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How would you deal with right wing parents? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 day ago by ieatmeat to c/asklemmy

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For some context, we are first generation immigrants. My parents are Russian, my mother and her husband have been living here for 20 years (even got rid of Russian citizenship couple years ago), my biological father is still living in Russia.

It's damn exhausting to discuss political topics with them, especially my father. He keeps telling me how great it is to live in Russia, how their economy is doing great and how he's proud that they are defending their "brothers" in Donezk and Luhansk from the evil bandera regime in Ukraine.

My mom voted far right in the past election. She doesn't believe she voted for nazis, but the party's views on economics, climate policy and immigration seem to align with hers. She believes wind farms are harmful for the environment. What the actual fuck.

Whenever I try to argue with them, they tell me that I've been brainwashed by "Western propaganda".

I'm at a loss. I love my parents and I know that nobody's immune to propaganda, but it's heartbreaking to see them holding these toxic beliefs. How would you deal with parents like these? Should I just declare to never talk about politics with them again since it's pointless?

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[–] jpreston2005 39 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

My therapist made a really great point when I brought up this exact issue with him. He asked if I value a relationship with my parents, and I said yes. Then he said that the price you have to pay for having a relationship with them, is never discussing politics.

It worked for a year or so, but then they voted for that rapist again, and I've since cut them out of my life. I'm not walking around on the eggshells of their bigotry and ignorance just so I can get some semblance of what some may describe as affection. You can only say/do so many shitty terrible things before I'm just done with you completely, and they hit their limit, so it was time to cash out.

Sorry, my advice of ignoring politics only works for a little while.

[–] khannie 6 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

If you don't mind me asking, how often did politics come up with your parents?

Edit: just for my own perspective, they came up a little with my father while he was still alive and very, very rarely with my mother who I still see daily. I gently gauge the political position that my kids have but I've raised them all with empathy as a central tenet of their upbringing so that's more or less where they tend to fall as best I can tell.

I am not interested in ending up where you did and I mean that with kindness.

[–] jpreston2005 3 points 1 hour ago

My parents have conservative talk radio and/or fox news on basically 24/7 in their house and car, so there was really nowhere I could escape their politics. I figured out that all their talk was BS, but could never convince my parents of anything. I could take a quote from their favorite host, and pair it alongside facts stating the opposite was true from an organization that they, themselves, were members of, and they still would dismiss me.

In reality, it's not the politics that got between us, it's that they're shitty people.

[+] nomoredrama -23 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

Rapist? You mean Bill Clinton? Or Biden, who showered with his 16 year old daughter?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Oh. Wow. Really stupid. I'm so sorry

[–] [email protected] -5 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Well, you do know Ol Bill was at Epstein Island sword fighting with Trump.

Good thing I didn't vote for either of them or Biden in 2024.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I'm gonna need to see the receipts on this one. Sounds like some 'pizza dungeon' tripe.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 14 hours ago

Clinton was impeached for, at best, getting busy with a staff member. Maybe you have a different opinion, but I have a hard time believing things would have gotten as far as it did publicly if what truly happened was just some banal impropriety. Oh my, he got a blowjob from a college aged staffer? I doubt there are many presidents who haven't. Why did this get far enough for immediate public knowledge?

Biden... before AI image generation took off, the magats made tons of compilations of pictures and videos of him making young girls obviously uncomfortable. Too much to just write off as coincidence or bad timing of photos. The bathing with his 16 year old daughter was from public statements made by the alleged victim, stating that it had happened.

Beyond all that, I have to get this off my chest: Y'all motherfuckers believe Epstein island is real (and it was), but you draw the line of believability at: "There's no possible way the global elite could have sex trafficking infrastructure in the area surrounding a common meeting location. They would never use such obvious code language around pizza and pizza toppings. You know, the code language that can be verified to have been used by pedos on 4chan in the clearnet and that's also been noted by darknet reseachers."

I'm not saying the trumptards were 3000% correct to target a specific business owner, or it was in any way OK to condemn by public opinion without any true investigation.

But you are certifiably insane if you somehow don't think that the elite have human trafficking services including heinously illegal and horrendous shit available at practically every port of call. That's basic fucking kompromat generation tactics that most intel orgs the world over would be chomping at the bit to support. Fuckers.

I know I keep my tinfoil hat nice and shiny on this shit, but of all the things to push back against, you choose "The fellows at the top are likely rapists"?