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In this case, I'm referring to the notion that we all make minor sacrifices in our daily interactions in service of a "greater good" for everyone.

"Following the rules" would be a simplified version of what I'm talking about, I suppose. But also keeping an awareness/attitude about "How will my choices affect the people around me in this moment? "Common courtesy", "situational awareness", etc...

I don't know that it's a "new" phenomenon by any means, I just seem to have an increasing (subjective) awareness of it's decline of late.

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[–] TheDarkKnight 29 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I hear you but is really that big of a deal? Out of all the many challenges in life, slow pedestrians affects maybe like 15-25 seconds of my day at most lol. Who cares if they trot or stroll?

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is the whole point of the post. Everyone should have an intrinsic desire to get out of each other's way, be courteous, be thoughtful of other's time, etc. The flip side is we ask our neighbors to be patient as we do our best in our day, and may have things slowing US down.

So the 1-2 punch is: be courteous to avoid bothering others, and be patient to understand that others are trying their best.

If everyone genuinely tries on both those topics, everyone feels pretty good about their public interactions.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When you work at a college you'd be amazed at how much time that takes up. Or kids just darting into the middle of a four way stop intersection on skateboards, or skating down the yellow line in the middle of the road. Or stepping out in front of a car without looking because they're heads are bent down looking at their phones (which also happens when they almost walk right into you on campus). Or the people who rev their engines and drive as fast as possible through parking garages to see how many car alarms they can set off. I saw that twice just last semester. Or every single day dodging the people who drive on the wrong side of the road in parking lots and garages because apparently they really need those lines to tell them what side to be on. Living in a major city is even worse. And it doesn't matter if the person deliberately runs out in front of you, it'll be your fault because you're the one in the car. At least in my state. Yeah, I'd say pedestrians are a great example.

[–] TheDarkKnight 4 points 1 year ago

Lol yeah I mean college pedestrians are the worst pedestrians by far, but that’s part of working at a college from my experience (as student and faculty).

[–] wilberfan 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In a larger sense, you're right of course--but it's another one of the "death by a thousand cuts" that I encounter every day...

[–] Crackhappy 7 points 1 year ago

Have you considered that it feels like this because of how you look at it? I used to feel like you do, aggravated at something that shouldn't be aggravating. It took a lot to realize that these little things are just that. Little.