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Have you got any weird questions for the opposite gender? (lemy.lol)

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[–] j4k3 26 points 5 months ago (8 children)

Ladies, I'm partially physically disabled, stuck laying down 80% of the time, and rarely ever leave a home. Still in my 30's, but actually fit and don't look half bad by most accounts. However, I'll never get better physically. If there is someone out there for everyone, who is out there for me? Can you convince me to believe you, as I'm totally resigned to solitude.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 5 months ago

I truly hope you find someone mate.

Not a woman but I’m still gonna give you the only advice I can: never ever give up as that is the only option that has a guaranteed outcome. If you are as awesome in person as you seem, I’m both rooting for you and a believer in your future.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago

I'm a lesbian and my partner is also partially disabled. She manages her conditions but as far as we know, it's as good as it will get. (I have chronic issues too but I am typically mobile.)

We like to game together. We watch movies together. She also games with her friends and I go out and do other more physically demanding activities with my own friends. We like to discover new food and talk about politics.

We found that our sense of humor and morality aligns well and we enjoy each other's company. That and the fact that she was independent drew me to her.

Good luck out there.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago

You might be able to meet someone in a MMORPG. If not the escapism of creating a character and exploring a new world could be appealing.

[–] Zerlyna 12 points 5 months ago

I met my partner online a few years ago. He is 40’s but similar situation to you. Don’t give up.

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan 4 points 5 months ago

I'm a woman and this is pretty close to my entire life. After suffering a dog attack I can't really walk anymore and it's a struggle to do a lot of basic household tasks. I too was also pretty skeptical I would ever find a relationship, but it's been over two years with my girlfriend and she is wonderfully supportive. We divide up house work based around what I can do and is always checking in if I'm feeling up to doing something.

All I'm saying is you can't give up hope. Women exist who are okay with our situations, you'll find her sooner or later. :)

[–] moistclump 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

What have you tried? I think with therapy to come to peace and love yourself through it and then a really honest dating profile there’s lots of hope.

[–] j4k3 2 points 5 months ago

Thoracic spinal damage is rare. That is the area along the rib cage. Essentially, I'm unable to go anywhere and be "normal." I have tried to fake it at much cost to myself in the past, but I'm just not myself and come across as very awkward and unfocused. It is a mess as rather depressing to talk about the implications. I can't blame people who do not understand the real world complications.