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Having multiple partners but everyone involved knows and is okay with it. I've more often heard it as "ethical polyamory."
not to be confused with "ethical polearmory" which is when u fight people with polearms thst have little soft baggies at the ends, sono one gets hurt :3
I assure you, a non-pointy stick can still hurt.
Unless you're talking about those giant foam q-tip things; Ive always wanted to try one of those!
Yeah it's really hard to design any polearm more complex than a spear to be safe for sparring with. And even those spears are nowhere near as safe as swords like rapiers or sabres. Or even longswords.
I've sparred with large poles with bits of pool noodles stuck to the end to simulate spear tips. It's very fun and fairly safe (as long as you're extra careful with any butt strikes). But it doesn't feel anywhere near as realistic as the rapier sparring we do.
I've sparred with Poles before, but Germans are more engaging.
Last time I checked, that's just called polyamory. The thing where they don't know is called cheating. We don't need a qualifier pushing a conservative narrative of what love is.
Poly means relationships, enm is just sex.
Isn't "open relationship/marriage" a term for that?
Yes, and also polyamory.
People like their little labels and they like having the one that makes them feel the specialist.
Hey bro, I went to school for years to become the specialist.
Yes. Some sluts like getting all autistic about how exactly they're fucking around.
Charts and diagrams and powerpoints about who puts it into whose hole and for what reason.
I don't know I've ever heard someone say "ethical polyamory". Not sure if that's a regional thing, but for folks learning, I've usually heard just polyamorous or poly.
Omg, but what if they weren't ethical?
Polyamory and ENM are two different things. Polyamory is a part of ENM but ENM is not polyamory. It's rectangles and squares stuff.
You can be ENM without any polyamory.
Mind giving a little more detail about the difference?
Ethical non-monogamy is any form of non-monogamy that everyone involved is okay with and consents to.
Examples:
Etc etc...
Polyamory is just one aspect of a much larger category.
Much appreciated. Thank you!