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I don't mean random opinionated internet comment arguments. If I think about online acquaintances that I actually message privately, like Discord, then I don't argue with any of those people ever. The people I actually privately want to know and have added as friends, anybody who id even come close to calling, for instance, "brother", I don't argue with any of those people.
Random dude on a message board who has awful takes, of course, but I don't add that guy and send him money or consider letting him move into my house.
I mean sure, if you talk about common interests with people youre less likely to argue, but if you build actual relationships and communicate a lot, arguments are bound to happen. Not arguing with people you are actually close with seems unnatural, whether on the internet or in person.
I think it depends. I'm very logical and my brain likes to identify issues and cleanly solve them. Arguing in circles is a waste of time and energy. Basically, it's complicated. I think the nature and frequency of the arguments are important to get a better idea of OP's situation, that's why I asked.
So you’re saying I waste your time?? I thought you liked me!