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[โ€“] girltwink 31 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I like calling my trans gf a trap ๐Ÿ˜Œ

[โ€“] Zoboomafoo 46 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And she's OK with it, right?

[โ€“] girltwink 39 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Zoboomafoo 9 points 1 year ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

how often do you quote adrmial ackbar?

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago
[โ€“] Hawke 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

the link won't open for me ๐Ÿ˜”

[โ€“] Hawke 3 points 1 year ago

Maybe this? Iโ€™ve never posted an image to Lemmy before.

Prciness Leia

[โ€“] BrianTheeBiscuiteer 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you know it's a trap then it's called a "showdown".

[โ€“] girltwink 4 points 1 year ago

Based. Top4top is the most genuine and violent form of love.

[โ€“] Noodle07 2 points 1 year ago

She trapped your heart!

[โ€“] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

Hopefully they all have teeth as well.

[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Just want to comment on the "trap is ok/not ok debate."

It's totally cool if you or your partner(s) identity as a trap. As an older trans girl, being a trap was a badge of honor. It meant not only do you pass, but you're fucking hot. Almost like a trap/not trap distinction of attractiveness (which is also horribly misogynistic and demeaning), but it was a qualifier.

So I get it, part of me likes the idea of being called that - in a private, contextual sense. But the problem is the word and the connotation it has in the general zeitgeist, which implies that a trans person (typically a trans woman) "tricks" a man into having sex with her, and then deserves whatever happens to her, regardless of how dehumanizing it may be.

It is the horrible, completely unjustifiable rationale behind the Panic Defense, and that's why it is a term that needs to be buried. Continued use of it is an unconscious signal that trans women are perpetrating some kind of deception just by existing in a man's field of vision (if, of course, she comes close enough to cis white heteronormtive standards of beauty).

Be woke. Don't say trap (except in the bedroom. And then smack my ass a little ๐Ÿ˜‹).

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

What does it take to get to that point? It's not like people "tell" you.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

All three will also usually contain >3 grams of iron.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I think in a comic for example you can call someone a trap. Also if the person agrees thay can be called a trap if they like it. But dont just randomly call people slurs.

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

i am not capable of doing that iam FRAIL and WEAK and my arms are made out of SILLY STRING

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Shins are pretty week. You should be able to kick right through them with less force than needed to hold up your body.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

so THATS the original ive seen so many edits of this before lol
unless this is also an edit that just feels like it could be the original