Mildly Infuriating

They do that so that legally your wife can open the advertisement. They don’t and you wanted to be a loser, you could report her for tampering with your mail. I’m not sure what the postal investigator would do. “Knock it off and call a divorce lawyer” might feature somewhere in the possibilities.

In any case they’re just pulling names off a list some where. They assume you’re married and in a typical cis relationship.

Same reason they add “or current residents” as well.

They want it read, they don’t care if it’s you or your wife or the luchador that’s randomly moved in with you.

My grandma (decades ago) always went the other way, she wrote "Mr. Sarah Smith" for my grandpa's name. Feminist icon.

"Mrs. [Husbands firstname lastname]" is a pretty dated form of address. I feel like I don't see that a lot anymore. Except in very formal situations and from people who don't realize it's out of style. It's also seems to have become more acceptable to refer to all women as "Miss/Ms." Regardless of her martial status. I sincerely doubt the address mistake was meant to be offensive.

One thing I do find infuriating is the fact that it in numerous states in the US, it is much harder for a man to take his wife's last name when getting married than the other way around. A woman can mail a form and a copy of her marriage license to the Social Security Administration and get the DMV to reissue her driver's license. That's all it takes.

A man often has to get a court order which I think is very discriminatory.

Name changing upon getting married was made illegal in 1981 around here, my girlfriend gets pissed when people make the mistake and use my family name to refer to her!

In Norway we write "name with family" on post cards or invitations etc.

Yep I get mad about this as well. Esp since my title isn't Mrs. it's Dr.

We always joke they should have addressed it Dr and Mr [my first name last name] but of course the real answer is they should just call people by their actual names and titles and not guess.

It's especially irritating when it's something like a wedding invitation, they should know you well enough to get it right! Often that comes down to some old fuddy-duddy's misogyny.

Even if she had taken your surname, she still has her own first name, not John!

I can't view the image for some reason, but I've been single my whole life, I am middle aged, and sometimes get mail for Mr and Mrs rhythmisaprancer. I don't care so much about that, but I am more worried about the mail I get at my elderly parent's house that I have never lived at.

annoying to me because my wife didn’t take my surname!

You think that's annoying? My wife and I aren't even married.

I mean we call each other husband and wife but we don't believe is shackling ourselves to one another, even for tax purposes, and we find the ease of permanent separation keeps our relationship fresh, and has for 35 years.

We used to get mail addressed to our house as Mr. and Mrs. or and we quickly realized why: it's just advertisers collecting my name or her name, gender and the fact that we're married (not legally but we say we are). Absent the name of the spouse, they assume a man would bear his own name and a woman the name of her husband.

Obviously it can't be anything other than fucking advertisers since we're not legally married: city or state agencies wanting to send us mail know exactly what both our names and marital status are and use them correctly.

The easy solution is to not provide real data to data brokers whenever possible. We now use fake names, and we also track which names we provide to whom because it's interesting to see how they bounce back at us.

For example, is she uses the name Elizabeth Corona-Smith to, say, book an appointment at the hairdresser, and I get mail addressed to Mr. Corona-Smith with advertisement inside for arthritis products, I know the online service her hairdresser uses to book appointments sold her data, and the hairdresser filled in her approximate age to add to the data they sold.

With that knowledge, next next time she goes to town, she can give an earful to the hairdresser and tell them she'll never patronize them ever again.

It's happened several times. It's really interesting to see how your information gets sold when you use fake information.

I think it's great! If we're Mr and Mrs MyLastName we know they know me and assumed she was the same. If it's Mr and Mrs HerLastName it means they know us through her, and assumed she must have gotten the name from me! It's like putting the name of the company in the email you're giving the email to, it tracks the source. At least that's the game we play, because it mostly doesn't matter to us.