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Too embarassed to tell anyone I know IRL, but am excited for my new future. Been throwing alot of money with small things. PC, alcohol, movies (and im ashamed to say, funko pops). Recently i took the plunge and cut out alcohol in an attempt to get my life together, and i feel like i have a whole new start.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 months ago

Congrats! That’s not something to be embarrassed about, thanks for sharing it with us

[–] MidsizedSedan 13 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Thinking back, there were many post on R*ddit where i would say to myself "this could have been in the drafts folder" or "this didnt need to be broadcast to the whole internet". Now theres me, proud of an achievement, while someone else on the internet is probably thinking "this didnt need to be broadcast on the internet".

But Im proud of what I did, and am optimistic for the future.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

No this post is very nice to have here because of its positive message. I am guilty of way too much trolling on the web. Being like “lol it’s kinda true but this will cause much ruckus let’s post it” but the recent political situation made me lose all the humour and lightheartedness of little trolling. Time for joking is over.

United in misery is very much a thing and when the situation is normal and good guys are in charge I will hah squabble and bicker and troll a lil bit but in the times of great strife it isn’t proper. The bad times unite ppl.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Nothing needs to be broadcast on social media 99% of the time. But positivity is nice to hear to muddy up the negativity we often see. So what if this didn’t need to be broadcasted. I still found it heartwarming and enjoyable to read and know someone is doing well for themselves.

Congratulations. That’s quite an achievement to make in your life to cancel out something that didn’t have a positive on your life and to do something better for the future at the same time.

Many of us past our 20’s can’t always say we did something so positive in our 20’s but we wish we had.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Alcohol truly flies under the radar for people as a harmless fun. But it does change you, dropping it will clear your mind and make you happier in the long run unless your social life depends on it. In which case rich social life is still healthier in the sum of all things.

[–] SomeGuy69 11 points 3 months ago

Sometimes it's nice to just write something down and be happy about positive change. I see no issue to just casually bringing it up. Be proud of yourself OP.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Congrats! I did a poor job managing finances in my 20s so it wasn’t until last year that I reach my first unclaimed $10k in savings. So don’t be embarrassed, you’re ahead of a significant number of your own age group.

[–] MidsizedSedan 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Hindsight is 20/20

PastMe was proud to own 100+ funko pops. Now i want to kick PastMe in the head.

Then again, if it wasnt for PastMe, PresentMe wouldnt exsist...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Congrats.

Once you get to $10k it starts to matter where you put it - for example a managed fund will make it grow significantly faster than if you left it in the bank.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Don't managed funds have lower growth and significantly higher costs than index funds?

[–] dingus 2 points 3 months ago

Yeah I tried one of those a while back and was pretty dissatisfied with it. All it did was lose money each month due to "fees". Felt like a scam. So I pulled the money out and put it in a high yield savings account instead. I've seen a ton of growth with that. Being a moneybro investor absolutely was not for me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

That's my impression as well. I would recommend making a free account with Schwab or Fidelity and putting your savings in SPY

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

That's great! Keep up the good work!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I hope you're not keeping that on your bank account. Make it work for you. I've put all my savings into diversified, low-cost index funds.

I recently reached a point that I could pay off my house if I wanted to. I'm really tempted to, but I think I'll just keep it invested.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Is it giving you a higher return than you pay in interest? Personally I'd pay off the mortgage.

[–] Iampossiblyatwork 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Spy has been yielding double digit returns for years... That's definitely bigger than most mortgages in the US.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Then you should get rid of your mortgage payments and put it all in that.

[–] Iampossiblyatwork 4 points 3 months ago

Huh? If my rate of return > mortgage rate it makes more sense to be leveraged. If my mortgage rate was 10% I'd be paying off my mortgage.

[–] dingus 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Eh...for a lot of people it makes more sense to keep your money in a high yield savings account instead.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

For your emergency fund maybe but the interests are a lot higher when invested into something like S&P500. Failing to do so means leaving money on the table.

[–] sartalon 8 points 3 months ago

At a minimum, please put that in a high yield savings account. A quick search shows there are still some between 4-5%. Fairly easy to setup and not too bad to get out of, if you need to. (That's free $30-40 a month)

Once there I would consider where to start putting that money to work.

(Just some quick easy advice that you probably already know.)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Invest in yourself.

If you like the job you have, see what career training will help you advance.

If you don't like the job, invest in figuring out what career you do want.

[–] MidsizedSedan 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)

"Like the job i have"

Pro: work in a school. Get holidays as much as the kids do. In Australia. 0 gun threats. (We had 1 rock throwing incedent, and that was solved in the hour). Get paid during the school holidays. Havw 10 paid tharapy sessions per year**

Cons: work with teenagers. Live in bumfuck nowhwre.

*I remember seening a post on reddit about a nurse who couldnt see a therapist about a drunk driver killing an innocent family. All i could think of was me, helping a 14 year old learm what 2x7 was, getting 10 paid theropy sessions a year, while an ICU nurse dealing with 14 hour shifts and possible death on a weekly basis cant get thier mental health check ups. BUT Im alaonplallning ro leave this place. Outback Austrilia does pay well (tried to move out. That was my 1 year of no job. Came back, and got 3 job offers in week 1) but ita still, Outback Australia .

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Well, I'm in the polar opposite of Bumhole, Australia.

Good luck with your endeavors.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

The good thing about small towns is the cost of living can be low compared to a city. Stack your chips, have an investment strategy, and leave on your terms. It’ll be incredibly satisfying to put your future plans into place when the time is right. Just continue to work on you and get that money working for you as well!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Well done! Having financial stability brings such peace of mind.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago
[–] ultranaut 4 points 3 months ago

Congrats! You should consider starting a Roth IRA. If there's still a functioning economy 40 years from now, you will be glad you did.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I'm 34 and don't have $10,000 in savings.

Congrats on the milestone, friend.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Congratulations! We would be better off if everyone prioritized saving and investing and living on less than they make.