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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 month ago (9 children)

I sent this to a guy I've been talking to on a dating site, and he said that he doesn't eat pepperoni because it's "too spicy". I then found out that he lives exclusively on a diet of Lunchables, chicken tendies, pb&j, and cheese pizza. He's in his 40s. Should I run?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Does it bother you? If you all share meals, will you both be able to be accommodated? If it's something you do, will going out to eat be a problem? (And to be fair, most places have one or two things like chicken tenders for people that don't care for the cuisine their restaurant specializes in.)

Some people might see his diet as limiting. Some might see it as a win, "I will always know what to get him."

If he and you are open to it, you might both explore ways to help him branch out, like recreating some of the Lunchables he likes. If he likes those, see if you can mix it up a little.

Now if this guy is just not open to new things all together (aka it's not just limited to food... food aversions can't always be helped), I would be far more cautious. That says a lot more about his personality.

If the whole mess just seems like too much trouble (no judgement), I just wouldn't bother. Life is too short to be dating someone that does something fundamental you can't stand.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah, youre right. Food is my love language and I adore cooking for another person, so I don't think it's a good match. It's a shame because we click, and that doesn't come along often.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

In my opinion, (well technically not mine I’m going to link someone else’s) but, I have a hard time believing “love languages” exist.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I hope they take this advice instead of the "obviously run" advice below... There's nothing inherently wrong with having a limited diet.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It always fucks with me because in the US pepperoni is spicy salami while in Europe this is pepperoni:

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I remember reading somewhere it's referred to in Europe as "pepperoni-wurst" if you want to order something with it

[–] ziggurat 2 points 1 month ago

I've ordered a peperoni pizza in several countries in Europe and I've never herd this.

Würst is the German word for sausage, and while I can easily imagine Germans saying peperoni-würst, I can't imagine this being common outside of Germany.

Pepperoni is an Italian style sausage, where the word and branding was made by Italian immigrants in the US.

If you want to order a peperoni pizza in Europe, you might need to know what they call them there, even if they are excellent in speaking English.

In Italy you would order a salame pizza. In eastern Europe, without speaking the local language, I've had to order a sausage pizza, and in any country more influenced by American culture, peperoni pizza is what you order. I haven't ordered pizza in Germany, but I will probsbly do that now the next time.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

As a near-40-year-old male:

Fly you fools

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Help me rationalize this because he's otherwise a nice guy but his food pickiness makes me cringe

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

Is it possible he has undiagnosed ARFID? I had issues eating new things until I got on anxiety medication and had a similar (but not as extreme) diet.

[–] Plastic_Ramses 4 points 1 month ago

If hes that picky with food, hes probably unwilling to try new things and experiences.

[–] Okokimup 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Do you want kids? Do you want them to eat like that?

Do you want a partner who dies of a heart attack five years from now?

"Nice" is not a high bar to clear

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

My tubes are tied and I'm too old for that anyway, but the health concerns are valid.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

That’s not long-term partner material. He’s gonna have soooo many terrible health problems starting in his late 40s while you still want to do things that involve being mobile.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Run towards him maybe. Dude's living the dream, you could be sharing those lunchables

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

As someone who does not eat a large variety of foods; wtf? Does he have some kinda disorder?

[–] affiliate 0 points 1 month ago

don’t run. you can fix him