nahhhh bish you are more important than you will ever know
It took me so long to accept this, don’t take as long as I did.
Cheers, mate..
I'm 35.. if it's not something I've "realized" yet, I doubt I ever will
load more comments
(2 replies)
Yeah, but I have BPD, and know FPs are dangerous (still want one tho)
load more comments
(2 replies)
I am lucky to get an early start in life to know that you should not please every people, and not everyone will like you. So screw the haters.
No. I matter a lot to some people who matter a lot to me. I don't need to be the most important person to anyone (other than my partner and our kitties; even then, she has lots of people who are more important in different ways, like her mom and brothers and her best friend since they were kids).
Cherish the people who matter to you. This feels like some real influencer-pilled shit.
If you're not 7 people's favorite person by 11am, you just aren't putting in the work.
load more comments
(2 replies)
Nah
oh okay. thanks for answering.
view more: next ›