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Is there a forum for people who are lonely and sad but specifically not incel sickos? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by _number8_ to c/asklemmy

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like you know you’re a good person at heart but life circumstances and trauma and bullying and etc prevented you from learning the proper social skills to find companionship. not necessarily a forum to actually find friends (i find going into things with that intention feels fake and weird), but rather a forum to commiserate and share advice and coping mechanisms and so on.

loneliness is increasing worldwide, esp in men. and it's very easy to get into the weeds on this of course...

happy fuckin holidays

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[–] dingus 19 points 1 year ago

I feel you, man. I had never been able to make connections in my entire life and so I always sought it out online.

A decade or so ago I was hitting up forums to interact with others. Now, I use Discord. A word of warning...Discord is primarily filled with young teens, which can feel a bit awkward and creepy if you're an adult. And I just don't relate to problems that teens do anymore like school and the like.

I specifically search for communities like 18+, 21+, 25+, etc. servers so I can relate to everyone more and feel more comfortable. There are some websites out there that provide listings of public Discord servers. So I generally google around until I find ones that look interesting and try them out. You might have to join quite a few until there is one that suits you, but I'd recommend it.