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Explain Like I'm Five

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 18 hours ago

Andrew Tate and his cum dungeon brother are a big reason for this.

[–] [email protected] 143 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (2 children)

Your brother is on a (specifically designed and heavily funded) pipeline to being a total piece of shit (not just with misogyny, but racism, and probably queerphobia and ableism too), do what you can to get him off it. A quick search brings up what looks to be some good info to start you off:

Manosphere

Misogynistic influencers are trending right now. Defusing their message is a complex task

De-radicalising incels out of the ‘manosphere’ through Reddit

Making a Radical Misogynist: How Online Social Engagement with the Manosphere Influences Traits of Radicalization

Swallowing and spitting out the red pill: young men, vulnerability, and radicalization pathways in the manosphere

Exiting the Manosphere

There are also many youtube videos on the subject, though I haven't watched any recently, so I won't link, but look up something along the lines of "manosphere right wing pipeline" and you should see some results.

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[–] [email protected] 73 points 23 hours ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 15 hours ago

neutron male 😎

[–] [email protected] 20 points 22 hours ago

Alpha males are like alpha versions of software

[–] Ledivin 102 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

"Alpha male" basically translates to toxic masculinity, and "beta male" basically translates to anyone who respects other people in any way. It's the callsign of pieces of shit like Andrew Tate, who is a human trafficker and serial sexual abuser currently in prison awaiting trial in... I think it was Croatia?

He doesn't know what it means to be cool, so he's hoping that just declaring that he's cool will be good enough to make him popular.

The problem is that the kids who try this strategy almost universally cannot pick up on social cues, otherwise they would understand that it will always lead to the opposite result. People who seriously say out loud that they're alpha males are pretty much exclusively losers or scumbags.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 21 hours ago

I think it was Croatia?

Romania

[–] [email protected] 8 points 23 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 57 points 23 hours ago (22 children)

It’s called the manosphere, and it’s a bunch of bad podcasters and YouTubers giving shitty advice on how to be a man to insecure kids. It’s annoying because it’s so stupid on its face and yet it’s working.

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

Beat his ass to establish dominance.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

True solution, beat him into submission so that now he's the beta male and all of a sudden he's denying the concept

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[–] Delphia 13 points 20 hours ago

Seduce his mom!

[–] [email protected] 65 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you want advice on how to handle this: ask questions. Ask them calmly and without any judgment. Be genuinely curious.

"What makes him a 'beta male?'"

"What characteristics do you admire most in 'alpha males?'"

"What characteristics do you think you have?"

"Where'd you learn about all this?"

Don't ask them in rapid fire, pepper a question in here and there over time.

[–] Delphia 9 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Alternatively refer to him only as "Cuck" until he stops acting like a fuckwit.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 16 hours ago (2 children)
[–] Delphia 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

What are they gonna do about it? Get someone to defend their kinks better than they can while they jerk off in the corner?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Dunno, but your fixation on defending the use of a kink as an insult soulds pretty assholeish. You do you.

[–] Delphia 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Ok, in fairness the second comment was a dumb joke. But I fight stupid bigots with stupid bigotry. Its more entertaining for me than trying logic and reason because as we have seen time and time again from Trumpists it plain doesnt fucking work. Fuck them, if I have to be mad listening to their dribble, Im gonna make them madder.

Someone constantly spouting off about being an Alpha will hate a dismissive "shut up cuck" and being walked off on so much more than actually respecting their stance by arguing it with logic.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 hours ago

I also hate bigots, it's just that engaging in hate against non-bigots to go against bigots is unnecessary when there's tons of other ways to go against bigots.

I never said "don't insult the bigot pro alpha asshole". Please do, but please don't kink shame <3

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 day ago

He wants girls to think he is cool but has received bad advice

[–] jordanlund 69 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Tell him calling himself an alpha is just what a beta would do. Real alphas don't say shit about themselves, they have people who do that for them. Watch him implode.

[–] tomi000 6 points 17 hours ago

That would probably just stop him from sharing. He would still keep consuming the harmful content

[–] Delphia 9 points 20 hours ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 18 hours ago

Not a Ligma male?

[–] HollowNaught 6 points 19 hours ago

Ligma balls

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[–] CMDR_Horn 70 points 1 day ago

He’s watching toxic YouTubers like Joe Rogan and Andrew Tate.

[–] TheBananaKing 28 points 23 hours ago

Alpha quality, like software. Buggy as hell and should not be released. :D

srsly though it's the clusterfuckchild of social darwinism, grindset mentality and randroid zoology, plus a bit of wannabe-dom.

There was this old, debunked concept of the 'alpha wolf' as pack leader - all dominance displays, all the time, stronger and wiser and better than the rest, a sort of rightful-king that owes nothing to anyone, and that all lesser wolves obey and look up to.

Some absolute chuds picked up on the concept and decided that it applied to people, that it was a quality people could and should naturally embrace, unless they were just inherently inferior.

And of course they tied that all up with being male, because apparently men are just 'naturally dominant', unless again, they're broken and inferior ones - so if you are male, it's vital to prove that you're a properly functioning one by being a domineering asshole who deserves to get away with it out of sheer chutzpah, or else you deserve nothing but contempt and getting trodden on.

This ties in with conservative morality, which is entirely based around acknowledging and reinforcing social hierarchy. Right is when power is exerted downwards in the hierarchy, wrong is when power is asserted upwards.

So in this world, 'alphas' are the master race, while 'betas' are submissive half-men who lack the strength (and thus the virtue) to display the proper 'rugged independence'. They're also obsessed with 'cucks', ie cuckolds, men who lack the necessary manliness to fight off 'alphas' who would disrespect and shame them by having sex with their woman.

It's all incredibly toxic, and you need to pick him up and shake the bullshit out of him.

pic related

[–] RealM__ 2 points 13 hours ago

How old is your brother?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 14 hours ago

Anyone who calls themselves an "alpha" anything is a small dicked nobody.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 23 hours ago

That tells you that he's insecure about himself

[–] JeeBaiChow 12 points 23 hours ago

He found tate's channel.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 21 hours ago

He is a furry that identify as a wolf. /s

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

Just tell him he's fully cuckpilled cause he clearly isn't looksmaxxing.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Others have given you a lot of info here on what it is your brother is referring to.
But what this is reflecting in your brother is that he has fallen into a pipeline of watching these videos or hanging out with people that watch these videos and had some insecurities that he's dealing with that is making these ideas seem like the answer. It would be a great idea to be supportive of him in whatever other hobbies/activities he has outside of watching those videos and spending time with him. Talk with him about anything other than the content of those videos so that those thoughts aren't even entering his mind. Introduce him to your friends that are also supportive in something other than those videos (you don't mention your ages, so it's unclear if you know the same people). Having supportive people around his activities and hobbies will help him lose some of those insecurities that made him gravitate to those videos.

If that fails, what I've seen others say works is if says he's an alpha male say back "I'm not into that furry stuff, but that's really cool your so open with your sexuality like that, and accepting of others' sexualities like recognizing the beta males"

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[–] Today 7 points 1 day ago

How old is he?

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