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Personally, I don't get it. Foot rub sounds nice, but like not THAT nice. But I posted on a dermatology sub once and my DM's blew up asking my gender. Just from dudes though. Are there some women who are perhaps more quietly excited by feet though? Random thought as I sit here grinding off my cracked heels...

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[–] Dove9848 23 points 1 year ago

I am a lady and I am also not into feet....the pool of ladies here may be too small of a sampling to really get you the statistics you seek.

[–] Lando_ 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Lady here and I can only really chime in with "feet don't do anything for me"

Actually, for my work, people send me pictures of reciepts for reimbursement and I got a batch of like 15 with one image that just had this cracked skin, mangled nail image of a big toe (next to a reciept) that left me a just a little more "decidedly not into feet" than I was prior to seeing that image.

[–] FizzlePopBerryTwist 3 points 1 year ago

The whole thing seems like a hard sell.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm confused, I didn't think foot fetish was common among men either? There is definitely a niche for everyone on the internet, but I was not aware that it was a common place interest.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I agree, I don't think it is common.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Definitely now common among men. Then again, female feet are also decidedly more taken care off.

[–] AA5B 2 points 1 year ago

Came here to say this, but I’ll upvote here instead. However it came about, women are more likely to take care of their feet, whereas men don’t. I still don’t understand the kink, but I do see many women have attractively kept feet whereas I care that mine work

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

“Lehmiller even went as far as breaking down the sexual orientation of his participants, explaining that 18% of heterosexual men have fantasized about feet before, compared to a very small 5% of heterosexual women. Twenty-one percent of gay or bisexual identifying men and 11% of lesbian or bisexual women also shared their experiences with foot-related sexual fantasies.”

Having a fantasy is not quite the same as having a kink but this should give you some idea. My assumption is that most kinks are far less common in women because (on average) women have a lower libido than men.

I’m also guessing that the crowd of people willing to send unsolicited inquiries in response to a photo posted in a medical context is going to skew even more male than the population of people with this kink.

From: https://bigthink.com/health/psychology-of-foot-fetishes/#:~:text=A%20fetish%20is%20a%20sexual,least%20once%20in%20their%20lives.

[–] FrostyCaribou 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you have a cite for "women (on average) have a lower libido than men"?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

https://www.psypost.org/2023/02/huge-study-finds-men-have-a-stronger-sex-drive-than-women-68289?amp=1

Based on my reading, this is the consensus view of experts and it has fairly strong evidence supporting it. However, it is not universally accepted and there has been a lesser amount of conflicting research. For an alternative viewpoint, see: https://www.lelo.com/blog/sex-drive-men-vs-women/

Either way, this is a population level trend and there are plenty of exceptions.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Feet per se don't attract or repel me. But grinding off those scratchy cracked heels and moisturizing to help keep them under control is good! Along with trimming and/or filing the nails on feet and hands. Leaving them scraggly would indicate that you wouldn't care about a partner's comfort during intimacy.

[–] FizzlePopBerryTwist 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't even have a partner. I'm just really worried about my feet. I thought calluses were healthy because they protect your soles, but now I see they're getting out of control and cracking.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's still good to take care of the cracking! It's true that having some callous protects your feet from minor sharp stuff on the ground. But it's just another instance of our bodies saying, "This helps me, so more must be better!" like with fat and fever and snot. If the cracking is really bad you can talk to a doctor about it. I think it can be connected to diabetes, and you want to watch out for any infection in the cracks.

[–] FizzlePopBerryTwist 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah, it started the same time my diabetes started and has improved when my A1C went back to near-nominal levels.

[–] GhostPig 3 points 1 year ago

As a woman, i really like feet!

My husbands is size 48-49 and i adore them!

Everything about them are amazing, the smell, the color, the toes, even the ganglioncyst is cute and soft, ooohh....

[–] MilitantAtheist 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not a lady, but I have female friends who like male ankles.

[–] FizzlePopBerryTwist 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's something I've never heard of. Hmmm.

[–] MilitantAtheist 1 points 1 year ago

Stuff like this

[–] marshy_marshy 2 points 1 year ago

Very uncommon. Feet are not a turn on for me.

[–] staceybassoon 1 points 1 year ago

I am a lady and absolutely hate feet, even my husband's. And I'm starting to cringe that my preteen son's feet are starting to look like man feet...

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